"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Found A Women Online, But Need Some Help..

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Hi everyone.

Im 27 years old and and started chatting to a 25 year old on a dating site.

She is blonde and attractive and seems like a genuine profile I guess.

She agreed to meet up for dinner and casual sex...nothing serious.

- She doesnt drink

- She says shes into yoga and fitness

- Too lazy to pickup guys in person

- She doesnt have a facebook account though, which seems very strange even though I hate facebook too.

- She then told me how she likes her sex without being too specific.

- She sounds normal enough but maybe a *****

I would never date a girl like this but I really want to get my confidence up. I havent been on date in many years.

Im just worried about meeting a stranger, and the no facebook thing scares me.

What can I do or ask her to ease my fears?

Thanks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I was hoping not to call her unless I absolutely have to...cant go into details but I would make a better impression face to face...but it may be unavoidable.


I also want to ask her by msg...in a nice way if she has been tested for STD's...(yes ill wear protection) just because I have never done online dating and I know im clean and want to just know for peace of mind. I know it may be a mood killer but I dont think any reasonable girl would mind?
 

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Still looking for answers to ease my fear of meeting a stranger.

Should I just be honest and say Ive never met a girl online before and ask for her full name or if she has a twitter, insagram or any other account. :confused:
 

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meet her and bang her in a public place. like a park, a cinema or at the restaurant. that way if she tries any funny business you can call for help.

p.s - she's probably only in it for the free meal you're no doubt paying for after which she'll make her excuses and leave.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You haven't met a woman online. You've seen a photo or two and read some words. She may not be as advertised or may even be doing 'research'.

Ask her to send you a text or email with a photo or two not on the OLD site you found her on. That way, you'll get a little more information.
 

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Hmm said:
- She doesnt have a facebook account though, which seems very strange even though I hate facebook too.


Im just worried about meeting a stranger, and the no facebook thing scares me.

What can I do or ask her to ease my fears?
If you're this afraid, then you shouldn't even use online dating or attempt to go out with her. The problem with online dating is that you never know who is behind the screen on the other side. It could be a fake or a chick lying about who she is using old photos. That's what you deal with using online dating and why you shouldn't take it seriously or spend too much time using it.

Why should no facebook scare you? Some chicks don't give out their facebook to random guys online, so they say they don't have one to shut them up. I don't give out mine to random chicks,. I give an excuse too.

You can't do anything to ask her, she is only going to give out the information she wants you to know. Everything else she is going to lie or keep hidden from you.


Hmm said:
Too lazy to pickup guys in person.
If she is attractive, don't you think guys would be picking her up?

Hmm said:
Hmm well she agreed to the sex before I mentioned the dinner but who knows hey
She can work up a good appetite during the sex eh?


Hmm said:
Should I just be honest and say Ive never met a girl online before and ask for her full name or if she has a twitter, insagram or any other account.
Don't say that, you sound lame. She isn't going to give out personal stuff if she doesn't want you to have it. Ask her for another pic, don't tell her you are scared or any of that. If you get excuses to that then you know she isn't legit.

Hmm said:
I was hoping not to call her unless I absolutely have to...cant go into details but I would make a better impression face to face...but it may be unavoidable.
wtf? Call the number and talk to her to feel her out. If you get bad vibes then you know something isn't right.

Hmm said:
I also want to ask her by msg...in a nice way if she has been tested for STD's...(yes ill wear protection) just because I have never done online dating and I know im clean and want to just know for peace of mind. I know it may be a mood killer but I dont think any reasonable girl would mind?
HAHAHA avoid having sex altogether then dude because no chick you ever ask will always be telling you the truth.

If you do manage to meet up it is going to be a disaster with your mindset. If you feel something isn't right, then you're probably right. Chat up other girls on there where you won't be afraid to meet up. lol
 

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Yeah I'm not sure..if its safe.

- When she is online on the site there is suppose to be a green light for online but hers doesnt light up.

- Beginning of conversaton was very normal, about music

- She hasnt asked me anything about myself like what I do

- When I gave her my number she didnt really acknowledge it

- Only has 4 photos all selfies but average quality, doesnt look fake.

- No facebook

- She sounds normal and responsible as much as possible ***** can be I guess

- Her comment about being lazy to go out pick up guys was odd, but maybe coz she doesnt drink...dunno.

- I typed to her 2 days in a row during like 1-4am on weekdays

- She hasnt been online for 2 days now dont know whats up

- When I mentioned her staying up late and asked her isnt she at work today, she just said "haha no not today hun"
 

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post the link to her profile so we can see if it looks fake. aren't you talking to other women on there too?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I cant give link to profile...u need to be signed up.

Well after like 2-3 weeks of her not reading my last message to her. I decided to msg her and say "are u alive"

she responds 2hrs later with "I am..sorry babe"

I then asked for her number and she types "thought ud never ask:) 040XXXXX

I then said I would have asked earlier if she spoke to be in the last 2-3 weeks.

Then she replies... "Im sorry:( Now I feel terrible:(

isnt that really strange? She doesnt chat to me in 2-3 weeks in the chat and Im sure she has been on the dating site in that time.

and she doesnt even give any explanation..just says "sorry".

Anyway I got her number but something feels off here...

Apart from out first couple of messages, every message since has been like a maximum of 4-5 words.. Not typical girl style.
 
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