As I'm going on so many dates these days I decided I'm going to start contributing more field reports. On one hand, other guys here might learn from what I'm doing right, on the other, I'm hoping some of you may be able to point out where I'm going wrong.
Anyway, I've been speaking to a girl from POF the past 2 weeks. She was new to the site and she was the one who initiated conversation with me. Not only was she hot and easy to chat to, she had never done net dating before and seemed different to the usual POF serial daters.
We arranged a date in her city, about 2 hours away from me. She admitted to being scared about meeting me and felt more comfortable on her own turf. I had no problem with that.
She met me at the train station and we greeted each other with a polite peck on the cheek. She told me how relieved she was that I was who I claimed to be. She was just as hot as her pictures and her initial vibes towards me seemed positive.
We went for a drink nearby and conversation flowed naturally. Very naturally as a matter of fact. The past few dates I've been on have felt very robotic, almost like a questions and answers session or formulaic conversations. I found those dates quite boring and I'm sure the girls did too. This time it felt different. She got my dry sense of humour and I got hers, and within an hour we were laughing and had a great rapport going. I neg hit her a few times, adding a touch of c+f, all in the right context and quantity. I really felt like I was back on form and everything was just flowing perfectly. I realise that when you're on a date, your instincts can tell you a lot. In some cases (as with my last few dates), conversation can feel laboured and lifeless, you start thinking about the "right" things to say, about how you should be sitting or behaving etc, but then in other cases, everything just happens so effortlessly and you can just relax and be yourself.
So, after an hour in this bar she suggested we visit a nature park nearby. It was a really beautiful place and we walked by a lake, got some ice cream and sat watching the sun go down. Although very tempted, I held back from kissing her and I also curbed the sexual talk for the time being, as it was still so soon into the date. Besides, things were going well and I had decided to let this date take its natural course rather than trying to force things to happen - something that tends to backfire on a lot of dates.
We went from there to some historical sites, stopped for a drink and a chat at a quaint old bar where we sat outside and continued talking. I told her some stories and anecdotes and I encouraged her to speak about herself, her interests and achievements and really showed interest in what she was telling me. We got talking about deja vu, the occult and dreams, and I told her about a really beautiful dream I had some years ago. She told me she was so gripped and quite moved by my telling of it. It was obvious by now she was really into me. I was getting such positive vibes and she told me what a great day she'd had with me and how well she thought we clicked. I still hadn't found my opportunity to kiss her, but I had started raising the sexual tension a little. I brought up some of the naked photos she'd sent to me a few days ago and told her it was good to see she matched up. She got a little embarrassed and we laughed about how much bolder you feel sending these pics or sexual texts, but how much more tense it is when you meet in person. She took it in good fun and I let the subject drop before it got uncomfortable.
Unfortunately it was getting late and my last train was due in 30 mins. We decided to go to another bar along the way to the station. We sat next to each other on a cosy sofa and she repeated how she was having such a good time with me and told me she didn't want the date to end. She very apprehensively invited me to stay over at her place. She said she was worried about offering as it might sound too forward and scare me off. Naturally I took her up on the offer. We finished our drinks and had a nice walk back to her appartment, where we chilled out on the sofa, watched TV and continued talking.
I decided I'd held back long enough so I stopped her mid conversation and leaned in and kissed her. She reciprocated passionately. When we eventually broke apart I told her I wanted to do that all day. She replied that she'd been wanting me to kiss her all day too.
We cuddled up together on the sofa, nice and cosy. I kissed her again, only this time it went much further. I started kissing her neck and grabbing her ass, she removed my shirt and in summary, we got down and had sex there on the sofa and on the floor. Unfortunately, this was one part of the date that was not so perfect. I hadn't eaten all day, I'd been awake since 5am and was feeling sleep deprived, and I didn't perform as good as I usually would and after no more than 15 minutes of fast and hard fvcking, I was going soft and a bit lightheaded and had to stop and get some water. She didn't complain though and told me she'd been satisfied.
She invited me to sleep in her bed. We ended up chatting for an hour more, despite being so tired. It was as if neither of us wanted the day to end. She cuddled upto me throughout the night.
The next day I woke with a headache and feeling really drained. I was hoping we might be able to pick up where we left off last night and have a rampant sex session, but I wasn't upto it and never even tried. I feel like this may have cost me as I wasn't able to show her my sexual prowess and if she's judging me by first impressions (and most women do) then I fear I have portrayed myself as a great friend and companion, but not a particularly wild lover. Conversation and rapport were all good the next day, but when I left, I was intending to kiss her goodbye, but all I got was a mere hug and a casual goodbye.
My instincts tell me that was not good and I shouldn't expect to see her again. I am just speculating about blowing the date with my below average sexual performance, but something really didn't feel right when we left. It really was the perfect date up to that point, and there's no doubt in my mind that her interest was sky high. Unfortunately, first impressions count for a lot and those little mistakes or shorcomings can really cost you during those early stages of dating.
That said, I've encountered this same situation a few times before and it seems that when women put out or come on strong during a first date, they often turn cold immediately after. Perhaps I should've caught my train instead of going back to her place and ended on a high, but it's too late now. My plan is to wait a few days before contacting her and when I do, just try to keep things cool so she doesn't feel overwhelmed.
Even if things go no further, I had a really fantastic day that I can add to my mental album and remember fondly in years to come. What's more, I felt like I was back on form and believe I learned a few things along the date - including to sleep well the night before and make sure to eat throughout the day.
