Found HB8 in bed last night, didn't close, need follow up advice

[Chamber36]

So last night when I reach home there's suddenly a (after)party in my house. My roommate brought a bunch of people from a party. I hear there's an HB8 which I known for years, got a bit of a "connection" with. I wrote about her in my journal few times, anyways I used to run into her in the club and hug up on her and whisper in her ears and stuff, but never got to kissing or fingering, though I can touch her ass and tits.

Anyway she was in my roommates bed in her panties, bra and a lil gown. So I immediately lay next to her because of course that's where I wanted to be. I was exhausted from my day so I just spent the first 10 minutes smoking my joint. Then her friend came into the room, and it was a grenade situation. I could have MacGyvered my way out of it if I disarmed her. Namely, she complained I had to go because the bed was too small for the 3 of us. Another idea was that I bring in another mattress to the floor in that room and join them that way - I rejected the proposal. In the mean time the police came knocked onto the door and my roommate talked to them.

Problem is that my room was looking like crap, there was an immense mess in there, and so I was afraid to ask her to join me in my bed, though I'm sure we would both have preferred that...

So this morning I wake up, she's gone... I leave for fresh air, weed, coffee, pik-nik in the park. I come home later, got the number via my roommate.

I've got the number now, I'm sort of in the mood to call her, but I don't have anything specific to tell her or ask her, besides: "this is my number".

I could ask her whether she wants to come over soon to pick up some of the stuff she left over, but it seems that my roommate is gonna bring her that stuff tomorrow or so...

So anyway, this is my situation. Was lying in bed with her last night, didn't escalate, now I have the number. Do you guys have any experience on this?? I'd like to hear some words of wisdom, if anyone can offer me that.

 

[TheException]

I hear there's an HB8 which I known for years, got a bit of a "connection" with.

Anyway she was in my roommates bed in her panties, bra and a lil gown. So I immediately lay next to her because of course that's where I wanted to be.

Sounds creepy^

Maybe some context would be nice, but it sounds like she was passing out drunk and you just creep on in and decide to help yourself....hence the grenade c0ckblock.

I come home later, got the number via my roommate.

More creepiness^

Look pal...this isnt a scenario where you escalated with a chick and just failed to close. From what i can tell, you just tried to get it on with a chick you knew...who had one too many drinks. Dont contact her. You getting her number from anyone but her is going to get you sent to her "potential stalker" category. If you see her at another social event go ahead and talk to her, but i wouldnt text her.

 

[Chamber36]

I hear there's an HB8 which I known for years, got a bit of a "connection" with.

Anyway she was in my roommates bed in her panties, bra and a lil gown. So I immediately lay next to her because of course that's where I wanted to be.

Sounds creepy^

Maybe some context would be nice, but it sounds like she was passing out drunk and you just creep on in and decide to help yourself....hence the grenade c0ckblock.

I come home later, got the number via my roommate.

More creepiness^

Look pal...this isnt a scenario where you escalated with a chick and just failed to close. From what i can tell, you just tried to get it on with a chick you knew...who had one too many drinks. Dont contact her. You getting her number from anyone but her is going to get you sent to her "potential stalker" category. If you see her at another social event go ahead and talk to her, but i wouldnt text her.

When I say I have a "connection", I'm not implying that I consciously worked on that with her. I just mean there is mutual attraction, we flirt a lot and I actually like her personality. I also think she digs my personality, she is form the social circle I used to hang out with on the regular. I saw her all the time! One time while I was working(in a club she frequented) she got all hot in my face and made out with a chick in front of me just to turn me on. So there's more context for you.

FYI She wasn't passing out drunk, she was lying in bed because she didn't like the people, and she couldn't sleep because she took some E. I suppose the E would explain the grenade, but I am sure she would have tried to ****block us either way. I don't know why, that's just her personality. I know the grenade for years, she used to come watch movies in my place while in an on/off relationship with one of my best friends, and never put out with me. So there's some more context.

When I asked for the number my roommate texted her that I wanted the number, and she said: "haha ok", so there's nothing creepy.

