"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Forward women on OKCupid looking for free dinner?

Deadly_Ripped

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Hi,

Just sent a sarcastic and cynical message in reply to an hb 9 profile. She gets back to me like a week later and writes 2 sentences agreeing with what I said and then
"so would you like to take me to dinner some time?"

This comes off as some hottie looking for a free meal from some guy she barely knows. The only women so aggressive towards me in the past have been fatties, and I learned early on not to entertain their delusions with replies because they always want to meet up quickly.

Anyone have any experience with women on dating website looking for free meals or activities? Kinda feel like I'm getting set up to get played for a night, and not played like a flute (American Pie style)... played like a sap.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well, f**k dinner dates anyway.

Invite her to a bar. At most, you can share an appetizer. Dinner dates are played out. Chicks always say that, probably because they watch too much Sex and the City.

Oh yeah, but it might be a trick and it might not. But what do you have to lose? Get the digits and find out. I've had a number of good looking women aggressively pursue me. It happens sometimes.
 

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Figured that since I posed this question I might as well throw up the results of the situation, at least as they stand now...

No: she isn't just looking for a free dinner. She called, we talked for like 20+ minutes (got her talking about herself for most of it). It was actually a pretty good conversation and if she's not full of SHTI about who she is and what she's up to then I'm pretty sure she and I will get along well enough to visit pound town.

Edit: yeah Iceberg, I'm with you on that. We're going out for drinks.
 

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grats, what was your magical message that got you a instant ticket to this girls good side ? or are you just insanely good looking ? lol
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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In her profile she said that she was hoping to become less cynical about dating or something like that. I am decent looking, but far from a model either by face or by body (fit but not very muscular), and I have a good variety of pictures showing me with men, women, and by myself - smiling, serious face, etc...

I simply sent her a message where I started by saying that I don't think this website is going to help her become any less cynical about dating, and then I asked her some question about what she studied.

Just 2 sentences, and a smiley face and my name.

I've found that making a funny or sarcastic comment, followed by a question, and nothing more seems to get me many more responses than anything else. Right now, it seems like (although I haven't actually gone back and calculated) that I'm batting between 25% and 50% with replies, and I tend to send messages only to women who "reply very rarely," though that's essentially meaningless because I don't know how the damn website calculates a person's reply rate based on their 3 tiers.

The death knell seems to be agreeing with any part of their profile or commenting on how I fit their descriptions of "you should message me if..."
 
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