"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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BlackDragon

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I'm in the military so marriages have positive effects. I'm leaving for Korea next month for a year, so I'm thinking about marriage. Its only a year in Korea and then I go to Tokyo...it wouldn't be to hard for my gurl to live with me without getting married if the LDR works. In my inner circle of friends who have japanese gfs...they are getting married and think i will regret it for not doing it since I have a good girl.

Pros
-I love her
-gf is Okinawa Japanese and cook/clean/bjs/sex anytime
-i know she loves me and shows it
-cute hb7
-if I get married, I would make at least an extra 1000 a month...even more from what I heard

Cons
-After a year of korea, I will go to a base near Tokyo. My japanese speaking is a lot better since I been with my girl and I know I would have a fun party life if I was single
-even though I'm happy with my gurl now, I'd always want some new *****
-I would be married and I'm kind of scared of losing my freedom
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SandHawk

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Why are you asking this to us? Because this forum is based on the idea of picking up chicks and banging as much as possible. Marrying one of those would be counter productive. And you are basing a MASSIVE life impact decision on the comments, replies and ideas of a bunch of online anonymous people?

Follow your heart man. None of us can tell you what to do, they can only give their own opinion on this. If you love her, and she's worth it, marry her, but don't do it for the extra money you get.
 

HeyPachuco!

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BlackDragon said:
In my inner circle of friends who have japanese gfs...they are getting married and think i will regret it for not doing it since I have a good girl.
Sounds like you're doing it because your friends are getting married to these girls. I dunno, man

Won't you be deploying quit often to other bases, if LDR is your thing, then I say good luck dude.
 

lakeshore

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why can't you 2 just continue doing what you're doing, give it some more time and if deeper things develop then consider marriage.

It doesn't sound like you're at that stage by any means based on you making a list of pro's and con's.. I mean come on dude, thats not exactly passionate ya know.

Anyway, if your post is serious then I would say hell no. Not yet.
 

BigJimbo

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SandHawk said:
Why are you asking this to us? Because this forum is based on the idea of picking up chicks and banging as much as possible. Marrying one of those would be counter productive. And you are basing a MASSIVE life impact decision on the comments, replies and ideas of a bunch of online anonymous people?

Follow your heart man. None of us can tell you what to do, they can only give their own opinion on this. If you love her, and she's worth it, marry her, but don't do it for the extra money you get.
Uh, so this is about banging a bunch of fat women with STD's? Dude, you should just come to America. Plenty of fat slobs who will do anything to you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Julius_Seizeher

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If you do it, it should only be after long and serious contemplation.

From what I saw, marriage and the military don't mix.
 

Warrior74

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Don't they call Korea the year long divorce because most men don't take their wives? Isn't there something about no family housing in korea so instead of housing their wives off base they leave them home? Every Airforce and Army guy I know who went to Korea without their wives ended up cheating or divorced or both before the year was out. Get married after Korea if she's still there for you.
 
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