Found out GF lied and went to smoke and drink

[Capt.America]

What can you do, hold her head under water until she stops struggling?

Come on bro, she apologized, don't take yourself or her so seriously. There is probably alot of things you hate she does and doesn't tell you about. If she is still cool to have sex with go with it. Just make sure you let her come to you, make sure you have hand.

That's why you should Never tell anyone what you like or don't like, they will use it against you in the future.

the sex isnt the big deal i have another girl dat wants to fvck me, its just that shes enagages me in ways others dont and i really like her, but she went and did this which fvcked me up. you think i should dump her or forgive her? majority of the replies here go for me dumping her

 

[Thatfeel21]

She's not even 18 yet, man. Live the single life and let her live. What do you think she will do once she hits college?

 

[Smok1nAce]

She's disrespecting you already when you're only a month into the relationship. Dump her or downgrade her to a fk buddy.

what he said make her you own FB, but do you. if she wants to leave let her.

 

[Trump]

the sex isnt the big deal i have another girl dat wants to fvck me, its just that shes enagages me in ways others dont and i really like her, but she went and did this which fvcked me up. you think i should dump her or forgive her?

It's up to you what to do, but while your head is spinning on how she "engages" you, she is smoking weed with her guy pal and laughing it up.

 

[zinc4]

Yeah, listen to zinc4, the guy who's every other post is about "gangster" Taiwanese guys trying c0ck block him (despite the fact that he is some kind of a kungfu expert). He really knows what he's talking about.

Hold up, let me get my light saber out....the force of stupidity in this post is strong...

I never claimed to be any expert in anything....i have been doing kungfu for a year and a half and am only a beginner and i only made one thread about Taiwanese guys trying to ****block me.....it's pretty much unavoidable if you live here and are taking hot Taiwanese chicks out here on the weekends....I used to live in Korea and the same thing happened to me there with Korean chicks...and it has happened to me in the states with black chicks drawing the attention of jealous or racist black guys (i am from Georgia)...it's basically blatant racism....but what the hell would you know about that?

NOTHING. ZILCH. NADA....so do me a favor and stop being a judgmental prick.

And try to prove one thing about what i said that was wrong...alcohol does way more damage than weed does.....i don't smoke but once in a blue moon, but i still know the truth of the matter...alcohol is a way worse drug that kills many many more people world wide and ruins lives...allows greater chance of STDs to be passed...the list is endless....

And someone mentioned chicks who smoke are usually more slutty...that is very true but this girl is only 17!

He should have never been in a relationship with her in the first place.....what is up with all the young guys here trying to screen for marriage?????

The OP and his girl are in the age range of 17 and 18 and he is trying to lock her down..that is ridiculous...at that age you should be like a wolf banging whoever you want to and not having a acre in the world about a relationship....

 

[zinc4]

the sex isnt the big deal i have another girl dat wants to fvck me, its just that shes enagages me in ways others dont and i really like her, but she went and did this which fvcked me up. you think i should dump her or forgive her? majority of the replies here go for me dumping her

Stop being so serious and just casually bang both of them, your girl and the other chick as plates or FBs.....you are wayyyy too young for a relationship and your GF clearly just wants to have fun like any other normal 17-18 year old is supposed to.

 

[Greasy Pig]

@ Fruitbat and Zinc4.
There's a big fvcking difference between a woman having a few drinks and getting fvcked off her head on drugs.
I wouldn't date a woman who didn't drink because it's a widely accepted social thing to do.
A woman can have three or four drinks, have a good time and get home safely. But a woman can take one pill and be completely wasted and end up blowing some dude in a nightclub toilet.

 

[Alvafe]

why all this fight about drugs and what he like or not in a girl? he asked if he should dump her for lieing and yes he should, its not about the lie of her not drinking or smoking, is going out not telling him and going with other guys, check the number her plus 2 friends and 3 guys, ok? need to say more?

ok dude you just now need to do one thing, she is NOT LTR material so you just bang her call the other chick (if is really true) and ahve fun with her nothing serious just for sex.

