For Real

[Suede06]

It isn't all about the sex, though the sex is awesome. It isn't really about the companionship (we all have our buddies), though spooning is nice, and it isn't about the arm candy, though we all want to flaunt it..... so what are we really doing chasing after tail in the first place?

Why we are on this site, why we have dedicated our mental capacities to figuring out women, and why we spend so much time breaking down our interactions comes down to our self-concept. I put forth we as guys want inner-confidence and high self-esteem just as much as we want 'great sex' and a deep connection with an awesome girl.

It starts on the inside fellas. We need to learn to love what we have and who we are. Everyone knows women respond to guys who are confident in their own skin and who respect themselves.

It's not easy. There is no such thing as a free meal, and there sure as hell is no such thing as an easy path to self-discovery. Get on the path, figure out what you need to do to improve your confidence. Get positive, stop beating yourself up, man-up and take responsibilty for your actions and move on. Do the best with what you have, and get real about changing yourself. Take a month, two months, three months, whatever and make a committment to yourself to stop the bull**** self-defeating talk that constantly pollutes your psyche. Force yourself to find things about you that are totally the ****. Think about them, don't brag outloud, but know what they are. When bad thoughts get in, squash them with your positive attributes.

Share it with us. I want to know what you are doing to be a more positive, enlightened dude. I want to know what you are doing, what you are saying to yourself, and what your negative thoughts are and continue to be. In place of self-abusive mindsets, what are you installing into your thought process?

This is real stuff and it has real effects on every area of your life. You can do it. That's not bs, you can really change yourself. Good luck.

 

[blinkwatt]

I want to know what you are doing to be a more positive, enlightened dude.
I think about how getting caught up on "negative thoughts" doesnt help me get anywhere in my life. I also think of how I dont like hanging out with "negative nancys",so I never would like to be one.

In place of self-abusive mindsets, what are you installing into your thought process?
Just remember its life,everyone,yes even me,falls short sometimes.


This is real stuff and it has real effects on every area of your life. You can do it. That's not bs, you can really change yourself. Good luck.
Yes indeed,everyone notices how I have changed the past few years dramatically. Everyone says I have it all,the personality,the confidence,the women,the car, and the job...No one,not even my parents would have said that a year ago.

 

[Tomatoes]

Wow....you have just changed my life for ever in a way I will never understand. Where have you been all my life?

Or Not....


What you have just wrote is the kinda sh!t you would hear on one of those phoney self help tapes. Im suprised you didnt tell me to feel the deliciousness of my power.

Anyways welcome to the site.


Sarge On!

 

[Cheatz]

Tomatoes get fuc ked you troll. Yeah so what it may have the same underlying message from self help tapes but does that change the value of his post? :box: Don't be inconsiderate you just don't realise how a post like this could give themselves enough motivation to change their life around.


Welcome Suede06, i just wish we had more new members like you on the board posting helpful insight

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

we get 10 posts like this every week

 

[Tomatoes]

we get 10 posts like this every week

Exactly. No one uses the search funtion anymore.

 

[Suede06]

I'm disappointed some people are so shortsighted and narrow in their interpretation of what I'm trying to say. Those of you who really focus on my point will ultimately realize the foundation of any successful change in the mind of an individual begins with a positive outlook on life and on yourself.

Sure it's easy for anyone to say ideas like these are just self-help boloney. But these are the same people who have mostly negative outlooks on life and consistently struggle to be comfortable in their skin. I don't even need to describe how women perceive them.

This is a forum for enlightened dudes who want to expand their minds. I'm not about to sit here and tell you everything you need to do to become more positive and self-aware. But it's out there, and I believe obtaining such knowledge is vital for success with women and life.

Help me see where I'm wrong here.

Oh and I don't believe sitting down and meditating and just spouting out words like a mantra will get you far. But doing that in addition to maintaining a positive outlook in all situations, associating with people who have similar mindsets, reading some good books about this stuff and working to develop other leadership attributes as well will gradually improve ones self-worth and confidence as a whole.