"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FR: 2 approachs in the city including the "Is Porn Real?" approach!

Agent Zero

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Ok, this first approach is pretty non-descript, but the 2nd one I call the "is porn real?" approach.

I was in the city today and I was dressed in a suit walking towards the subway and this cute Japanese lady comes up from behind and asks me where the subway is so I tell her. Keep her in mind later on for approach 2.

First approach: I am underground waiting for the train to come and it's kinda crowded and I am leaning against the rail thing. I see this pretty hot girl in her late 20s looking for a place to wait for the train and she also leans against the rail thing next to me. It was kinda crowded so you can't know if she intentionally got next to me, but you can't think about that kinda thing. I wait a minute and it's hot so she starts using her folder as a fan. So I comment and say "it's hot as hell down here" and she says how it's not hot outside and I agree, then she tells me she thinks it's hot cause we are near a water tank or some **** and it's humid. If I had my own place near the city right now I'd probably go for a name/number close, but I just let it end. We both got on the same train and I'm pretty sure she was checking me out, but I'm never in this area so I didn't bother.

2nd approach: This is the interesting one :) I get off the subway and I then see that same lady who had asked me where the subway is. She was looking at a map so just as I am about to walk past her behind her, I say "what are you looking for?" just to be friendly and help. And she tells me the mall she is looking for and so I tell her the subway doesn't go there and we start walking and talking and she is thinking about taking the bus, but not really sure and I'm not really sure how to get there on public transit. So getting close to the parking lot, I say "I can give you a ride, it's on my way, if you are comfortable with that." She agrees. So we go out to my car and she says "nice car" and gives me a ******* (no lol I am kidding about the *******). She gets in the car and we ride probably for 20 minutes just chatting and stuff. She says she is too old for me, and I try to say she isn't. She said something like "your girlfriend should...." so I had to tell her I had no girl.

So then I drop her off at the mall and she says like "I should probably ask you out now, but you're too young for me." so I tell her she isn't too young, then she's like "I'm 40" and I'm like "that's no problem", but then she says she is a lesbian (she was lying though, I think she was kidding). It wasn't like we were arguing though cause I wasn't trying to hook up with her, just practicing and we were both saying that stuff jokingly.

So I was just thinking if I can meet a girl for 5 minutes and get her to ride in my car, imagine how many women you can have if you just put in some effort. Also it's easier for me in the city, I don't feel I'm being judged or anything since everyone is different ages and I felt pimp wearing a suit. I know some people might say some cute woman used me for a ride, but I don't care about that cause meeting random cute women is so much fun and when I have my own place and job near the city I can easily start picking up women like that. That was my best approach ever even though I didn't even get any action or try for any action. Sexuality is natural, guys, I don't mention anything sexual, but there is still gonna be sexual tension like her asking if I had a girlfriend and before leaving obviously had to address that she wasn't planning to hook-up even though I never asked. She was visiting from NYC, BTW.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonJoseCantosie

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I think the porn flick you speak of is "Blind Date Bangers" :p

But, i'm liking the sexual tension u had with the 40 year old japanese woman. A good thing to tell a girl who's older than you is after she says, "But your too young for me" "Well...wine tastes better with age" And thus it works out in both favors, yea...your younger but you like older women.

The first girl i bet was checking you out, she prolly just didn't want you to know that. Use the nice clothes u got to ur advantage ;-)

Your situational is getting better and they are typically the hardest to do, because it forces u to improvise/think on the fly.

I await ur progress further man, and good job in NYC...i heard it was one of the hardest places to game since people are always on a rush.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SamePendo

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My oh my. I leave for a while and this happens.

She was a stranger. She just met you. She agreed to get into your car. She's from NY. But due to her saying something about being too old, you decided to listen to her? If she was more straightforward towards you, she'd be a goodlooking transvestite.

Nod, say whatever comes to mind, and close. Number close, kiss close, fvck close, whatever, always do some kind of close.
 
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