 

[BeDJ]

That's true to an extent. Alcohol is more containable.

Personally, I see a GF who does pills and coke as a slight bonus. It in no way signifies she is more of a slvt (many of my friends GFs do and don't end up blowing anyone but their BFs)

Also, the joy of 4 hour fvck sessions with a GF whilst snorting lines of chop is worth the risk she will give a random dude a BJ.....which is a entirely fictional risk really, sourced I imagine from some anti-drug propoganda your teacher gave you loooool

It's actually unlikely that the dude in question would be much good for BJ in a pill club.....pills aren't the best for erections and she would be in there for like 2 hours trying to coax an orgasm out of him......if she is wasted on pills and he is straight, maybe, but that's not likely.

My ex started doing ecstasy and smoking cigarettes after we broke up. Women who do drugs have very low self-respect. Their impulse takes over to 'feel good' at the time, like random sex. They need some escape from their broken lives. If you are after women who does or has done drugs, you need to re-evaluate your standards. I'd make an exception for those who did THC in the past, but aren't now.

 

[fuko2007]

wow conflicting post / answers. Well man you have already won if you have banged her. Odds are though if she lied to you like that then she has lied to you in the past about other things. Im not going to say what some of the other guys are saying abt go smoke and drink and your to young for all this etc. You are your own person man its your call. Cudos on not doing drugs though. But if you are in a relationship with this girl ..yes she disrespected you in a MAJOR way. There is nothing wrong in my book with going out and having some drinks sometimes but smoking is trashy in my book. Atleast just do one or the other. My advice is to not go AFC just stand your ground. If she violated your trust and morals she has no respect for you or what you stand for. Sounds like you might be ahead of your generation but its your call man. Do what you think is right.

 

[zinc4]

There is a major major difference between weed and pills.....i have nothing against smoking a little weed from time to time myself, but at the same time, I would never be in a LTR with a girl who smokes because like someone else said these types of girls in general are usually very slutty, open and doing other stuff as well...and as far as someone doing pills of any sort or something like coke...that is ONS material at best....

But lost in all of this stuff about drugs and alcohol is the fact that this guy is too young to be relationship closing in the first place...he should be single and care free....that is why i originally said who cares what the girl does...let her be and casually bang others and downgrade her to a FB like what she should have been in the first place.

 

[Capt.America]

alright i think i've made my decsion. i've deleted her number.im done with her im not gona ever make contact with her. im basically dropping off of earth. im not gona tell her im dumping or say a word to her. ima just magically disappear, she wont here from me ever again
might be hard to get over her though cuz i think i may have a tiny oneitis for her? been think about her alot recently but i will remain rational and dont go afc. NEXT!

 

[zinc4]

Any kind of regular usage of pills are for losers and/or people don't have their **** together...pills offer nothing positive nor insightful and do a lot of damage regardless of whether its ex or anti anxiety such as benzos. Although there are some who genuinely need anti anxiety megs for depression and panic attacks or insomnia...but wr are talking about recreational use here.

 

[zinc4]

Yep. Horseriding offers no insights and is statistically more dangerous than taking pills, look it up. Horseriding is for losers.

Each to their own I say. I love doing pills and drugs in general, about 5 or 6 times a year for harder stuff, maybe weed 2 x a month at most. Apparently that's impossible as I should be in a spiral of sh1t, unemployment and depression, but funilly enough I drive a £45,000 car and earn very good money....if I am a loser, than god knows what I'd be if I gave up those oh so hurtful pills.

Pills have given me some of the greatest moments of my life which I will treasure forever. Same as beer, in a different way. Don't judge anything until you have tried it.

Losers do pills, but pills don't make you a loser. Lots of losers do drugs because they have nothing in life. Some of us do drugs to enhance an already pretty good life.

