Found out she had been raped amongst other things

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Martel

New Member

Apr 1, 2012

You guys were right. She wanted to be exclusive and I didn't feel the same way. I briefly and politely broke it off earlier today over the phone - she seemed annoyed.

Now that I think about it, I shouldn't have let things progress as far as they did. In the back of my mind I knew we weren't a good fit, but having been out of commission for so long, wanted to make it work. Thanks for helping me get my head straight on this one.

I had a new date this afternoon and we seem to get along pretty well. That definately makes me feel like I made the right decision.

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.