For those that sarge in malls, need tips...

[Prodigy746]

The whole story is kind of long so if you dont want to read the whole thing just read this part. I am looking for some tips on how to apprach girls in the mall from experienced, successful DJs. Most of the posts i read about about someone approaching in the mall were EL Stud's and they were not so succesful so i am hoping to gain some tips and hear some FR's and most imprtantly some successful stories as i am still wussy when it comes to approaching a total stranger.I have never been rejected before because i wait till i am 98% sure that i will score and thats not good because i feel like i have lost many opertunities because of this. Most of the approaches i do are at college and they are made when girls give me some pretty strong IOI's. Its very easy to open when you can ask about the subject or school but at the mall you might come off as a creep asking a random question.

Went with a friend yesturday to one of the biggest malls in state to see Dark Knight in IMAX. We got there 30-45 mins after the movie started so we had to wait for the next showing. We decided to go to the food court get something to eat and walk around. We spent 3 hrs in the mall and there was so so so many hot girls around.

I was in a very good mood and confident but the thought of approaching a random girl in the mall is still pretty scary even though i am sure i could do it if my friend was willing to be a wingman. My friend doesnt even wanna consider approaching any girls so i was going to have to do it my self and that was just not gonna happen.

We were having a good time, laughing alot and making jokes. What pisses me off is that i felt that i got some IOI's from very attractive girls and i was too ***** to approach.

At one time we got up to order some desert and there was this HB9 sitting w her mom, she was maybe 20yo. I didnt want to give her eye contact until her mom got up to pick up the order... At that time i stopped joking/talking w my friend and decided to give her eye contact. She was about 10 feet away sitting at a table and i started looking at her. It took maybe 2-3 seconds for her to notice and she looked at me for about 5-6 seconds than brake EC. As soon as she broke EC she started playing with her hair/adjusting it than looked at me again to see if i was looking and ofcourse i was. At this time her mom got back to table and we started ordering our own desert... as we were waiting for our order she got up and walked right past me and got knives and forks possibly hoping i would say something to her but she was with her mom and well appraching a girl 10feet infront of her mom is probobly not a good idea.

While we were sitting and eating we were having fun joking , talking etc unlike other guys that were there that seemed bored out of their mind and quite not talking much. This probobly made the girls focus their attention on us as we all know that girls love being around fun guys. I noticed couple of girls checking us out and giving me and him strong EC. Most of the girls were with other girls, their moms, or their BF's. I was suprised at how many girls come to malls with their moms. I dont usually go to malls much as i hate shopping but after yesturday i think ill visit it a bit more often so i am looking for some tips. Obviously it would help to have a wingman but most of my friends are even bigger wossies than me until they get some alcohol in them.

 

[The Texas Tornado]

first of all while it is good that you are having fun with your friend, do not let yourself find comfort in this... realize that no matter how much fun you look like you are having it doesn't mean sh1t if you don't approach without hesitation. if the girl is waiting nearby and you are still joking around for like five minutes before approaching she's going to know you were just putting on a show.

it's definitely not good to go with chodey friends who have approach anxiety. when i first started sarging i used to go with this dude who was terrified of approaching... i too was terrified of it and we spent the whole sarges distracting ourselves by talking/eating/making excuses and we never actually got around to approaching. it is better just to go by yourself and set a goal of doing a certain number of approaches. but the best thing would be to go with a motivated wing who can help push you in sets and help you keep your state up.

as far as opening goes i've found that it's useless to sit around and wait for ioi's as this will severely limit your choice in women. when i see a hot girl i approach right away. i like the opener "you're pretty cute so i thought i'd come over and say hi."

good luck though, get in field and let us know how it goes.

 

[noodle]

Just be open and friendly.

My friend did this once:

He would hold two t-shirts up for comparison and asked another girl looking at some jeans.
Him: "Hey excuse me beautiful, which shirt do you think looks better?"
Her: "Ummm, That one!" (points to the shirt on the right)
Him: "hmm, well I guess I'll be putting that one back then " (playfully says it and SMILES)
Her: "HEY! Whats that suppose to mean? hehe"
Him: "That I don't like your choice of fashion? haha"
Her: "Fine! Meanie..."
Him: "I was just kidding, here I'll make it up to you."
Her: "How?"
Him: "Come with us for lunch at the food court. Then you can help me and my friend here with our fashion after "

All in all she agreed and we spent the afternoon shopping with her and one of her friends that was with her. Went VERY well I thought, you just gotta smile and let them know you are playing with them .


So yea, be friendly, open. and SMILING works WONDERS.
Shows that your confident, friendly, and overall a fun person.

 

[Prodigy746]

first of all while it is good that you are having fun with your friend, do not let yourself find comfort in this... realize that no matter how much fun you look like you are having it doesn't mean sh1t if you don't approach without hesitation. if the girl is waiting nearby and you are still joking around for like five minutes before approaching she's going to know you were just putting on a show.

it's definitely not good to go with chodey friends who have approach anxiety. when i first started sarging i used to go with this dude who was terrified of approaching... i too was terrified of it and we spent the whole sarges distracting ourselves by talking/eating/making excuses and we never actually got around to approaching. it is better just to go by yourself and set a goal of doing a certain number of approaches. but the best thing would be to go with a motivated wing who can help push you in sets and help you keep your state up.

as far as opening goes i've found that it's useless to sit around and wait for ioi's as this will severely limit your choice in women. when i see a hot girl i approach right away. i like the opener "you're pretty cute so i thought i'd come over and say hi."

good luck though, get in field and let us know how it goes.

Our main goal was to see the movie. The only reason we went to the mall was because there is only one IMAX theater and the movie in that one started 45 mins after we got there. We had to wait for another show so we went to the mall to pass time. Also we were not faking like we were having fun we actually were having fun. Our main goal was not to approach , just to pass time but there was chances to approach but we didnt have the balls.

 

[The Texas Tornado]

yeah thats straight, but what im saying is since you asked about how to get over AA, the best way to do so i've found is to go sarge alone or go sarge with like minded individuals. or just make up some game , some way to make approaching fun, and do that with ur friends when ur out... a bit of competition would def help