"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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For u therapists.I am addicted to instablity

BobFuest

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I realized something the other day, I am addicted to instablity. It is not my game that has problems, it is the women i choose. They are women that are unstable and will eventually never work out for that reason. My entire life has been unstable growing up and my parent/relationship model suffered because it is the picture of instablity. My grandmother has been married several times and my mother 4 times. My father is a don juan with a different girl everytime i see him. When i look at relationships those were my examples growing up.
its back to boot camp and the bible once again with the hopes that this time i can change these patterns.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MacAvoy

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Well at least your realizing what we've known all along. Remember denial is not just a river in Egypt but the first step on the road to recovery. (Can't believe how many time's I've heard that LOL)

To be a little more serious though, bootcamp or the bible will not help you deal with your historical issues. I would consider seeking some mental health councellors or reading up on it yourself if you truly want to make progress.
 

BobFuest

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MacAvoy said:
Well at least your realizing what we've known all along. Remember denial is not just a river in Egypt but the first step on the road to recovery. (Can't believe how many time's I've heard that LOL)

To be a little more serious though, bootcamp or the bible will not help you deal with your historical issues. I would consider seeking some mental health councellors or reading up on it yourself if you truly want to make progress.
i am hoping through enough life experience (and sarging) i can make my life one of stabilty.
 

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BOB, you need to do an honest self-evaluation and look specifically for incidents and conditions in which this instability is reinforced in your life. The reason you feel 'addicted' to instability is because it has, to some degree, some association to reward for you. Once you've identified the conditions that trigger this sense of reward you can begin to modify your behavior and your life.
 

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What happens to you in your childhood becomes the basis for sexual attraction later on in life. For someone with a chaotic background, chaos is fun, exciting, sexy, and normal girls are utterly boring to you, no? You need to realize the grim reality that for now you should stay away from any girls you like, because by the sheer fact you are attracted to them means they are dangerous to you. You need to re-wire your instincts and learn to be attracted to boredom. I highly recommend you listen to old skool episodes of the radio show Loveline when Adam Carolla used to host; you can find mp3 archives of the show. Download as many as you can. You will hear the same thing over and over: how childhood chaos affects you years after it happened. Listen and get some therapy.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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