For Love or Money? Need advice.

[Bible_Belt]

38, no kids, never married...have you asked yourself why? Don't you think that she probably has some issues that have come between her and all of her previous relationships? It's not like she doesn't know that, either, and what's happening is that she is putting her best face forward because it is getting to be late in the game for her to be trying to find a man. If she had been trying this hard for the past twenty years, she would have been married long ago.

And by the way, I say these things for the sake of perspective, not to tell you what path to choose.

 

[expos]

38, no kids, never married...have you asked yourself why? Don't you think that she probably has some issues that have come between her and all of her previous relationships? It's not like she doesn't know that, either, and what's happening is that she is putting her best face forward because it is getting to be late in the game for her to be trying to find a man. If she had been trying this hard for the past twenty years, she would have been married long ago.

And by the way, I say these things for the sake of perspective, not to tell you what path to choose.

The only thing she has revealed to me, that has made me wonder a little, is that she said she takes break ups REALLY badly. Like 6 months of pain and then she gets her life back together. I'm sort of this way too.

I've really tried to get to the bottom of what might be her issue(s). I was married to a BPD for 3 years so I know when a woman is coming on strong...and she is not nearly as intense as my ex-BDP wife. She was also tougher to game than my ex-wife, who basically stalked me.

I quizzed her about past boyfriends and she actually gave me their names, and they are still Facebook friends with her, but don't live in the area any more. She said she has been close to engagement before but for whatever reason it didn't happen.

She is a successful career woman, apparently a 3.9 GPA in college, and not some low-grade trailer trash that has stumbled through life. She lives in this beautiful home and has cut it on her own without any handouts. Her sister is also a success as well, and she is married to a successful guy.

So, I'm not seeing any red flags. She has, however, done a lot of research on me and quizzed my friends about my past to try to get some dirt on me. She brought up some stuff to me that I've never told her about myself...so I know she's really trying unearth a lot of crap on me.

I'm trying to think of some ways to test her...

 

[Alvafe]

losing time on her if you have a better job offer take it far better,

also just read what BB said the sole fact she is 38 no kids and still single means a lot about her you are letting it go, unless you want a sugar mommy, then go for her wallet

 

[BraddH]

We know way too little to give the best advices. I would make her come with me to the city.

 

[expos]

also just read what BB said the sole fact she is 38 no kids and still single means a lot about her

Like I said, she has had boyfriends and even told me about them. One was younger than me, actually. Has had her heart broken a lot, apparently - but she very picky with her men. She has often told me that "if they are not smarter than me I want nothing to do with them."

The last dude she was with was an electrical engineer who was deeply religious and they dated for a year.

I don't know - I guess I'm still testing her.

 

[Big Nuts]

She has often told me that "if they are not smarter than me I want nothing to do with them."
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But all chicks are emotional peons, let alone intelligent. Bragging about what she determines as intelligent is .....another RED FLAG!

Shoes, expensive non-functional purses and reality TV is intelligent to women.

 

[HyperAnalyze]

This one is kind of tough. But In my opinion, self-development is more important than anything. There is always going to be women around.

Now, if something came up and you lost your one opportunity to further your career would you be beating yourself up in the head?

 

[expos]

This one is kind of tough. But In my opinion, self-development is more important than anything. There is always going to be women around.

Now, if something came up and you lost your one opportunity to further your career would you be beating yourself up in the head?

It is a very tough call.

I had my follow up interview today and I believe it went very well and my resume has been handed over to the hiring manager.

If the job is offered, I will tell my director and see if he actually counters with an offer. If not, I think the choice is clear that I will need to leave.

I am struggling to walk away from this girl...AFC syndrome is pressing hard....