Anyway, I've been speaking to a girl from POF the past 2 weeks. She was new to the site and she was the one who initiated conversation with me. Not only was she hot and easy to chat to, she had never done net dating before and seemed different to the usual POF serial daters.
We arranged a date in her city, about 2 hours away from me. She admitted to being scared about meeting me and felt more comfortable on her own turf. I had no problem with that.
She met me at the train station and we greeted each other with a polite peck on the cheek. She told me how relieved she was that I was who I claimed to be. She was just as hot as her pictures and her initial vibes towards me seemed positive.
We went for a drink nearby and conversation flowed naturally. Very naturally as a matter of fact. The past few dates I've been on have felt very robotic, almost like a questions and answers session or formulaic conversations. I found those dates quite boring and I'm sure the girls did too. This time it felt different. She got my dry sense of humour and I got hers, and within an hour we were laughing and had a great rapport going. I neg hit her a few times, adding a touch of c+f, all in the right context and quantity. I really felt like I was back on form and everything was just flowing perfectly. I realise that when you're on a date, your instincts can tell you a lot. In some cases (as with my last few dates), conversation can feel laboured and lifeless, you start thinking about the "right" things to say, about how you should be sitting or behaving etc, but then in other cases, everything just happens so effortlessly and you can just relax and be yourself.
So, after an hour in this bar she suggested we visit a nature park nearby. It was a really beautiful place and we walked by a lake, got some ice cream and sat watching the sun go down. Although very tempted, I held back from kissing her and I also curbed the sexual talk for the time being, as it was still so soon into the date. Besides, things were going well and I had decided to let this date take its natural course rather than trying to force things to happen - something that tends to backfire on a lot of dates.
We went from there to some historical sites, stopped for a drink and a chat at a quaint old bar where we sat outside and continued talking. I told her some stories and anecdotes and I encouraged her to speak about herself, her interests and achievements and really showed interest in what she was telling me. We got talking about deja vu, the occult and dreams, and I told her about a really beautiful dream I had some years ago. She told me she was so gripped and quite moved by my telling of it. It was obvious by now she was really into me. I was getting such positive vibes and she told me what a great day she'd had with me and how well she thought we clicked. I still hadn't found my opportunity to kiss her, but I had started raising the sexual tension a little. I brought up some of the naked photos she'd sent to me a few days ago and told her it was good to see she matched up. She got a little embarrassed and we laughed about how much bolder you feel sending these pics or sexual texts, but how much more tense it is when you meet in person. She took it in good fun and I let the subject drop before it got uncomfortable.
Unfortunately it was getting late and my last train was due in 30 mins. We decided to go to another bar along the way to the station. We sat next to each other on a cosy sofa and she repeated how she was having such a good time with me and told me she didn't want the date to end. She very apprehensively invited me to stay over at her place. She said she was worried about offering as it might sound too forward and scare me off. Naturally I took her up on the offer. We finished our drinks and had a nice walk back to her appartment, where we chilled out on the sofa, watched TV and continued talking.
I decided I'd held back long enough so I stopped her mid conversation and leaned in and kissed her. She reciprocated passionately. When we eventually broke apart I told her I wanted to do that all day. She replied that she'd been wanting me to kiss her all day too.
We cuddled up together on the sofa, nice and cosy. I kissed her again, only this time it went much further. I started kissing her neck and grabbing her ass, she removed my shirt and in summary, we got down and had sex there on the sofa and on the floor. Unfortunately, this was one part of the date that was not so perfect. I hadn't eaten all day, I'd been awake since 5am and was feeling sleep deprived, and I didn't perform as good as I usually would and after no more than 15 minutes of fast and hard fvcking, I was going soft and a bit lightheaded and had to stop and get some water. She didn't complain though and told me she'd been satisfied.
She invited me to sleep in her bed. We ended up chatting for an hour more, despite being so tired. It was as if neither of us wanted the day to end. She cuddled upto me throughout the night.
The next day I woke with a headache and feeling really drained. I was hoping we might be able to pick up where we left off last night and have a rampant sex session, but I wasn't upto it and never even tried. I feel like this may have cost me as I wasn't able to show her my sexual prowess and if she's judging me by first impressions (and most women do) then I fear I have portrayed myself as a great friend and companion, but not a particularly wild lover. Conversation and rapport were all good the next day, but when I left, I was intending to kiss her goodbye, but all I got was a mere hug and a casual goodbye.
My instincts tell me that was not good and I shouldn't expect to see her again. I am just speculating about blowing the date with my below average sexual performance, but something really didn't feel right when we left. It really was the perfect date up to that point, and there's no doubt in my mind that her interest was sky high. Unfortunately, first impressions count for a lot and those little mistakes or shorcomings can really cost you during those early stages of dating.
That said, I've encountered this same situation a few times before and it seems that when women put out or come on strong during a first date, they often turn cold immediately after. Perhaps I should've caught my train instead of going back to her place and ended on a high, but it's too late now. My plan is to wait a few days before contacting her and when I do, just try to keep things cool so she doesn't feel overwhelmed.
Even if things go no further, I had a really fantastic day that I can add to my mental album and remember fondly in years to come. What's more, I felt like I was back on form and believe I learned a few things along the date - including to sleep well the night before and make sure to eat throughout the day.
), and it seems too much for an interested woman to hold back. I am not saying this woman seems perfect, but this fact alone certainly doesn't seem like something to hold against her.