"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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For Uber-DJ's: Breaking Dates

Dash Riprock

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For Uber-DJ's only:

I've been dating a super hot Latina babe (34 yr. old) for about 5 weeks now. I call her or text her maybe once/week to set something up and then plan a fun date.

Lot's of ****y/funny and overt-confidence has her basically eating out of my hand. I'm dating around but don't talk about it much; she has been pumping me for info re: how many other girls I'm seeing to which I reply (chidingly), "none of your bee's wax."

I nailed her last week (wow) and she stayed over.

I don't want things to get too comfortable so I'm thinking about cancelling our date for Friday night because "something came up" as to keep the tension line taught. Plus, I just feel like my game is off right now. Kind of like Brett Favre on Monday Night; an All-Pro who had a bad game.

Any DJ thoughts much appreciated

Dash in Boulder, CO
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ElChoclo

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Rock, I personally don't think it is constructive to cancel dates just to build tension. It would be more appropriate not to have made it in the first place.

Since you have now known her in the Biblical sense, you could perhaps let your personality do the talking, rather than concentrate on gaming her. Besides I think the timing of your move might be wrong. Anyway, you should consider your rationale for using such a tactic in the first place.
 

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I don't know. I've gotten away with cancelling the first date and rescheduling with a few girls, but in this case I would do what you want.

That is, I wouldn't cancel it just to build interest. It could backfire.

I would go out with her. The iron is hot. I think you are lacking some confidence about your game though, so before you go out with her talk with some of your other girls on the phone.
 

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Good point Ricky--thanks.

I'm better in the underdog role. This chick (a 9+) is infatuated with me right now so I feel like there's only way to go, kind of like the NE Patriots.

Heck, even Brett Favre and Tom Brady need to mentally prepare before each game. You cannot be "on" and "up" 100% of the time.

I've found cranking up some Dokken or Skid Row and/or a Tony Robbins CD does wonders about an hour before a date with a hottie.
 

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Lol ... Dokken

Maybe I should try that. I bombed on a date last night... I should have cranked up the Scorpions before I went. :woo: :crackup:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ricky

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Funny I listen to music to get in state for many of the same reasons, and fun 80's hair bands are some of the best to do it.
 

TooColdUlrick

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only break dates like this if you are breaking them to go out with another chick who's either hotter and/or who has more interest. or break it, if you really don't want to see her on that particular night.

otherwise, it's probably 50/50 that it will backfire on you.
 
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