"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thatonekid92

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I've been talking to this girl online who I haven't met yet, my issue is not being "Catfished", but she REALLY likes me. Constantly messages me, we have great conversations, loves talking to me and is very open. For what it's worth, we've skyped via video. She is real

However, on her facebook there is a pic of her that was put up today that shows her kissing a guy. When I asked her about it she just told me it was her brothers friend who they've know forever and it was "Just a peck".

Should I cut the contact now? Or is it really no big deal.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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thunder_god

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Thatonekid92 said:
I've been talking to this girl online who I haven't met yet, my issue is not being "Catfished", but she REALLY likes me. Constantly messages me, we have great conversations, loves talking to me and is very open. For what it's worth, we've skyped via video. She is real

However, on her facebook there is a pic of her that was put up today that shows her kissing a guy. When I asked her about it she just told me it was her brothers friend who they've know forever and it was "Just a peck".

Should I cut the contact now? Or is it really no big deal.
You shouldn't even have brought that up. It makes you look needy and insecure. What you need to do right now is stop texting and talking to her so much over skype or the phone and instead ask her out. Save all the talking for when your out with her in person. Lastly, she's not your girlfriend. You guys haven't even been out on a date yet, and your already getting all upset about a photo? The only thing you should be worried about at this point is getting her out on a date, having fun, and hooking up. Let her worry about you guys becoming a couple.
 

El Payaso

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You've never even met her...
 
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