Former AFC

[Fortunate_Juan]

First I would like to thank all the Don's on this site who contribute and help guys like me realize my full potential.

It's been a week since I found this site. My whole life has done a 180. It's crazy, I know I was meant to be an Alpha, somewhere along the line it got fawked up and I ended up as an Omega.


Last gf walked all over me, and I let her. Should have nipped that shyt in the bud. She ended up diggin on some other guy while we dated, he was long range so they couldn't do anything physical, but she kept me around for... well lets face it I paid for everything. I resented her for about a month, as I was still in my "I'm feeling sorry for my self" stage. Now I really want to thank her, honestly.

As an Omega I would constantly look for approval, it pains me to think of all the time I wasted as an Omega. All the opportunities I missed. ALL THE SHYT I PUT UP WITH!

The confidence boosters from this site have helped me blast away the worst parts of me. I am not your typical Omega. I was voted most humorous in HS, I performed multiple times in front of the school breakdancing or regular dancing. So I had balls on some occasions.

Anyways Ima stop blabbin, thanks to all ya'll for lettin a brotha like me in on the secrets to bein a DJ. Thanks.

 

[tmpgstx]

Way to roll with it. The biggest thing an AFC does is look for approval. There are several feelings that can cause the need for approval from the object of your affection. They are ..

Guilt - feeling guilty that you didn't do or say the right thing

Jealousy - feeling jealous that she is flirting with other guys

subserviance - being subserviant to her needs, while she is not to yours

need for approval - needing to validate your worth through her

The roadmap to becoming a DJ from an AFC then is this.

Have no guilt - put yourself first, but in a reasonable and dignified way

Have no jealousy - If you are to be the most confident you, then you know you're the best and if she can't see it - next her

No subserviance - do not bend when you know you are 'in the right'. Do not bend and give control just to try to amend a relationship or get approval when clearly she is in the wrong

No approval - do not ever seek approval to vindicate your worth through her

Last but no least - always admit when you're wrong and make adjustments to fix it - not only with her, but with everything in life.

 

[Fortunate_Juan]

Awesome advice

Thank you, I will take notes haha, I'm such a novice.

Dj in Training

 

[smoke city]

tmpgstx --
fvcking excellent post.
Fellas, do like fortunate juan and take notes.
these are the biggest obstacles to finding
your inner game. Working on eliminating the need for approval from your life is probably THE critical first step in getting yourself into prime condition.
VERY well said.