"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Forgetting your crush

Huffman

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So you've had a crush on that girl. Perhaps she is your ex, perhaps you shared some precious moments, perhaps she dumped you, whatever.

You know all that "value" stuff, but somehow, everytime you see her beautiful face, everytime you hear her sweet laugh, you feel a sting in your heart.

Why? Because she is having fun, and you are not, simple as that. You are jealous of the fun she is having! You are jealous of her energy! You have unwillingly given all your power, energy, and value away, and now you are jealous!

Take that fun back! See to it that YOUR energy level surpasses hers! Get a hold on yourself and crack that HUGE smile. Tomorrow, you WILL WALK AROUND WITH THAT SMILE ALL DAY! Even if you have to pretend in the beginning. Get out of your shell again.

In no time, you'll be BEAMING.
You're back in the field.
And all of a sudden, she doesn't matter anymore.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mavrick

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The way I look at a situation like this is that I'm letting her take away my happiness. I was happy before she came around, and then I heard her laugh around the corner or she was smiling while joking around with her friends. If I became jealous or unhappy, I just let her take away my happiness, and nobody takes that away from me. Nobody!

I shouldn't let 'em anyway. That's mine.
 

Desert Fox

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pete how are they special? different, yes. special? that's barney sh1t
 

j0n024

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....I remember when I would have a crush on a girl....zaira, ohh man she was my definition of perfect! I was so in love with her for like 2 years and this is when I was an AFC but she DID know I liked her and I DID ask her to go eat some ice cream with me...but she was playing me. I later find out she got with this fat dark ugly guy...and thought to myself...damn I look better then that guy!

I think back then and it's always fun to think about your old crushes and laugh at how pathetic you acted just for some girl...I actually like to think back on my crushes now and then and laugh at how I use to think about them every single second of every single day.....but now I can barely remember there faces.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SmoothTalker

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Lol isn't that the truth j0n024.

I had a massive crush on a girl from school that stretched from grade 8 to grade 11, 4 damn years man. Then I started taking an interest in other girls, got a girlfriend, and got totally over her without even trying.

Now she's mess, dropped out of college, works as a waitress, put on some weight, never followed through with her ambitions (acting/modeling), etc. And it shocks me that I use to care so much for so long.

That jealousy thing is so true also.
 

john paul

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Sh!t thats true for me right now and im even with the girl.

It bothers me that shes out on some nights having fun with her friends and staying busy without needing me.

I have to say though its for the best, it keeps me from staying home some nights and forcing me to go out with my friends when i would rather stay home and be anti-social.

I just hate how she has such a strong ambition sometimes.


Good post
 
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