Forget the handshake....go for the HUG

[STR8UP]

I have always been accustomed to shaking hands with a person when I meet them, male or female. This is pretty much standard protocol, but recently I was introduced to girl by one of my female friends and I decided to change it up.

When the new girl put out her hand for a handshake, I felt kinda awkward that I had just hugged one girl and I was going to shake hands with another, so I said fukk it and went for the hug instead of the handshake.

After I did it for the first time I thought to myself, "hmmmm.....this could be a great way to build instant rapport".

Last night a few girls that I know stopped by my house before we hit the clubs. The two girls that I know walked in first and I gave them both hugs. The next one I had met once before, and she went for the handshake which I "rejected" and went for the hug. As the other two girls walked in the door each one stuck out their hand and I did the same thing.

Not sure how much replacing the handshake with a hug can help, but I'm pretty certain it isn't going to work against you in most cases.

 

[Kev07]

This is what i do (i've posted this before not on a thread itself though)

I'll meet people, extend both my hands, but my right hand is more prominently extended in like a handshake gesture, but my left hand is also out there.

when the girl (or guy if it's one of my close homies) reaches for the handshake i say "alright hold on there, one hand means handshake(or high five in some cases), 2 hands means hug" then we hug.

 

[Docs]

Just discovered hugs are gold?

 

[The Bartender]

The next time I am introduced or introduce myself to an HB I am going to do the opposite and make them feel unworthy of my handshake. I'll give them the "what's up fist rock" thing...haha, makes me laugh just thinking about it.

 

[ScrewIt]

i havent tried it myself, generally initially when i meet a girl i go for the handshake. When the rapport grows then the hug comes into play.

But funny you mentioned this, some time ago i saw an episode of elimidate or something. and the main girl gave the guy that gave her an initial hug upon meeting a bad rating...complaining something about coming on too strong or desperate or some **** who knows.

well if it works for you then good luck.

 

[kdnash82]

I like this post and it definately makes a lot of sense. Not only does it build instant rapport, it gives the girls the feeling that you already know eachother. I've even pushed the limit of kissing the girl on the cheek when I first met them.

It's a common thing in a lot of cultures, and one time after I kissed a girl on the cheek, she went on to ask me if the last girl I dated was latin. The answer was no, but that's another story.

I say push the limits and see what you can get away with early on without being a perv

 

[92 GSR-4]

I think it may be a double-edged sword. In one case, you *may* build instant rapport by going straight for the hug. The woman may think your real confident and secure by doing that.

On the other hand, you go in for a hug on someone you don't know, they don't know you, and she knows nothing about you (good or bad). That could make you out like a creep. If she gets a bad first impression of you....doom.

I think you will have to gauge the situation to see what the best approach is. If your in good company, meaning those are YOUR friends and they brought their friends, then its a good idea. If you are on neutral ground (like a cold approach) then the handshake would be the way to go. A hug would just be coming on too strong too soon in that case.

Personally, I like to do the double hand shake. Shake their hand like normal, but cup your left hand over theirs. It's a form of kino and they usually respond well to it.