Foreign Country. Virgin. Advice?

[ForeignGame]

OK. I've lurked on these boards before, read some articles, bought some books over the past few years (The Game, How to Succeed With Women), and recently got my wardrobe updated with the help of some friends. I'm still a virgin, introvert with odd hobbies, but I've been expanding my social circles within the past six months.

I'm currently studying abroad in Japan while teaching English on the side for extra fun money. I'm probably in a situation that a lot of you might want to be in, but since I never had game back in America, I have not had much luck here. The best I've been able to do is get girls to go out on coffee dates, or more recently got two to agree to hang out for a day (but not really a date). I've never kissed a girl. So I'm as virgin as you can get.

I think about more then half of the people I talk to and hang out with are women at the moment, but I don't know how to take advantage of any situations. Like just a few weeks ago, I ran into this one girl I had lunch with in November, exchanged numbers but never saw her since. I couldn't remember her name or who she was until she gave me her number again. I probably should contact her, but at the same time it's been three weeks, so maybe I missed my chance. But in any case that's just one example of stuff I've missed.

Recently (the past month) I started back running every morning, eating healthier, and trying to get myself out there a little more. I'm feeling more confident, but not quiet enough. Sometimes I think I'm afraid of success. I'm pretty comfortable with my life now. Have a decent circle of friends, make decent money with my job and still get to live the life of a student. Since I don't have much experience with women, I guess I'm afraid I might just get a crazy one and I like my life as it is. Just would like to have some intimacy added into the mix of things.

Oh, and before anyone asks I can speak Japanese decently. Majority of my friends here are Japanese, so there is no language barrier...well, maybe except sounding weird that comes with being a foreigner and making the odd mistakes here and there. So, anyone have some advice for someone who's living in a foreign country with decent language ability? I still have about six months left to live the life of a student before I need to get a real job, so I like to try to dig myself out of this rut before I graduate and have fewer chances to meet women.

 

[ForeignGame]

Thanks for the link. This gives me a few ideas to change with how I talk with some women. I'm generally shy so I don't give compliments often, but maybe I should try to be a little more liberal. Granted the few times I compliment women, it's normally because they have something that really stands out.

I guess instead of just one compliment, I could just add a few here and there, and see how it goes. If it's too much I'm sure something will change in their reaction in a negative way. I'll just have to try to keep a close eye.

Although reading about the calling in the middle of night thing has me thinking now. It's too late now, but I've had two instances where I'd get a call after 10pm asking if I was busy, and at the time I honestly was so it may of been a missed opportunity. I'll have to be more careful.

I generally take things too slow, so maybe if I just gradually try things in a more aggressive matter I might find better results. Thanks for the suggestions. There's going to be a lot of trial and error. Maybe I'll try to be a little more aggressive with some of the girls I know now, and see where "too much" and "not enough" is.