Forget about game, work on your damn social skills

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

This is a good post and I am going to use a recent experience to show you how this works:

2 months ago I was talking to a chick that had came out of a LTR (we never went out) and she disappeared. When she disappeared I never reached back out.

Last week she started messaging me again. I flat out told her that I was up for meeting up for drinks but she was buying to make up for the last time. She responded back with "Not a problem. I will make that up to you and I am in a much better place now and ready to meet up".
She then sent me a FB friend request ( I unfriended her after the first episode) to which I accepted. I told her we would meet at such and such place next Tuesday. She agrees. Its all set up. Then she goes quiet again.

I share a really good mutual friend that used to work with this chick. Her friend apparently finds out that I had talked to her and I proceeded to tell my friend that she again started acting flaky. My friend tells me that this chick had slept with several guys where they both used to work (nursing in a hospital environment). So after several days this chick hits me back up and says she might not be able to do Tuesday. I responded back with (word for word):

"No problem. I am not interested in seeing someone who is flaky because I have too many other options. If you just want to come over and hook up sometime let me know" and then I proceeded to again unfriend her on fb.

A couple of days go by and I didnt hear from her. Then out of the blue I get:

Her: "You deleted me from FB?"
Me: Yeah. Not feeling it.
Her: You dont want to hang out now?
Me: No. Dont have time for you.
Her: Not even for me to come over and hang out?
Me: Not right now. I am busy with other things.

This chick went on to BLOW my phone up. She is extremely cute, but I just started treating her like the wh0re that her friend said she was (which most single women fit into btw) and she couldnt take it.

She is STILL blowing my phone up. I have all but disqualified her, but who knows, I might hit her up and some point to come over.

Now this is what you have to realize- she went cold because she thought she had a better option. That is why ALL women go cold, disappear, ghost, whatever we want to call it. Its when you covertly call them out on it, take back the offer and not give 2 fvcks they go into a mind blowing race to try to hang out.

In hindsight, I should have just treated her like this from the get go because that was my gut feeling about her.

Women are programmed to climb the ladder. Whether that is social status, money, fame, etc., they are only programmed to stop climbing that ladder when they start a family (and even then they continue looking for the next best option) or they finally realize the person they are with is the best they can get (and they submit).

Its that simple. Dont put up with their BS and you will INSTANTLY move yourself up a few rungs of the ladder with these women.

So I saw this, and I want to share my response to everyone because I believe you all can benefit from this:

The reason why she didn’t want to sleep with you is because she’s around those guys she works with morenoften than you. Meaning, they had more of an opportunity to actually interact with her than YOU did. Social media is not social interaction. The brain perceives this **** differently. Plus, BECAUSE they were face-to-face whereas you weren’t, it was more confrontational with her and thus more intense. In other words, they made her ***** tingle more than you, and they were able to just by nature of the interaction itself; their interaction was just of higher quality because it was REAL interaction wheats yours was just a screen.

In addition, social media itself has a certain type of social framework constructed within it. You don’t respond on social media in the same exact way you would in person because talking to someone online has different unwritten social rules to follow. These unwritten rules change based upon what platform you’re on, too. For instance, you respon on twitter differently than you would in insta. And you respond differently on SS than you would at some other place.
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Forget about GAME. That’ll only take you so far. Guys, listen: it’s about improving your social skills in general. Not just ‘being able to talk to women’. If you want to get better with women, don’t look at it as getting better ‘game’, look at it as getting better at PEOPLE. Get better with people in general. And if you happen to be with a woman you want, just sexualize the conversation by not being awkward about awkward topics; if it is an awkward thing to say/talk about, let her know that YOU know it’s awkward by acknowledging it and looking away with a sheepish grin and then just laughing about it after. This way, they feel more comfortable with you because they know that you’re aware of these awkward things but also aren’t a weirdo about it either. I’ve literally had conversations about our favorite porn sites with women before lmao.

And @EyeBRollin I grabbed one of those bitches by the ***** by the way, and spanked her ass too (while at WORK lol). And I did all that after I overheard her telling another girl she wanted me to do that (the other chick smacked her ass [this was because all my coworkers at the time were women, so I just sexualize the conversations I had with them a little, and then the entire situation became sexualized, and then all the girls started smacking each other on the butt lol; **** was wild haha], and she was like “I wish XXXXX would do that to me”; truth be told, I wanted to but thought that it would be too forward). Wanna know what’s funny? She was a virgin, too.

If you’re a man who isn’t awkward and isn’t afraid of sexualizing the convo, women will respond and won’t feel awkward either. They only feel it’s awkward if YOU are. Quit the cowardice bro, you can get away with a lot more by just being more dominant and sexual with women, and less awkward too. No, you can’t do this all the time, it’s a case-by-case basis. But know what your cards are and how to play them.

 

[Tilex]

When you say you sexualized the conversation, can you give some examples of what was said?

"I wish XXXXX would do that"
That doesn't sound very sexual to me.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

When you say you sexualized the conversation, can you give some examples of what was said?

Honestly chief, it’s just being playful, if that makes any sense. Like poke fun at what they say or do. Especially mock their body language, I find that works out pretty well. It’s that sarcasm and a little bit of smugness that they like (just don’t overdo it).

Here’s an example, say they’re looking around confused, like they’re lost and don’t know what to do next, small remarks like “you okay?” with a cheeky smile will START to make the conversation playful. But you can’t forget the ‘cheeky smile’ bit because it’s the body language that really does it because then she feels slightly embarrassed; in essence, it acts as a neg, if you were to put it in SS terms because it implies that you can read her and understand her to know that she is lost, while also being a guy who takes notice of her (when other people don’t, which puts you on a more personal level with her), and also implies that you actually DO know what you’re doing.

All of this goes on just from something super small like that. Women feel this more so than men do (bc estrogen enhances your ability to read body language), but it’s all subconscious. Women are more intuitive than men though, so that’s why they tend to have better game than most men.

“I wish XXXXX would do that"
That doesn't sound very sexual to me.

It was after another girl smacked her ass, so I was like “is that so...” she didn’t know I heard her and then was embarrassed after so I just walked up to her, turned her around, and yeah lol