For the first time ever.....I need some help, y'all....

[Craig Reeves]

OK, there's this girl that I met recently. Well, we hit it off very well and we seemed to converse good. Well, I eventually get her email (phone numbers are useless to me, since I don't have a phone) and things move along from there and so I start to invite her out with me and all that good stuff.

Well, it turns out that one day, I see her on campus - of course, as expected, she goes completely out of her way to get my attention. In fact, she makes herself late to class by trying to get my attention. Anyway, we talk for about a minute, and then I tell her that she needs to get to class or she'll be late. So of course she gave me that expected "but I want to talk to you" look, smiled and left to class.

Well, a little while later, I'm walking around campus and I hear some people talking from somewhere, and it sounded like the girl's voice, but she didn't sound happy. She sounded a bit angry and sad. I also hear a guy's voice, and he sounds like he's really upset. I start to listen in for a bit, and I eventually see them together. Yep, this is definatly her boyfriend because of the way they're fighting. From what it looked like, the relationship was in serious trouble, but I'm not certain.

Here's where my problem comes in. Women can generally pick up a hint if a guy is interested in her, this is what helps to spark their own interest. But this girl has not ONCE mentioned her boyfriend, or have ever been with her boyfriend around me. Ever. And she knows that I'm interested in her.

This girl seems to be head-over-heels for me, to be honest. My brother says that I am all she talks about, and that she always wants to see me.

When I found out she had a boyfriend, I felt CRUSHED. It's been a long time since I have ever felt CRUSHED because a girl had a boyfriend. I usually could easily NEXT her if she wasn't interested in me. But I think I was crushed because this girl is very interested in me, I think.

I really don't want to NEXT this girl yet, but I will definatly start seeking other women. What do you guys think?

 

[Skel]

Ya, I think you should forget about her. sounds like a problem already. One itis

 

[drixsa]

listen if you want to get technical she didnt do something wrong

when sh!t starts to hit the fan im gonna look to find as may girls as i can before it gets smelly.

i say just keep up with the girl, but if she doesnt tell you down the line that she has/had a b-f then shes gone

otherwise i see no real reason to next her

 

[FitnessGuy]

Originally posted by Skel
Ya, I think you should forget about her. sounds like a problem already.

Exactly my thoughts, sound's like a problem already.

 

[Big Pappy]

There's a reason this girl didn't mention her boyfriend. She's looking to trade up.

The last girl that I "nexted" - was a friend of mine for 2 years. I didn't know she had a boyfriend for about 3 months of hanging out, drinking, etc.

When I asked her why she never mentioned him (after I laid the mack down on her) she said that she was ashamed of him and was looking for a way to get rid of him with a minimum of drama. (he was living in her house, but he was paying her house note and other expenses)

There may be a list of reasons why she hasn't mentioned him, but the main reason may be because

1. She doesn't want to use you as an emotional crutch.
2. She is attracted to you. If she mentions a BF, you might slip her into the friend zone.


So, just take her out on an action date.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

I've experienced the same thing.... This girl I met first day of school via some schoolpartysetupthingy to introduce new students.... Me, her, her friend and another girl hung around all the time and this girl hung around me 24-7, called me, always wanted to dance, looked at me always. Talked about me 24-7 to friends, she even got really hurt and almost started to cry when she heard other girls talk about me and wanting me. Then a week or two later when we were out she told me flat out that she was so inlove as she's never been before but she had a BF she cared for and couldn't break with him. She was really afraid to tell me too, she was shivering with fear. She was so afraid i'd never talk with her again. Which turned into her not being allowed to talk with me again by him hehe

 

[Porky]

Skel, it isn't one-itis. He just likes her. Maybe it's a subtle difference, but it's there.

 

[Craig Reeves]

Porky's right...

He's right, it's not one-itis. One-itis is when she's the only one that you are going to set your sights on. This girl is not the only one.