"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Forget showing her a good time + vanishing, more like out of sight out of mind

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paymon

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**** the whole idea of showing a girl a good time and vanishing because its all bull****. Kelly Clarkson said it best "out of sight out of mind".

backup story read here:

I brought 3 girls to my apartment after a party about 1.5 weeks ago. One of them instantly fell asleep. The other two both wanted me. I tried to isolate the HB8 but the HB7 kept following and never left us alone. When the HB8 fell asleep, me and the HB7 kissed, but then she had buyers remorse because she had a boy friend. (for more indepth read here http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=109675 )


fast forward 1 week ago:

I then had a fun flirty online conversation with the HB8 about a week ago and she jokingly said something like "well you broke my trust when you kissed my friend". I am pretty sure that was a **** up on my part. Anyway since then I have not messaged her and she has not mesaged me. She is probably playing games, she is too smart. We both notice each other is online. What the hell do I do? I initiated the 1st convo, and I will not initiate the 2nd.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Phyzzle

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What the hell do I do? I initiated the 1st convo, and I will not initiate the 2nd.
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Why not? Just go ahead, no big deal.
 
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Teflon_Mcgee

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paymon said:
**** the whole idea of showing a girl a good time and vanishing because its all bull****. Kelly Clarkson said it best "out of sight out of mind".

backup story read here:

I brought 3 girls to my apartment after a party about 1.5 weeks ago. One of them instantly fell asleep. The other two both wanted me. I tried to isolate the HB8 but the HB7 kept following and never left us alone. When the HB8 fell asleep, me and the HB7 kissed, but then she had buyers remorse because she had a boy friend. (for more indepth read here http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=109675 )


fast forward 1 week ago:

I then had a fun flirty online conversation with the HB8 about a week ago and she jokingly said something like "well you broke my trust when you kissed my friend". I am pretty sure that was a **** up on my part. Anyway since then I have not messaged her and she has not mesaged me. She is probably playing games, she is too smart. We both notice each other is online. What the hell do I do? I initiated the 1st convo, and I will not initiate the 2nd.
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How coud you break her trust? You did nothing wrong by kissing her friend as neither one of them had a claim to you. Sounds more like a bit<h test.

If she says that again bust on her for being jealous or too prude to join in ot to slow, etc...


As for her not contactong you, she is either playing games, has no interest, or wants a man to initiate. Your call as you know the situation. But don't be afraid to initiate again.
 
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paymon said:
**** the whole idea of showing a girl a good time and vanishing because its all bull****. Kelly Clarkson said it best "out of sight out of mind".
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I see your cliche and raise you "absence makes the heart grow fonder."

We both notice each other is online. What the hell do I do? I initiated the 1st convo, and I will not initiate the 2nd.
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Man, girls sit around expecting you to make the moves. You have to initiate a few times and then if they're interested they will come sniffing around. You're being kind of weird that you think she's going to be all over you and chasing you like a fat chick after a bucket of chicken after you message her one stinking time.

There's this girl i'm interested in that emails me back and forth (kind of a ghetto instant message system we have) while we're both working desk jobs. I started out initiating the emails now if i don't send one in the morning by the afternoon she's emailing me instead. But see, she's still waiting all morning for me to say something first. But if i message first she'll respond right away. Nowadays she'll email first. A while ago this girl told me in general conversation that she'd never ask a guy out and expects the guy to initiate. For personal reasons i never asked her out for a good while but as soon as i did she jumped all over it. We're getting together soon.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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