"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FR: A day of social proportions + advice needed

ElStud

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Well today, I basically tried to be more social and talk to more people and yeah, that's basically what I did today. For instance I just started to saying "Hey" to more people and talking to more people. I think the first real conversation I had was with this set during band. Then later during lunch I just went up to random dudes tables and talked to them, as well as talking to my friends. One of the girls from this one table said "Hey" to me, but I just ignored her and moved on to which she laughed. My second lunch, I just chatted up with a bunch of people. When I chatted up with one group of dudes, something funny happened which I would use to open girls. So later I confidently go up to this table of girls, who I know already and say something along the lines of "Funniest thing ever just happened. So I'm sitting at this table with my friends and we're talking about Winter Formal and so I guess I say something funny and one of the dudes is laughing so hard he spits his Pepsi halfway across the table". One girl was all like "That never happened" or some BS inbetween, but I ignored that because I took it as a sh*t. Blah blah, that happens and I eventually close the set. From that set I go on to talk to more of my friends. Then I went up to this one table of girls using the same opener and while most of the table seems to be ignoring me, I got one particular girls attention. I eventually find out her name is Lizzie, blah blah, tell her my name is Mike and leave the set.

Now for what I need advice on. Now that I've socialized with all these people today, what should I do tommorow? Should I just keep going up to the same people and just get to know them better? I wonder. My ultimate plan is just to become friends with a lot of people and just become really social. Popularity wouldn't be that bad.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

ezily

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are you in hs or college? I have to say that if you are in college you're going to get a lot of cold shoulders if your school is big. It just looks and seems weird to see a guy walking around talking to a bunch of different people. However, if you are in hs or a small college I don't think it'll hurt. More people will probably recognize you. I would suggest not overdoing and looking like you're out to impress random people. There are more ways to meet people as opposed to random walking in to others. I think you need to make conversations more natural and find people through friends if you really want to get to know people.
 

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ezily said:
are you in hs or college? I have to say that if you are in college you're going to get a lot of cold shoulders if your school is big. It just looks and seems weird to see a guy walking around talking to a bunch of different people. However, if you are in hs or a small college I don't think it'll hurt. More people will probably recognize you. I would suggest not overdoing and looking like you're out to impress random people. There are more ways to meet people as opposed to random walking in to others. I think you need to make conversations more natural and find people through friends if you really want to get to know people.
Not really, people actually see that as social proof(Remember, when people see you talking to a bunch of other people, they don't know if they're your friends or not. But generally, if you're getting good reactions from those people, they'll assume you know them) and I'm not trying to impress anyone, I socialize simply for the fact that that's what I am, a social guy. And think about it what if you were a guy with no friends, how would you make friends? You would talk to random people and make friends with them.
 
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