Forgive her? What to do...

[crimsonclockwork]

I have been using the philosophy of DJism to mainly better myself, and getting chicks is just a bi-product. First off: My hobby-cars comes before girls, so I have my priorities in place.

My situation is this: I knew this girl from school, and I seemed to bump into her alot during the summer while I was out with my friends and she was with hers. We started talking, and decided to chill out one night. It went very well. I had to go on vacation, and the day I got back she asked me out to do something. I said sure. I am getting ready to go out, and her friend who was going out with us also and my friend was going too. Anyway, she tells me the girl I asked told her she couldn't go out anymore. I said alright whatever-because I knew it was a lie. They all endded up going out and brought another friend. I am friends with the two other guys and all, and they didn't do anything with them. Now my date says it was all a big misunderstanding.

She apologized several times and all and gave me that bull**** 'am i the person who would do that?'. I don't want a relationship with this girl-because I am not a relationship kinda guy, and she isn't into them either. She is just cool to hang out with and a good hook up. What should I do? Instincts and DJ tell me to forget her, but I am not going after her that way. Some other friends (who are girls) tell me to forgive and ask her on a date.

 

[AC/DC]

Originally posted by crimsonclockwork I have been using the philosophy of DJism to mainly better myself, and getting chicks is just a bi-product. First off: My hobby-cars comes before girls, so I have my priorities in place.

My situation is this: I knew this girl from school, and I seemed to bump into her alot during the summer while I was out with my friends and she was with hers. We started talking, and decided to chill out one night. It went very well. I had to go on vacation, and the day I got back she asked me out to do something. I said sure. I am getting ready to go out, and her friend who was going out with us also and my friend was going too. Anyway, she tells me the girl I asked told her she couldn't go out anymore. I said alright whatever-because I knew it was a lie. They all endded up going out and brought another friend. I am friends with the two other guys and all, and they didn't do anything with them. Now my date says it was all a big misunderstanding.

Hmm.

She apologized several times and all and gave me that bull**** 'am i the person who would do that?'. I don't want a relationship with this girl-because I am not a relationship kinda guy, and she isn't into them either. She is just cool to hang out with and a good hook up. What should I do? Instincts and DJ tell me to forget her, but I am not going after her that way. Some other friends (who are girls) tell me to forgive and ask her on a date.

I believe that she wouldn't have asked you if she wasn't interested. I would, in your situation, give her the benefit of a doubt, but have her explain too.

That's just AC's 2 cents.

 

[Sammo]

Do what ya wanna do, dont get to attatched though, you cant trust her until she has proven her self.

 

[crimsonclockwork]

Don't worry... I wont get attatched. Any ideas or tips on how to go about this? I don't want to come off as desperate or needy...

 

[die4me]

Originally posted by crimsonclockwork
Don't worry... I wont get attatched. Any ideas or tips on how to go about this? I don't want to come off as desperate or needy...

Sometimes people tell the truth...just because it's usually bull****, doesn't mean that it always is. Go with what you feel...if you get the bad vibes, then it most likely is. It's all instinct. But on the real, just go and do you. If you wanna keep hooking up, do it, but don't make it seem like it's a date. And the most important thing of hanging out together: Make it the best experience she's ever had.