"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm going second yr college, i have quit drinking due to prior problem drinking and getting extremely healthy... i want to be a professional body builder, i currently stand 6' 4" 240lbs lean... i know frosh week is comming up which is party scene galore!!!! my question is what are some good drinks to put in ur hand so u dont seem like a b1tch drinking water... i really want to stay clean and sober because i am doing so well in life, i've been clean for 10 1/2 months... any advice is much appreciated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So you want to pose like you're a drinker so you look cool? What part of the game is that?
 

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morepoonplease said:
I'm going second yr college, i have quit drinking due to prior problem drinking and getting extremely healthy... i want to be a professional body builder, i currently stand 6' 4" 240lbs lean... i know frosh week is comming up which is party scene galore!!!! my question is what are some good drinks to put in ur hand so u dont seem like a b1tch drinking water... i really want to stay clean and sober because i am doing so well in life, i've been clean for 10 1/2 months... any advice is much appreciated.
I had my last beer in May 1990.
These days I like swedish bitters with spring/ mineral water or plain soda and a dash of lime juice. Great summer refresher.

Get used to driving a lot of drunks home ..:crackup:
 

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Carry around a flask, but just fill it with something non-alcoholic. That way people would still think you are drinking. Or if there is a keg, just carry around and empty cup.

When I was in college, sometimes I would go to parties and not drink. The fact is people don't really care if your drinking or not. Just be sociable and it will all be good.

BTW congrats on your sobriety.
 

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If you badly want to look like you're drinking for some reason grab a cup, don't drink and put it down somewhere when no one is looking. Which is all the time because in a party everyone has something better to do than to look at a guy and make sure he's drinking.

Also much respect, a lot of people can't control themselves when they are around large quantities of alcohol and everyone around them is drinking too. I know everyone claims they don't fall for peer pressure but once college starts they all go to parties and think "Ehh its OK I'm in college." "Maybe just this one time." "I'm mature enough to handle it". Even the nerds and ugos try to get wasted, first month of college I'm willing to bet that at least 65% of people drink. And it usually ends with them vomiting on the floor and having a friend piggyback them to the dorms.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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i have friends who dont drink and no one cares. drink your water all you want.
 

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Fvck what they think, there's NOTHING wrong with drinking nothing or drinking water. It's only an issue if you MAKE IT an issue, seriously. If you get asked why you aren't drinking, say you just don't want to. You aren't obliged to give them a reason, and you definitely don't need to lie about why not or make up a story. It's a non-issue, treat it like one.
 

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Or even just coke / diet coke. For all anyone knows, it's got rum / bourbon or whatever mixed in with it.

And if someone did make an issue of you not drinking, at your size, why would you give a f*ck?

My thoughts exactly and I have done it!!! I have done on many occasions drink coffee and I do not care what other dumba$$es think about it. I will be the one that maintains my pride and dignity while others act stupid from EtoH. Not to mention, I will be feeling just fine in the am while the boozers feel like warmed over $hit.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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San Jose California said:
If you're at a setting full of drunk people and you are sober, you're gonna stand out, (unless you try your best to ACT drunk) so to all those people who just said there's nothing wrong with not drinking at a party, um yea to an extent there is. If you're the only guy just standing there being sober and boring people will hate you.
I tend to think the people who are very drunk are boring, maybe not at first, but after awhile, it all gets old and boring for me.
 

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I drink coke/pepsi and get a lot of laughs from watching the drunks get more drunk as the night goes on. Live life sober is more fun.
 

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If you have to pretend you're drinking when you're not then you are seeking out people's validations and approval. This is not the quality of a confident man. Sport the water. With pride.
 

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Thanks for all the guys who provided useful information... like I said i'm very serious in the sport of heavy lifting and alcohol only has negative effects in that sport.... And if thats not enough to convince myself i always remind myself how depressing life can be when alcohol controls... i cannot drink safely, some people will never understand the concept and others who have seen it before are more understanding. I want to check out parties to meet people not to get plastered like most of them... and i'm sure i'll be able to spot the people who qualify for the program of alcoholics anonymous. thanks again for all the positive replies.
 
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