"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Forward women on OKCupid looking for free dinner?

Deadly_Ripped

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Hi,

Just sent a sarcastic and cynical message in reply to an hb 9 profile. She gets back to me like a week later and writes 2 sentences agreeing with what I said and then
"so would you like to take me to dinner some time?"

This comes off as some hottie looking for a free meal from some guy she barely knows. The only women so aggressive towards me in the past have been fatties, and I learned early on not to entertain their delusions with replies because they always want to meet up quickly.

Anyone have any experience with women on dating website looking for free meals or activities? Kinda feel like I'm getting set up to get played for a night, and not played like a flute (American Pie style)... played like a sap.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Iceberg

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Well, f**k dinner dates anyway.

Invite her to a bar. At most, you can share an appetizer. Dinner dates are played out. Chicks always say that, probably because they watch too much Sex and the City.

Oh yeah, but it might be a trick and it might not. But what do you have to lose? Get the digits and find out. I've had a number of good looking women aggressively pursue me. It happens sometimes.
 

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Figured that since I posed this question I might as well throw up the results of the situation, at least as they stand now...

No: she isn't just looking for a free dinner. She called, we talked for like 20+ minutes (got her talking about herself for most of it). It was actually a pretty good conversation and if she's not full of SHTI about who she is and what she's up to then I'm pretty sure she and I will get along well enough to visit pound town.

Edit: yeah Iceberg, I'm with you on that. We're going out for drinks.
 

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grats, what was your magical message that got you a instant ticket to this girls good side ? or are you just insanely good looking ? lol
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Deadly_Ripped

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In her profile she said that she was hoping to become less cynical about dating or something like that. I am decent looking, but far from a model either by face or by body (fit but not very muscular), and I have a good variety of pictures showing me with men, women, and by myself - smiling, serious face, etc...

I simply sent her a message where I started by saying that I don't think this website is going to help her become any less cynical about dating, and then I asked her some question about what she studied.

Just 2 sentences, and a smiley face and my name.

I've found that making a funny or sarcastic comment, followed by a question, and nothing more seems to get me many more responses than anything else. Right now, it seems like (although I haven't actually gone back and calculated) that I'm batting between 25% and 50% with replies, and I tend to send messages only to women who "reply very rarely," though that's essentially meaningless because I don't know how the damn website calculates a person's reply rate based on their 3 tiers.

The death knell seems to be agreeing with any part of their profile or commenting on how I fit their descriptions of "you should message me if..."
 
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