"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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FR: 3 Near Pulls: So Frustrating Help!

hisstory

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I missed 3 easy pulls last weekend, and it was so frustrating. It was frustrating after the fact, not as it was happening, as I had a constant flow of girls coming to me, but as I was evaluating each, I lost all three. Here's what went down:


First girl: tall hot blonde:


This girl had a thin body, over 6' tall, stiletto heels, and approached me at the bar, standing uncomfortably close to me. I knew she was down. I start chatting her up, and she is going along with everything I'm saying. I tell her she is swedish, she is this that, and she agrees with everything. She is comfortable with the kino I try. I make a mistake and go for the number after like a minute and a half lol, and that puts a damper on things, and I leave the bar, slightly embarrassed.

Second girl: very cute blonde:

Actually, this chick was actually pointing me out at the bar and gossiping to her girlfriend about me as soon as she saw me. She disappeared into the crowd, but I caught up with her at the end of the night...

Third girl: hot brunette:

I decide to bounce to another bar, and see what's up. It's horrible. As I leave, a hot tall brunette opens me right on the street. It's about 1:30 AM and she asks: "where's the after party at?" She is a single girl with a boyfriend/girlfriend couple.

Now, if I had any awareness at all, I could have done the match: single girl, 1:30 AM, approaches me right on the street. She must be down. Yet, I take the question literally, and start chatting up her friends! My friend chats her up, and she bails, not getting what she wants!

Back to blonde girl:

I make my way back to the first bar and see the girl outside who was pointing at me earlier. She's talking to some scrubby looking guy. I figure she must be waiting for some opportunity to hook it up, as this guy looks like he has just crawled out of a trash container.

I approach her and ask her some lame question about where I've seen her before (obviously a half hour earlier). She squeezes my hand as we speak, and I just get nervous and bail.

It was horrible, man. Yeah, I did just get out a relationship and I was thinking about my ex and comparing girls to her, but sh!t as I was shopping in the candy store, I forgot to take some candy home!

Help me be more aware, guys.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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neghitzbrah

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You're coming off way to desperate, that you aren't even thinking. It takes time.

In the meantime, read the DJ bible and the Game.
 

Mike32ct

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You are getting some moderate to strong interest from girls. It sounds like you have a lot of potential in this game. I suspect you are good looking or at least tall and/or built. I would not be discouraged at all.

You need to work on being more aware of opportunities like the after party scenario while simultaneously not giving a sh$t about the outcome. It's easier said than done.

Your weakness is being too needy at times and naive other times. That's totally common and fixable. We've all been there.
 
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