"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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For some of us, it just isn't in our cards...

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Heyy...I used to have your problem also...This was at a time where i had an amazing financial situation, worked out, nice wardrobe, etc. etc. It was very difficult for me to attract women for some reason although in my mind i had all the 'bases' covered so to speak in being qualified as a 'high status male.'

The one thing that i finally realized through a few years of observing the field and hanging out with guys who got tangible results was that what you 'subcommunicate' to a chick through your body language, posture, and basic mannerism is what really counts. It's almost like a telepathic message into her subconscious telling her that you are ultimately the prize and the high status male that she's been yearning all her life. Mind you I was hanging with players with worse financial situations, but they had the ability to create an aura as if they were Rockerfeller himself sitting next to you.

So taking the advice of these players, I actually worked on my inner game as the community likes to call it, and i certainly got results. Most importantly, you must ingrain in yourself that you are a powerful and influential person even if your day job is fishing. Once you ingrain in yourself the right set of beliefs, create the right aura, you will get to the point where chicks will approach you. And, Edger, your good looks are definitely going to be a positive :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wealth is not only tangible results but also a state of mind.
 

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Interceptor said:
Wealth is not only tangible results but also a state of mind.
Golden!

The wealth mentality is antonymous with the scarcity mentality.

This is the IDEAL state of confidence.
 

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Arsenal101 said:
Heyy...I used to have your problem also...This was at a time where i had an amazing financial situation, worked out, nice wardrobe, etc. etc. It was very difficult for me to attract women for some reason although in my mind i had all the 'bases' covered so to speak in being qualified as a 'high status male.'

The one thing that i finally realized through a few years of observing the field and hanging out with guys who got tangible results was that what you 'subcommunicate' to a chick through your body language, posture, and basic mannerism is what really counts. It's almost like a telepathic message into her subconscious telling her that you are ultimately the prize and the high status male that she's been yearning all her life. Mind you I was hanging with players with worse financial situations, but they had the ability to create an aura as if they were Rockerfeller himself sitting next to you.

So taking the advice of these players, I actually worked on my inner game as the community likes to call it, and i certainly got results. Most importantly, you must ingrain in yourself that you are a powerful and influential person even if your day job is fishing. Once you ingrain in yourself the right set of beliefs, create the right aura, you will get to the point where chicks will approach you. And, Edger, your good looks are definitely going to be a positive :)
Bro, this is what I'm saying..my body language, mannerisms, posture, etc. is all down to a "T". And exactly, you mention about creating that "aura". I know, I ALWAYS do that. Ingraining the right aura, the right set of beliefs, is EXACTLY what I do.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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fuzzx said:
change countries.
A lot of guys out there really need to get this false idea out of their head that women outside of the United States are "different", "easier", more down to earth, etc. Women are women no matter where you go. It's in their biology.

My ex-girlfriend was south western European, I've been around many Russian women..THEY ARE ALL THE SAME.
 

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azanon said:
I'm probably just going to end up reiterating things already said, but the answer to your comments/observations is that you clearly have a misunderstanding as to what's important to women; edgar.

Drawing from laddertheory.com, 50% is money and power. And that has (just about) 0% to do with game. Another 20% (half of the 40% attraction at laddertheory) is looks. That has 0% to do with game.

Competition and Novelity discussed at laddertheory collectively represent 16% in his pie chart (40% of 40%). That would be where game falls into the pie. So if you're nailing (only?) 16% of the total pie, then I presume it is now clear why you could still not be having great success overall.

This gets back into my brief comment I made in that new marriage thread. If you're not genuinely a "great" sum total package man, then you simply cannot expect to be landing equilivently great women. Women might have their flaws, but they can (usually) tell mediocre (or worse) pretenders from the real deal. At best, you can trick them for a ONS with little to no substance, but it will be short-lived.

The men who are going to literally make a slaying are those with real substance AND the tools you can find in the DJ bible. To use an analogy in the market world, there are great products with poor marketting. There are poor products that have great marketing. But wow; how special and effective is a great product with great marketing too!
I never got around to addressing you on this, but what you're saying has nothing to do with a woman who is simply "lusting" for a guy.
 
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I agree that women choose men based on looks, money, and/or power. To that I would add that most of the guys here who claim that their success with women is due to factors that they have control over ("game," "self-improvement," and "seduction techniques") are just rationalizing the fact that their success is largely due to factors that they have no control over (looks, money, and/or power). Few want to consider the role of luck, since that would mean they would have to admit that they are no more skilled with women than guys who have had zero success.
 

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edger said:
A lot of guys out there really need to get this false idea out of their head that women outside of the United States are "different", "easier", more down to earth, etc. Women are women no matter where you go. It's in their biology.

My ex-girlfriend was south western European, I've been around many Russian women..THEY ARE ALL THE SAME.
I agree with you that women are the same everywhere, but there are two factors that will help you when you move to another country:

- The foreigner novelty factor (this doesn't last very long though)
- Being totally out of your comfort zone forces you to bring out your best and break out of that rut you were stuck in.
 
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