"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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For those of you with a "IamSuperLoser" kind of user name

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awake

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I am going to give you a tip which I think has been given to you before (or I hope so):

CHANGE YOUR USER NAME.

Dude, it has cientific facts , you are what you subconsciously think you are or say you are. Those are the bases of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), and I am not talking here about SS, I am talking about the real NLP, the one that asks you to get out of your system the thoughts or phrases that don't do any good to you. Like "I Can't", "I am a loser", "I just can succed", "I hate", "I suck" and so on.

Change thoughts of "I will never finish this" or "I will never succed" for "I wonder how fast I will finish this" or "I wonder how soon I will succeed". Those thoughts indeed program you to accomplish your goals and succed, and by giving yourself the right thoughts you are planting a good start towards getting good results.

I am going to make this a thread. It is incredible how many people on this forum have user names like that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJStudent

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Yeah, what kind of "confident" person are you if your username is "Imaloser"? Good post Awake.

I find this sh!t dumb too.
 
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Mr. Delicious

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I guess i think of myself as having male characteristics and being quite tasty :D
 
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The Time Machine

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pressing the blue button...bump!
 
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S.Y.L

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Mine has nothing to do with anything on this site, or anything related haha
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Since someone previously complained about my name being negative, I will clear this up by saying my name "Dj in Hell" is in no way a representation of myself, its just a reference from a comedy sitcom which I like.
 
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