If you are saying you can't do pills occasionally and be successful then you have just swallowed someones BS and not looked at the facts....just because you know some people who fvcked up on them, go find some alcoholcs and see how that went. IMO the biggest losers alive are alcoholics and religious people. Both are out of control of their own thoughts, but believe it to be acceptable because authorities tell them it's OK.

Just because you make a good amount of money doesn't define if you are a loser or not...not saying you are a loser...that is just some shallow criteria...

I have experimented with just about everything and took various pills like candy at times in college...i had some great times on some of it....particulary ex but i never recieved any real insight into life on them like you would on some hallucigens like salvia or even shrooms that put you into deep meditative trances....pills are meant strictly for fun and that's fine...however, sooner or later you have to ask yourself do you really want to be a middle aged adult doing drugs and still experimenting?.....not me. And all of that stuff seriously messes with your brain chemistry.

There are better more natural ways to get high like deep mediation and qigong...yeah, it's not as easy as just popping something into your mouth or taking a bong hit, but it is real and it is more powerful once you put in the work to achieve something real....for example i can leave my body at will sometimes in the morning if i wake up in the right position and frame of mind and i gained this skill through daily or should i say nightly meditation over the course of a few years....and laugh at this statement all that you want but some of the best sex i ever had was out of my body.....more real feeling and more intense than this reality...but that isn't even the best thing by a long shot about it. Trust me, no pill compares to it...and from daily qigong practice i can feel high as a kite and as sexually hungry as i would be if i had popped a viagara...and literally feel in slow motion compared to everything else...i'll take the natural route over artifical drugs any day.

 

[zinc4]

I like having fun though!

It's all what we like, indeed Shrooms and acid etc is far more of a spiritual experience.

As for meditation, never got on with it. I am far to hyperactive to do it properly, and I just found it incredibly boring.

I did lucid dream once though after trying to train myself into it.

I'll stick with pills and marching powder, and it's no longer experimentation, it's just something I enjoy, like a glass of burgandy, a cigar or a long walk. I see no shame in a bit of it now and then, with your friends.

IMO I have had deeper spiritual connections with others on MDMA than I ever have on shrooms. Halluciogens are a personal thing, but some great MDMA can get you on the deepest level with your friends, feeling love like nothing before, and I think it can be very thereputic for those with big emotional guards up. It was used as a marriage counselling drug and by god that's a good way to be able to open up to someone.

Well, whatever floats your boat i guess...lucid dreaming is great by the way once you get good at it. And yes, i have tried MDMA. It was definitely interesting to say the least.

 

[pinkfl]

alright i think i've made my decsion. i've deleted her number.im done with her im not gona ever make contact with her. im basically dropping off of earth. im not gona tell her im dumping or say a word to her. ima just magically disappear, she wont here from me ever again
might be hard to get over her though cuz i think i may have a tiny oneitis for her? been think about her alot recently but i will remain rational and dont go afc. NEXT!

You should have just called her and said "Look, you lied to me, and I don't want to be in a relationship with someone like that, we're through" and THEN disappear/not answer calls/avoid.

Because with what you did, here is what I see happening:
She's going to wonder what's going on, and act "crazy". She's going to do everything and anything to get in touch with you. Wouldn't be surprised if she showed up at your door, and then you'll have to dump her in person eventually. Personally, I'm not into that type of drama.

If you break things off with her officially, then she knows better. She'll know what she did wrong. Maybe she'll fix it, maybe she won't, but you don't have to stick around to watch.

If you hookup with another girl without officially breaking up with this one, you're going to be considered a cheat. Just saying.

TL;DR: If you enter a relationship with someone have the balls to say "we're through". Break up with people whenever or for whatever reason you want, but actually TELL THEM that's what you are doing.

 

[pinkfl]

When I break up with people, I do it in person. I say "this is why things aren't working out, I'm really sorry" and then I leave.
Why?
Because I don't want to screw anyone up.

Also, no, I've never had anyone breakup with me by not telling me. The one time I was dumped, I was told. And I've only been in two relationships (one for 4 years, one for 3), so there you go.