FR - Anniversary Party

[Luke Skywalker]

After my PRIMING date, I went to an Anniversary Party, with my parents, and seated on the same table. I didn't go up to talk to anyone, or just felt overwhelmed to do anything.

There were some photos hanging up on the walls where a few girls went up to see them. I *could* have hung around where the photos were, and make comments of how 'romantic' the pictures looked to the girls if I was going to play flirting.

It was an absolute bust. Could not get myself to talk to anyone or more importantly flirt with anyone.

SOLUTION: - On furture anniversary parties, or any 'formal' type of party - carry a digital camera (with lots of photos) or some other prop to take pictures. A digital camera provides the 'push' or motivation to go out there and be more integrated with the party.

Idea, go up to a table, and say 'smile for the camera', and then ask the people who are simling where they are from, or who they are - but the point is, this prop may be a good ice-breaker in scenerios like that. Then if it is an HB tell them, you want to send email of the digital photos later, and ask for their email address and name. Then you can contact them by email later, and start talking and moving for a PRIMING date.

Other 'informal props' existed, but I was not attuned to them, such as the pictures hanging on the walls that some HB 7's were looking at.


The book, "How to Pick up Girls'", from Gabe Fishberg, I think mentions things like that, and I may consider purchasing this book. However, it goes without saying, a good prop is cool - and the main reason this failed, was I was not integrated into the party enough to feel socially fluid, and by having a prop like this, it makes that a bit easier to do.

 

[tmpgstx]

Well Luke my boy, think we just discovered why you not be gettin laid. Read what you wrote again. If you talk this way in your normal conversation with girls, it will instantiate no sexual feelings what-so ever.

Don't worry, i'm highly analytitcal too and had to learn this myself. Use your wit to your advantage by saying funny things or make interpretations that are interesting yet funny in your surrounding where you and said girl are.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Well Luke my boy, think we just discovered why you not be gettin laid. Read what you wrote again. If you talk this way in your normal conversation with girls, it will instantiate no sexual feelings what-so ever.

Don't worry, i'm highly analytitcal too and had to learn this myself. Use your wit to your advantage by saying funny things or make interpretations that are interesting yet funny in your surrounding where you and said girl are.

The problem here was I didn't talk to anyone at all, it just went bust. Only said 'hi how are you?' to maybe a few girls and that was it. A camera prop may have put some 'life' into it and make me more active within the party. The complaint here was I couldn't bring myself to do anything. I couldn't go up to different tables like an odd-ball, and start talking or shaking hands with HB's that were seated down in other groups.

There is maybe one chance to say something - a girl said she was from NYC, I asked which part, she said Queens - and then 30 minutes later it clicked, I could have made a pun on that and said 'oh, that's why you look like a Princess then - and pun it with Queens NYC'.

What I am saying, is stuff is clicking 30 minutes to an hour after the fact and not right away.
Maybe I'm not used to thinking witty, or looking for opportunities in the environment to make a sarcastic, or smart type of remark as it's not in my schema.

If you are analytical, I'd like to know how you improved yourself to the point you can make quick whitty statements or comments.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

Luke. I hate to tell you dude. But you are all messed up. I can tell. I used to be this way and somewhat worse than you. I am recovering... but the progress is slow.

My suggestion to you is: "Brainwashing."

You need to find out how to "brainwash" youself. Find out what you want to be like and get to it.

Get all that garbage out of your head dude. And quit being a ****ing martyr.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Luke. I hate to tell you dude. But you are all messed up. I can tell. I used to be this way and somewhat worse than you. I am recovering... but the progress is slow.

My suggestion to you is: "Brainwashing."

You need to find out how to "brainwash" youself. Find out what you want to be like and get to it.

Get all that garbage out of your head dude. And quit being a ****ing martyr.

What do you mean 'brainwashing'? You used to be like this? How are you now? What did you do? What did you read?

