FR: 3 Approaches Today

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

Hey Guys, I visited the park with a few of my buddies and decided to make a few approaches after having a tough day at soccer. Here they are:

Approach 1:
A girl is playing tennis with her friend and I decide to get my friend on the court next to her. We hit the ball back and forth, me keeping a glance on the chicks on the next court. One girl is having a good time fooling around with her friend, playing badly btw.

Me: Giggles.
Girl: What's so funny?
Me: I am no expert on tennis, but I think on the serve the ball has to go in that box thing for it to count.
Girl: Yeah, I know. I am not very good. Care to show me how it's done?
Me: (Grinning with a smirk). Yeah. I'll give ya a free lesson . (I hit the ball on the diagonally box with a fast pace).
Girl: Good Shot. Seems like your a good athlete. My name is Nicole.
Me: My name is Mike. This is my friend Chris.
Girl: Hi Mike. This is also my friend Sarah.
Chris: Hey Sarah.
Me: How would you guys like to play some doubles. I would enjoy Nicole, you be on my team. Sarah, how bout you play with Chris.
Girl: Ok.

And we have a good time playing tennis for a little bit until it got too hot to play. That was a successful approach and should have been number closed...My bad there fellas.

Approach 2:
I see a girl sitting on a blanket watching a group of guys play some pick-up basketball. I decide to approach confidentally.

Me: Hey there. My name is Mike. (Stick out my hand)
Girl: Hey Mike. My name is Christi.
Me: How is the game. Why you deciding not to join in?
Girl: Well its a little too rough out there for me.
Me: Yeah, you seem like your an athletic girl that can take a few hits, haha.
Girl: Yeah, I am. What sports do you play?
Me: Soccer, bowling, and tennis. How about you?
Girl: I do soccer, volleyball and track.
Me: How is track. I did that and let's just say I got my a$$ kicked every single race, lol.
Girl: Haha, me too. But it's good to keep you in shape.
Me: I bet I could beat you in a race though! (with a smirk)
Girl: No way Mike. I would totally beat you.
Me: Haha, maybe we will have to decide that one day. How would you like to join me for some food one day? (I take out my phone and get rdy for the close)
Girl: Haha, sounds good Mike. Here is my number. (Says her number to me).
Me: Now, I am gonna call you 20 times a day, and show up on your doorstep with some flowers like any great guy would...
Girl: (Laughs) No you won't.
Me: I know (laughing) Well Christi, it was nice meeting you. Talk to you soon.
Girl: Bye.

I get up and leave. Four hours later, and I still ahve not called. 1/2 thus far.

Approach 3:

I see a girl going for a walk with her other friend and I decide to make some conversation with them. I walk up to them

Me: You guys are tired already?? A Marathon is 26 miles and is timed, it's not a leisure, easy-going event!!
Girl: (a little laugh). No we are just going for an easy walk.
Me: Yeah, it is a nice day out. My name is Mike. And you nice ladies are...
Girl: My name is Alex. And this is Mary.
Me: Hi Alex. Hey Mary. (I spot which one I like and its Mary. She had better than the other one, and I give a try to isolate her from Alex).
Girls: Hey Mike.
Me: Um Alex, can you excuse Mary and I for a quick second. I would like to have a quick chat with her?
Alex: Well, I don't know. I don't think she wants to.
Me: How bout we let her decide for herself. (I say this nicely to show I am not a prick).
Mary: Well Mike, I would. But, it doesn't seem Alex wants to me to.
Me: Well okay. Here is my number if you decide if you would like to chill with a handsome, fun guy like me. (with a smile)
Mary: Ok. Well I'll give it some thought. I'll see you later.
Alex: Bye.
Me: Bye ladies.

I do not know what went wrong there, but looks like I did the isolation thing wrong. Solid though.

Any thoughts, advice, criticism--is welcome!

 

[ElStud]

These were pretty good. But in the 2nd approach you both did soccer! It's odd that you or her didn't notice that or even talk about it.

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

Yeah, that is a good point. I did track my first two years of high school, so I decided to throw one of those "real-life experience" stories in there to add some humor--I might have lowered my value there, because I Did switch to tennis for a reason. But yeah, good point. I did 2 successful approaches today and I am proud of myself. Any other good points, tips, or advice guys?

 

[WesCottII]

On number three, Idda worked it more, gaining rapport and trust before trying to isolate and close. You just seemed to go for it abit quick.

Rest went well, props.

 

[Man Man]

Nice work man. Yeah for the isolation thing you have to talk to them a bit more before you try it. If you try to isolate them when they don't know anything about you you'll probably just creep them out

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

Awesome on the first 2, the 3rd was a little rushed, but hey keep doing that stuff you're really good for your first set of approaches.

 

[Lust]

Well done mate, good to see you get out there.

Alright, here we go.

Approach 1:
A girl is playing tennis with her friend and I decide to get my friend on the court next to her. We hit the ball back and forth, me keeping a glance on the chicks on the next court. One girl is having a good time fooling around with her friend, playing badly btw.

