Forgetting Birthday

[AJTD]

Ok guys here is my dilemma. Today is my birthday, my girlfriend of one year has not sent me a birthday card. Infact I do not think she even remembers it is my birthday. Should I just blow this off and play it cool or lay back and not contact her for awhile until she realizes that she forgot? The night is still young though, she may still come through.

 

[Colossus]

Provided you have already told her when it is, IMO, that would be unexcuseable. Others here will surely disagree, but if your gf of 1 YEAR doesnt remember your birthday, you can definitely find another who will.

I think that falls in the disregard category.

 

[thatguyjamalx]

Yeah that cold.

Happy birthday anyway...

 

[penkitten]

tell her you want your bday bj...

 

[drmeathead]

go out for ur birthday with ur boys with out her

 

[DJDamage]

Should I just blow this off and play it cool or lay back and not contact her for awhile until she realizes that she forgot? .

Blow it off? no way, MILK IT FOR ALL ITS WORTH. You know sometimes those thing happen but if someone does forget then they should make it up to you, in a big way. This girl will need to put a smile on your face like the Joker had before you fall a sleep that night.

 

[AJTD]

Thanks thatguy. Drmeathead I'm going out with my friends this Friday without her. DJ, should I tell her she missed my birthday or just let her figure it out on her own? Penkitten, yes a good bj would be nice.

 

[penkitten]

DJ, should I tell her she missed my birthday or just let her figure it out on her own? Penkitten, yes a good bj would be nice.

you now tell her she owes you two because she forgot.
what kind of girlfriend is this?

 

[DJDamage]

You should definitely tell her that she missed your birthday. Tell her this: "man i can't believe it my friend from work girlfriend forgot his birthday! That is just horrible, I believe she needs to make it up for him in a big way, don't you agree???" - its at this point she would start to think when is your birthday and once she realises that your birthday was overdue and you are talking about her, all the blood should be rushing away from her face and she should be asking for forgivness. This is the time you should be chuckling to yourself and say "well see".

Keep this thread up to date.

 

[aliasguy]

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I don't give two hoots about my birthday (but I'm getting old, and I really don't want to draw attention to that.) So I wouldn't care if women ignored my birthday. But that's just me.

I think you should completely forget about it -- for now. Save it for later. Chicks do this sh*t all the time ("saving" a complaint for later, when she can use it to her advantage.) Pull it out on her later. I know it's a girly move, but this just MIGHT be one of those times when you can use their own game against them.



THEY are the ones all into Valentine's Day, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. (even Chistmas, dammitt), and it's always all about them. OK, that's fine. Chick stuff, we get it.



'Bout the ONLY day that's supposed to be for YOU, is the B-day. THAT'S IT. The ONLY day she has to "remember" and do something nice for you.

AND SHE BLEW IT.



The way I see it, you've got a free pass for a whole year on this kinda thing.
I wouldn't "forget" any of those days, I'd make a token gesture, and leave it at that. If she b*tches, just say that since she missed your B-day, you assumed that the two of you would be "toning it down" on the "holiday" stuff. And say it calmly, quietly, in a matter-of-fact tone, without anger or evidence of any distress. And don't say anything else about it.



Just out of curiosity, what did you do for her last birthday?




And, honestly, man, you HAVE to consider that maybe she's about to bolt this relationship. Maybe she's trying to start a fight, and make you look like a selfish, angry guy.

Maybe the next branch is almost within reach, or maybe she already has a handle on it.




Given all the above, I would not bring it up, and just be cool about it. Avoid any type of confrontation or disagreement for a while. See what happens.

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[MrGold]

Play it cool, its not like she cheated on u. Just let her know that ur a lil upset that she forgot, im sure she'll make up 4 it or just forget about it and do it to her worse on her bday.

Happy birthday man anyway.

 

[drmeathead]

dude go out and if you meet someone roll with it...this girl isnt worth keeping around. there is some trouble brewing here. whether it is another guy or whatever just do what you want. if u are gonna hook up....u owe her a text saying u two are done. nothing more.

if you do stay with her you are off the hook for awhile. you have no need to consult her as far as plans go for anything or any special day. football tickets on her birthday...go to the game, beer pong tourney on your anniversary...make two bring em back, your family is having dinner at the same time hers is...eat with the people that think enough of you to say happy birthday.

do be prepared that once you two discuss this that it will def become an issue of, at best, she totally forgot because (some self-focused excuse) or, at worst, she purposely forgot because you (some over dramatized isssue with something you did to her). either way she is way to focused on herself. leave....either now before she cheats on you or later after she cheats or leaves you.

 

[AJTD]

Thank you guys for all of your advice, I appreciate it. Drmeat, I hear you. We've had some heated discussions already in the past over some hurtful things I said to her. Thank you Mr.Gold.

 

[Latinoman]

Forgetting your birthday opens the door to other things such as YOU forgetting important dates (important to her).

So....she cannot bring you crap if you start "forgetting" important dates.

That being said...when a woman forgets her man's birthday...it is a clear indication that she has VERY LITTLE interest on him.

 

[squirrels]

It's only been a year. She may be the forgetful type. Unless you've reminded her recently, then you can't crucify her for it.

Leave it in your back pocket...whip it out when/if you forget hers, or your anniversary or something else like that.