 

[Luke Skywalker]

I've ordered the Gabe Fishberg book, "HOw to Pick Up Girls" from the library. It mentioned something about 'wedding parties', and I'm going to review it when I get this book, and post what it says here. Hoping to get it a few days later.

 

[tmpgstx]

I'm gonna break it down to ya Luke. Here is how i got off that 'paralysis by analysis' rut. Because that's what it is isn't it? Too much thinking, keeps you from taking action. The problem of many highly intelligent guys (many of which are these forums btw).

More intelliegent people are often more perfectionists in one form or another. They can't *stand* it when things do not go as planned.

I for one will admit that i find myself trying to control what i can't control. The things i can control, i master.

By using techniques, you are trying to control the girls improvised feedback to you. If you do this, then you're thinking "she will like do this, and if not that, then go this route". It becomes a chess game, one which you can't control.

What you can control is yourself and self-improvement. What quality girls will find attractive that is to say, is you and your accomplishments and winning attitude. You need to show a little boldness though.

You decrease your rejections by bringing out those who are highly interested thru your body langauge and demeanor. You then approach and get knowing her and ask her out. You do not need to be fancy, most girls know what your're trying to do with canned techniques. It will only make you look more foolish to smarter girls (or non-shallow ones).

Keep your self-respect at all times and say what you want in a fun light-hearted manner. Pick something out to compliment her on that you know many people are not complimenting her on (but you can tell she wants compliments on). This is gold. Make her feel sexy sometimes. Make her feel smart other times. Mix it up and don't worry about responses.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

What you can control is yourself and self-improvement. What quality girls will find attractive that is to say, is you and your accomplishments and winning attitude. You need to show a little boldness though.

You are either going on a 'girl approach you first' basis, or you are sarging and trying to talk to women in an environment. Basically, this thread says, by adding a prop, it may have made it easier to approach women - and this prop may be further reinforced by Gabe Fishberg's work, the "How to Pick Up Girl's" book.

I also know various techniques to get a girl to approach you first, but unfortunately, at an anniversary party, that would require you giving a speech, or being part of the actual ceremonies - failing which, you have to rely on a prop, such as taking digital photos of all the people or something like that.

You decrease your rejections by bringing out those who are highly interested thru your body langauge and demeanor. You then approach and get knowing her and ask her out. You do not need to be fancy, most girls know what your're trying to do with canned techniques. It will only make you look more foolish to smarter girls (or non-shallow ones).

I'm not talking about rejections though. I'm talking about ice-breakers.
Like it or not, canned lines in use of my last priming date, helped my date laugh, relax and open up to me. If I didn't have those canned lines, it would never have been as remotely as effective.

Canned lines are good ice-breakers. If a girl is interested in you, and you cant break the ice or approach her because your mind is just thinking of what to say to the point 3 seconds pass through, then a canned lined approach may be best. The point is she's interested in you, shallow or not shallow, and if you cant talk to her, then it's a lose-lose frustrating scenerio, where I'm losing out on approaching a girl since I'm thinking about what to say, and she's thinks I'm not interested since I'm not acting like I am.

Keep your self-respect at all times and say what you want in a fun light-hearted manner. Pick something out to compliment her on that you know many people are not complimenting her on (but you can tell she wants compliments on). This is gold. Make her feel sexy sometimes. Make her feel smart other times. Mix it up and don't worry about responses.

Good tip. Sometimes things just dont click though. This is an anniversary party - so it already has a romantic theme. The "How to Succeed with Women" book, would allude to bringing up romantic themes when flirting, but does not in itself rely on canned lines as far as flirting is concerned (but of course, dating is another story).

The "How to PIck Up Girls" by Gabe Fishberg, sort of alludes that using 'Pick UP Lines' could work in terms of comic relief or as an aid to get a chuckle or laugh out of the prospect. Depending on how and when certain canned lines are said, it could really elicit laughter, especially on the backdrop of a serious personality such as myself - it would constrast with me creating an element of humour or surprise.

Anyway, that's my thoughts about it.