Like I told you, I already met her years back and I used to hug up on her and at parties, dance with her and flirt with her, etc. That's where I escalated with her before, I told you a concise version of what's going on already. Kino-wise I can touch her up and stuff, I just haven't gotten in the panties. If I had more time and no ****-block I probably would have gotten in there. She was fine with me lying next to her, she even said so last night.

 

[TheCWord]

FYI She wasn't passing out drunk, she was lying in bed because... she couldn't sleep because she took some E.

You can't make this stuff up. Sounds like something GOB from Arrested Development would say.

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

 

[Sandow]

First, she kicked you out of her bed. If that doesn't scream I'm not into you, I don't know what does. Obviously, girls don't kick guys they are attracted to out of their beds lol. Secondly, you should have invited her to your room. Who care's if your room is messy? If she wants to bone she ain't gonna care whether or not your room is messy lol. 99% sure she would have said no, but at least you would have known whether she's into or not.

 

[Jaylan]

OP she is not into you. Move on. And its not cool to try and creep in and run game on a girl who isn't sober, especially if you are sober yourself. That's not a good look and you can get yourself in some trouble. Sounds like this girl had a good time partying, and was resting. She was in your roommates bed...that should have sent messages in your mind that things prolly wouldn't happen with you two.

And if a girl doesn't give you her number or specifically tell someone else to pass her number along to you, then she does not want you to have it.

Don't contact her. Youre gonna make yourself that creepy guy girls make fun of. And that will screw up your game with other chicks if they hear about it.

 

[1-800-HellNo]

These guys know what they're talking about, but i get where you're coming from.

The thing is, this is a situation where if something would've happened, it wouldn't have lead to anything in the future anyway.

I used to "party" a lot too, and would sleep with girls a lot. I say "sleep" not fvck, because usually it would just be to sleep (or lay awake half dazed until the E wore off). Sometimes we'd mess around and do stuff, sometimes it would get serious.
It's pretty nice to go to bed with two or three other girls after you all had a great time partying and just being dumb. (btw, i'm not talking about random girls, but friends)

But it's like a "what happens in Vegas" type of situation.
It's weird as a guy because you wake up in the morning looking at the girl wondering what happens next, and they just act like nothing happened.
Your friendship continues exactly how it was before.

Despite what people tend to say, it's a lot easier for a girl to brush off a sexual experience than for a guy to do it.

Also, I would never even consider dating a girl like that, because come on...

and just to add something, it was your roommates bed, not even yours.
thats kind of nasty you laid down in your roommates bed, tbh.

 

[Chamber36]

@ Sandow: No, it was the grenade that entered the room that tried to kick me out. The girl was actually glad I was lying there. The grenade was complaining, the babe was fine.

OP she is not into you. Move on. And its not cool to try and creep in and run game on a girl who isn't sober, especially if you are sober yourself. That's not a good look and you can get yourself in some trouble. Sounds like this girl had a good time partying, and was resting. She was in your roommates bed...that should have sent messages in your mind that things prolly wouldn't happen with you two.

I was in the room with the girl comfortably for 15 minutes. She was glad I was there and she told me so. Then the grenade entered the room.

I am simply gonna do my own thing, take care of my business, and call her some time in the next few days.

You guys are all fools, as she is in my social circle and likely to come over again at this rate anyway. She has always digged me. She just isn't 100% convinced. She's about 80% convinced I'd say - because I know her feelings tell her she likes me, but she isn't 100% convinced, she wants me to pass a few tests.

We will see, as I am going to castings for a modelling job this week.

Things are supposed to change for the better, so if everything goes that way I'll be happy.


I agree it would have been a "what happens in Vegas" situation, as she was on E. But that's why I took it slow at the start anyway. I shouldn't have to explain to anyone here why I dove into the bed with her asap. I expect any other DJ to do so as well, as long as the party is running smoothly.

I am simply fond of the girl, so when I heard she was in the house, I inspected the situation, and of course asked nicely if I could join(don't know what you're all on about).

