"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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'Foundations' of relationships

Kourt

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So my girl is unhappy because she doesn't think our relationship has a foundation. How do you go about creating a foundation, or fixing a lack of it? I'm not really sure what to do or if there really is anything to do.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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flyinshark

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Your girl is unhappy on the emotional level. I bet you guys aren't really in love, or maybe you love her but she doesn't have as strong a vibe towards you.

In my opinion, a foundation is composed of a mix of things, which include: mutual love, mutual physical attraction, similar interests and hobbies, or completing each other in all other areas where you seem to be divergent.

Do you guys have some of those things i mentioned?
 

frivolousz21

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foundation= being tied together.
as in you couldnt or wouldnt be able to walk away and your life is instantly fine
 
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