 

[Desdinova]

I went to an Anniversary Party, with my parents, and seated on the same table. I didn't go up to talk to anyone, or just felt overwhelmed to do anything.

I'm gonna tell you a dirty little secret of mine. I could NEVER sarge women with my parents around. It just wouldn't happen. I had my mother trying to land me a date with a waitress once, and it went completely fvcking wrong.

How often do you try to sarge women when you're around your parents? How often do you go out with your parents? Do you ever go anywhere by yourself?

 

[Luke Skywalker]

I'm gonna tell you a dirty little secret of mine. I could NEVER sarge women with my parents around. It just wouldn't happen. I had my mother trying to land me a date with a waitress once, and it went completely fvcking wrong.

How often do you try to sarge women when you're around your parents? How often do you go out with your parents? Do you ever go anywhere by yourself?

My mom introduces me to all her friends, including students that she taught in the past who work at the local grocery store.

Anyway, I go out with my mom practically most if not all the time, unless I'm going to my office, or meeting someone over the internet.

I do go for walks every day by myself though, but they are only 30 minutes.

Yeah, so that would make life easier to just write everything off because the folks are around, but the challenge is still there. I could have left the table where my parents were, and have gone anywhere in that room by myself. Sure, my parents are with me, but they dont go to the washroom with me, or they are not going to stop me if I were to approach a girl, right?

I still think, I'm going to read that book, "How to Pick Up Girls" by Gabe Fishberg, to confirm my suspiciouns, that a digital camera, may have helped saved this event to make it an effective sarge. If I had a speech prepared, and a good one, that may have been an even better job, as girls would be approaching me to compliment me on the speach.

Anyway...just my thoughts.

 

[Desdinova]

Anyway, I go out with my mom practically most if not all the time, unless I'm going to my office, or meeting someone over the internet.

I think this is your biggest problem. You're still sucking at the teat. You don't have any independence. It's time for you to quit sucking and start drinking milk from a glass.

Try going out places by yourself. Quit relying on your parents to provide opportunities for you and create your own.

I still think, I'm going to read that book, "How to Pick Up Girls" by Gabe Fishberg, to confirm my suspiciouns, that a digital camera, may have helped saved this event to make it an effective sarge.

Who??? Why are you buying all these money-making books? You see that link at the bottom of your page that says "DJ Bible"? That book is free, and it's full of great stuff!

BTW, the digital camera bit was modified by a guy named "Mystery". If you're gonna buy more books, go buy "The Game" by Neil Strauss or "Double Your Dating" by David Deangelo.

Also, a book confirms nothing. You have to see it work for yourself to confirm anything. All the stuff in Gabe Fishhead's book could me made up for all you know.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

What do you mean 'brainwashing'? You used to be like this? How are you now? What did you do? What did you read?

Read?!!!!

I read for interest. **** reading for picking up chicks! It does not work! Doing what feels right works! There you go jumping in.

And the problem was that I felt nothing. No real drive to get the *****es. Well now it is returning. Wanna know what the problem is? Its part psychological and part physiological. I was setting myself up to fail. Inexperience breeds fear. And also going to the gym helps boost my drive. More testosterone and such.


I use brainwashing in the form of affirmations. I use very simple ones. Like "I always give 100%". I record that in a calm clear voice and just play it over and over on my iPod all day. It jacks me up. I didn't notice a difference at firt, but as long as you play it over and over and relax.. you accept it and it burrows inside your mind. (supposedly after around 21 days it should have effects staring to appear.)

Try it. I can give you a little more info on the proper creatin of affirmatiuons so they have a full positive effect.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

Anyway, I go out with my mom practically most if not all the time, unless I'm going to my office, or meeting someone over the internet.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!! EEEEEEEEVILLLLLL!

Stay away !!



HOLY ****!!

You got to fix this problem now!! Why the hell you chillin with your mom? You should be chillin with those hotties you meet at the coffe shops and at parties. Is hanging with your mom going to get your d!ck wet? (Please say no)




Solution: Move the **** out.