"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Forewarning - The Value of Observing How She Treats Others

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People are creatures of habit so it's likely the manner in which a person treats others is well established before you meet them. How does she treat others? - friends, family, other men of various degrees of attraction, the valet, the server at a restaurant, someone working in a store. How does she treat them during various emotional states? - happy, loved, angry, tired, etc.

I have learned a lot from watching how a woman treats her girl friends in good and bad times, family of course, but also how she treats people in service positions. More than a few times this has been a direct indication of what was in store with us down the road.

For example, I was once in the midst of watching someone I was seeing turned a fight with her best girlfriend into a bitter war that would not end. There were months were neither let it go and many of their mutual girl friends took sides and all hell broke loose. At the time I stayed pretty much clear, but took notes and sure enough the pattern repeated.

This thread is intended to share examples of how paying attention to this can provide valuable insight into getting to know a woman and serve as forewarning for the future.

Sounds pretty obvious right? It is so easy to get blinded by the pu55y.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"Oh I hate that restaurant! The service stinks!" One guy I was dating said. Now I'd been to that place just a few days before, and the waiter had been great. I offered to pay and he agreed to go again.

The first thing he says when the waiter comes over is:
"Last time I was here you screwed up my order.":down:

The evening went down hill from there....:(

There's a huge difference from saying: "I'm sorry, I ordered the duck, not the chicken. Could you please change it?":up:

Rather than: "HEY! I didn't order this! What's a matter with you?":box:

Nice people are nice to everyone, nasty people are nasty to everyone and want you to agree with the harsh treatment.
 

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a woman i know always has her hand out.
she will ask you for money.
if you listen to her you'd think she was the most screwed over person on the planet.
she wants a pity party, that means YOU.
if she's angry at someone, she expect you to be angry at them too.
if you don't cut contract with someone you know that she hates, she'll start to hate you.
she one of those people who feel that everyone is responsibile for her feelings & mood.
don't ever mention something messed up she did to you, hell don't say anything.
she constantly asks for favors, and when you refuse she gets angry and throws a temper tandrum.
turn down every favor she ask, no matter how helpless she seems. she'll quickly shame you after so stand your ground.

she has a afc boyfriend. she treats him, her family and everyone else just like that.
you may have to spent alot of time around her to notice those things.
 

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s/h been 'The Value of Observing How They Treats Others'.

To me, there is such a fine line. I love the feisty, trouble making attitude with discretion and when the time is right - passionate expression of feeling and view, unpredictability. But play with fire, and you can get burned...

Of course, interaction with friends and family is far more important.

Would you, yourself pass this test?
 
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