Me: Giggles.
Girl: What's so funny?
Me: I am no expert on tennis, but I think on the serve the ball has to go in that box thing for it to count.
Girl: Yeah, I know. I am not very good. Care to show me how it's done?
Me: (Grinning with a smirk). Yeah. I'll give ya a free lesson . (I hit the ball on the diagonally box with a fast pace).
Girl: Good Shot. Seems like your a good athlete. My name is Nicole.
Me: My name is Mike. This is my friend Chris.
Girl: Hi Mike. This is also my friend Sarah.
Chris: Hey Sarah.
Me: How would you guys like to play some doubles. I would enjoy Nicole, you be on my team. Sarah, how bout you play with Chris.
Girl: Ok.

And we have a good time playing tennis for a little bit until it got too hot to play. That was a successful approach and should have been number closed...My bad there fellas.

Fark man! The only thing you did wrong was NOT number close. She definitely was interested, anything would have done nicely "Hey, how bout you shoot me your number and I'll give you a couple more lessons sometime?"

Approach 2:
I see a girl sitting on a blanket watching a group of guys play some pick-up basketball. I decide to approach confidentally.

Me: Hey there. My name is Mike. (Stick out my hand)
Girl: Hey Mike. My name is Christi.
Me: How is the game. Why you deciding not to join in?
Girl: Well its a little too rough out there for me.
Me: Yeah, you seem like your an athletic girl that can take a few hits, haha.
Girl: Yeah, I am. What sports do you play?
Me: Soccer, bowling, and tennis. How about you?
Girl: I do soccer, volleyball and track.
Me: How is track. I did that and let's just say I got my a$$ kicked every single race, lol.
Girl: Haha, me too. But it's good to keep you in shape.
Me: I bet I could beat you in a race though! (with a smirk)
Girl: No way Mike. I would totally beat you.
Me: Haha, maybe we will have to decide that one day. How would you like to join me for some food one day? (I take out my phone and get rdy for the close)
Girl: Haha, sounds good Mike. Here is my number. (Says her number to me).
Me: Now, I am gonna call you 20 times a day, and show up on your doorstep with some flowers like any great guy would...
Girl: (Laughs) No you won't.
Me: I know (laughing) Well Christi, it was nice meeting you. Talk to you soon.
Girl: Bye.

I get up and leave. Four hours later, and I still ahve not called. 1/2 thus far.

Ok this was good, you kept it light and fun. The only thing I would suggest is to stick around for a minute or so after you get the close, so it doesn't seem like all you want is her number and the only reason you came to talk to her was so you could get some tail.

Approach 3:

I see a girl going for a walk with her other friend and I decide to make some conversation with them. I walk up to them

Me: You guys are tired already?? A Marathon is 26 miles and is timed, it's not a leisure, easy-going event!!
Girl: (a little laugh). No we are just going for an easy walk.
Me: Yeah, it is a nice day out. My name is Mike. And you nice ladies are...
Girl: My name is Alex. And this is Mary.
Me: Hi Alex. Hey Mary. (I spot which one I like and its Mary. She had better than the other one, and I give a try to isolate her from Alex).
Girls: Hey Mike.
Me: Um Alex, can you excuse Mary and I for a quick second. I would like to have a quick chat with her?
Alex: Well, I don't know. I don't think she wants to.
Me: How bout we let her decide for herself. (I say this nicely to show I am not a prick).
Mary: Well Mike, I would. But, it doesn't seem Alex wants to me to.
Me: Well okay. Here is my number if you decide if you would like to chill with a handsome, fun guy like me. (with a smile)
Mary: Ok. Well I'll give it some thought. I'll see you later.
Alex: Bye.
Me: Bye ladies.

I do not know what went wrong there, but looks like I did the isolation thing wrong. Solid though.

Ok, I'm not going to sugarcoat it. This one was horrible. You may not think so, but from my perspective it was. You didn't build enough attraction, and you tried to isolate a 2-set. You can't isolate two girls, they won't come with you, they'll feel guilty about leaving the other girl by themselves.

Here's what you do, you turn this 2-set into a 3-set by getting your buddy in there, so that when you isolate your target, your buddy can keep her friend company.

Overall, this was good, you are doing a lot better than most on this site. You don't screw around and make closing a big deal, there are a lot of guys here that go to the mall by themselves and make 20 or so approaches without getting a number, the way you're doing it is good. You keep it fun, IT HAS TO BE FUN. It can't be seen as a chore.

One thing though, I have a feeling you're just wingin it, you need to read the bible mate, other than that, keep up the good work.

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

Thanks for the replies.

To ManMan: Yeah I agree. I should of built more rapport and then maybe tried to isolate them. It was tough and I broke down bigtime when her friend kinda rushed to her rescue. Once she did that, I was kinda screwed and I knew it. Hey you win some, you lose some.

To Sheltem Alamar: Exactly agree. It was rushed. Same as above. ^^

To Lust: Hey man. Thanks for your positive points and criticism. I take critism seriously as a way of trying to get better. Yeah, I should have number closed the first one, that was the best interest all day. The second one was good also and I did not stick out and close. I felt like I was gonna get the heII out of there and keep going on my day. Yeah, I am winging it in a way. I am using only a few techniques from this site and I try to be myself when I approach. I don't try to cold approach or use openers, only negs and some ****y and funny which I always used and never really knew it was a technique. Yeah, I just try to lay off the "canned material" because I just try to keep to what I like to do and try to make it fun. Any other advice can you give throug hthe Bible and you can think of off the top of your head?