"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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Forget showing her a good time + vanishing, more like out of sight out of mind

paymon

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**** the whole idea of showing a girl a good time and vanishing because its all bull****. Kelly Clarkson said it best "out of sight out of mind".

backup story read here:

I brought 3 girls to my apartment after a party about 1.5 weeks ago. One of them instantly fell asleep. The other two both wanted me. I tried to isolate the HB8 but the HB7 kept following and never left us alone. When the HB8 fell asleep, me and the HB7 kissed, but then she had buyers remorse because she had a boy friend. (for more indepth read here http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=109675 )


fast forward 1 week ago:

I then had a fun flirty online conversation with the HB8 about a week ago and she jokingly said something like "well you broke my trust when you kissed my friend". I am pretty sure that was a **** up on my part. Anyway since then I have not messaged her and she has not mesaged me. She is probably playing games, she is too smart. We both notice each other is online. What the hell do I do? I initiated the 1st convo, and I will not initiate the 2nd.
 

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Phyzzle

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What the hell do I do? I initiated the 1st convo, and I will not initiate the 2nd.
Why not? Just go ahead, no big deal.
 

Teflon_Mcgee

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paymon said:
**** the whole idea of showing a girl a good time and vanishing because its all bull****. Kelly Clarkson said it best "out of sight out of mind".

backup story read here:

I brought 3 girls to my apartment after a party about 1.5 weeks ago. One of them instantly fell asleep. The other two both wanted me. I tried to isolate the HB8 but the HB7 kept following and never left us alone. When the HB8 fell asleep, me and the HB7 kissed, but then she had buyers remorse because she had a boy friend. (for more indepth read here http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=109675 )


fast forward 1 week ago:

I then had a fun flirty online conversation with the HB8 about a week ago and she jokingly said something like "well you broke my trust when you kissed my friend". I am pretty sure that was a **** up on my part. Anyway since then I have not messaged her and she has not mesaged me. She is probably playing games, she is too smart. We both notice each other is online. What the hell do I do? I initiated the 1st convo, and I will not initiate the 2nd.
How coud you break her trust? You did nothing wrong by kissing her friend as neither one of them had a claim to you. Sounds more like a bit<h test.

If she says that again bust on her for being jealous or too prude to join in ot to slow, etc...


As for her not contactong you, she is either playing games, has no interest, or wants a man to initiate. Your call as you know the situation. But don't be afraid to initiate again.
 

mrRuckus

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paymon said:
**** the whole idea of showing a girl a good time and vanishing because its all bull****. Kelly Clarkson said it best "out of sight out of mind".
I see your cliche and raise you "absence makes the heart grow fonder."

We both notice each other is online. What the hell do I do? I initiated the 1st convo, and I will not initiate the 2nd.
Man, girls sit around expecting you to make the moves. You have to initiate a few times and then if they're interested they will come sniffing around. You're being kind of weird that you think she's going to be all over you and chasing you like a fat chick after a bucket of chicken after you message her one stinking time.

There's this girl i'm interested in that emails me back and forth (kind of a ghetto instant message system we have) while we're both working desk jobs. I started out initiating the emails now if i don't send one in the morning by the afternoon she's emailing me instead. But see, she's still waiting all morning for me to say something first. But if i message first she'll respond right away. Nowadays she'll email first. A while ago this girl told me in general conversation that she'd never ask a guy out and expects the guy to initiate. For personal reasons i never asked her out for a good while but as soon as i did she jumped all over it. We're getting together soon.
 

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