The biggest mistake was not inviting her to my room, even though it was indeed a mess. Things just went the way they did. I was interrupted in mid-game. I want to proceed so I asked my roommate to ask for the number. Now I was wondering how to follow up. I decided I'm gonna fix my room, take care of my business and call her later. She lives way off, so it'll probably be a while till she comes my way, but if she does, let's hope she drops by.

 

[zinc4]

These guys are pussies who are telling you it was creepy....I would have done the .same and would have escalated immediately.....she let you on the bed.while in her Indies so all is fair game...should have invited to your bed but the grenade would have ****blocked.you of course. The girl was on e she is obviously slutty....these guys calling youcreepy are acting like whit knight pussies...all slutty women should.be treated accordingly...you could have banged her if not for the ****blickibg grenade...slutty girls deluding eachother that they are not such is laughable.

 

[Upside]

She took the love drug and there was no lovin' involved? Something doesn't add up here.

 

[Bokanovsky]

These guys are pussies who are telling you it was creepy....I would have done the .same and would have escalated immediately.....she let you on the bed.while in her Indies so all is fair game...should have invited to your bed but the grenade would have ****blocked.you of course. The girl was on e she is obviously slutty....these guys calling youcreepy are acting like whit knight pussies...all slutty women should.be treated accordingly...you could have banged her if not for the ****blickibg grenade...slutty girls deluding eachother that they are not such is laughable.

I'm with zinc4. The girl didn't seem to object to Chamber's advances, so how exactly is it creepy? Besides, it's not just some random girl but a girl that he knows and has previously fondled. I don't see what the problem is (other than the "grenade").

 

[d!ckmojo]

Yah, I think you played this all wrong, and it was creepy. When chicks are comin down off E all they wanna do is smoke weed, its a fact. So, you could have told her to come into your room to smoke the joint.

N also, I've shared a small bed with 2 other chicks before, and I'm a big guy. The secret is to get the chicks hooking up with each other (you already said she hooked up with another chick in front of you in the past). Reading between the lines it seems like one chick was comfortable with you but the other one wasn't, and so THAT was a big mistake as well.

If you could put BOTH of the chicks at ease, and into a sexual state, and then get them hooking up with each other.... well, then, it might get a LOOOOT more freakier than you realised real quick...

 

[VladPatton]

I've been in a similar situation where some fückface grenade destroys your chance to go to Poundtown. It sux ass. The only thing you can do is hope for another similar situation and makes sure the 'nades are out the fückin door well ahead of time.

 

[The_411]

You got AMOG'd by the grenade. It's your place. Why should the grenade be dictating terms as to who is in your roommates bed and what's happening.

Either you shut the grenade down or get her aroused for a threesome.

 

[zekko]

Just invite her to go do something if you want to, then you'll have your answer. Worst she can do is say no, and if she does who cares? There are other fish in the sea to move on to.

 

[Fatal Jay]

either your gay or she doesn't like you, like you think she does. How is she going to be in your bed almost naked, and you didn't bang

 

[Chamber36]

I will just wait a few days, then call her and ask her when she's coming back.
In the mean time I have things to do.

 

[Chamber36]

I called and spoke to her. She says she is coming back soon, but she is bringing the grenade, as they are gonna party and then crash at mine.
-->I know people will want to criticize me for letting her bring the grenade, but I am just not gonna put up too many obstacles for her or make too many demands.

I'll just let her come over, then wait for the right moment.

 

[Sandow]

Bro, if she wanted to hook up with you, she wouldn't bring her friend. This is a way for girls to look out for each other. That being said, you really have be on top of your game if you want to seal the deal with this one. IMO, girls typically "stick together" when they go out...unless she's a true slvt, then she won't care.

 

[Chamber36]

Maybe it's just an Anti-slut mechanism that she won't come by herself. The grenade is my roommates sister see, so it all makes more sense for her to come over that way, plus if anything "just happens" it's a lot more "spontaneous".

But it's correct that I can expect this grenade to hang around us like flies on sh1t. I suppose I might have to consider kicking her out eh? Lol.