"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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For the DJ skeptics

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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West- I agree with what Allen wrote there 100 percent.

that may of been the first post I read when I got here.


of course if ur a loser afc, JBY is useless...


I think the disagreements here would be solved much easier if everyone was talking to each other in person..and not typing..

its easy to miscontrue..and im sure we all do it
 

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Just be yourself is good advice to the person that has the right frame of mind (consciously or not)... but not for the person that is likely asking for advice.

I hear it's easy to pick up chicks at church, so having faith might not be so bad in itself either :p

Anyway, it's time to bring this board back to the basics,,, they've gotten out of hand.
 
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