For the sake of the children.

[HBK]

Guys, i have been thinking about this for a while. Hypothetically, If I was ever to have a son, and blessed to have a family some day. What would be the main things as a father and a man, would you want both your DAUGHTER(s) and SON(s) to learn from you?

I'm just interested in knowing how as men, what would you really want for your children to be like, and to learn and take from your advice when they're older and adults themselves.

For me, I would want my Son(s) to have respect for themselves as men. To grow up in having the confidence in themselves in do whatever they want, in any given area of life they wish. To handle things with compassion, but also be wise enough to be decisive. To not quit when the time's get tough, and to always be willing to open their minds to others idea's, culture's, and be worldly men. To be able to take criticism, and to learn from mistakes and experiences. Not be stubborn, and I suppose most important, to have the courage to make tough decisions and follow them through, even when others don't agree.

For Daughters...this is so hard, I'm really at lost here. But I'll take a stab. How do you go about teaching your daughter in thinking she isn't a princess, and you can't always get what you want, especially in a society which glorify's "looking pretty, and sexy gets you everything". I would want my daughter to be caring, loving etc and also smart enough to see through Media and Societal pressures. Easy to say. hmm

What do you guys think???

 

[TonyBaloney]

this is impossible to do alone, but I would say that on this levl the god squad could help - take them to church?

 

[DJDamage]

For Daughters...this is so hard, I'm really at lost here. But I'll take a stab. How do you go about teaching your daughter in thinking she isn't a princess, and you can't always get what you want, especially in a society which glorify's "looking pretty, and sexy gets you everything". I would want my daughter to be caring, loving etc and also smart enough to see through Media and Societal pressures. Easy to say. hmm

What do you guys think???

Teach her like you would with your boy.

 

[Iceberg]

I don't have any kids, so this is all hypothetical on my end:

I'd say that the one common theme I see in my male and female friends who have sh1tty relationships is - they have no passions outside of relationships.

The guy who stays with a terrible girlfriend because he fears finding someone new.

The girl HB7 who has the entitlement of a HB10.

I feel like both of these groups just seem to lack a passion in life. Whether it's art or career or volunteering or religion...whatever. They don't know what it's like to work towards goals. They're afraid of failure, and the peaks and valleys that come with passionate pursuits. And I feel like these types of things give you self worth that exists outside of boyfriends and girlfriends. Real self worth. Earned self worth. And the humility of knowing that no matter how hard you work towards a goal, someone out there is better than you.

So what would I teach my kids to help them grow into well balanced, humble, but confident members of society? I'd teach them to follow their passions.

 

[mrRuckus]

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For Daughters...this is so hard, I'm really at lost here. But I'll take a stab. How do you go about teaching your daughter in thinking she isn't a princess, and you can't always get what you want, especially in a society which glorify's "looking pretty, and sexy gets you everything". I would want my daughter to be caring, loving etc and also smart enough to see through Media and Societal pressures. Easy to say. hmm

Um, say no a lot?