For everyone who doing a journal

[Blackdragon5095]

So you wanna do a Apporach journal huh ?

I see more and more people wanting to do 1. Guys like my bro Boucne, shyryder, flows and other people. Do it because they wanna improve their lives.
Other people seem to want to do 1 because they wanna get attention and become famous like Pook, Anti-dump, Mr.Fingers, and other good Dj's.

Apporaching women isn't a easy math problem like 2+2 or 34x24.
This is much harder and requires alot of self-control. So do a apporach journal improve your life. Not to run around bragging or crying about how hard it is to apporach a girl. Even KJ's know how hard it is to apporach women ( thats why they live on the computer ).

Here some tips:
Don't be nervous about writing up a bad apporach. We will still respect you even if we laugh at you. :crackup:

If you start a apporach journal........... FINISH IT !!!!! Not finishing a apporach journal or a goal, shows how you are not willing to take risk and change your life. " ONLY YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE "

Be honest, if you come back saying you lied about this or that apporach then guys around here will see you as a lair and won't believe anything you say. :nono:

Write what happen as best as you can. This is the best way other dj's can help you and even you help them :yes:

Patience, patience, and more patience. I done at least 50 apporach before my journal. I'm still having trouble. This stuff is gonna take alot of work. If you did 100 apporaches why not do another 100 ? or 150 or 200. Because when you get good at apporaching women you will be doing more apporaches after your 100 goal. So get used to apporaching women.

If anyone else wants to add tips, please feel free.

Good luck.

 

[johnmich]

Tip: Dont start it until you have done you first approach, some people start one and post loads before they even approach a chick (naming no names)

 

[Badmannaz]

exactly!!! i started mine after my 1st approach....
i don't like the guys who are like im going to start in 7 days the b*tch out


note.........

these approach journals can really help people so don't post anything false

kudos BD

 

[Bourne]

Greatly put.

I read that it takes 2-4 years to get really GOOD at something. So do make a long-term commitment to this and it will pay off in so many ways.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

real talk by everyone

 

[Blackdragon5095]

Tip: If you do the same apporach you get the same results ~ Someone said it

 

[AudiTy]

1) Take the time to write out responses to comments/questions you have experienced in the past. This way you'll know what to say next time, giving you more confidence.

"Competance breeds confidence" - Unknown

2) It's not the opener that's important, it's the way you deal with the response.

-AudiTy =o

 

[Docs]

The best journal.

1. Date the c0cksucker.
2. Include every damn detail possible, tell us how you nailed that introduction, or how you got the number.
3. Don't lie.
4. And don't flame the people who reply.
5. And for the people that do reply, unless it is absolutely deserving, don't be gay and flame someone for trying.

 

[Blackdragon5095]

In the mirror & Apporach Fuel

Very well put Docs and Thanks to the mod who sticky this.

Tip: I been doing this and will do it more. So you wanna improve your apporach ??

Go infront of a mirror and start acting like as if you was apporaching some hb7 or even hb9. At first you will feel this is silly. But it's good. It will help you smile more, better body language, and better at giving a opener. Just don't tell anyone you do this. ( besides us ) you may get some laughs :crackup: .


Tip 2: Your in the field. You see a hb8, man she has a smoking body and you wanna tap that ass. Gusse who shows up !!! Fear !!! He starts with his bullcrap talk ( You can't do it. You look stupid. Give it up man ) Makes you wanna run . Tell yourself a good quote.

Examples:
"Whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger"

"It's lack of faith that makes people afraid of meeting challenges, and I believed in myself."-Muhammad Ali

"Do not be too timid or unsure about your actions. All life is an experiment." --
Emerson

Also tell yourself a quote in the morning and before you go to a place to apporach or even before you apporach.

I see hb7, she is looking at some clothes. I go to apporach and fear pops up.
Me: Thinking ( The greatest risk is not to take any risk at all )
Me: Hey can you come here
Hb7: ~comes over~
Me: whats your name ?
Hb7: Hb7
Me: Well hb7, I got a question ? I'm going on a date and to this place where you gonna be dressed up. I don't wanna go in lookin like I came out of a crack house.
Hb7: lol
Hb7: blah blah blah

Pratice Makes Perfect guys.

Ketp the tips coming

 

[Blackdragon5095]

unanswered Questions

So you asked a question in your journal. And no one answered it ?
Don't think your journal is 100% useless.

Links that will change your game

http://sosuave.com/

http://www.bristollair.com/

Dj bible

http://www.sosuave.com/home/links.htm

 

[chickenlegs03]

I initially made the thread to hold myself obligated to my approaching goal...so thanks for making this thread Blackdragon, as it's made me want to add more 'substance' to my journal and really get out there more.

Even though you didn't write it in this thread, I will because it's been stuck in my head ever since you wrote it in my thread:

"If I don't approach, I won't learn" ...I really like that statement.

good luck with your guys approaches too

 

[Blackdragon5095]

Apporaching women isn't a easy math problem like 2+2 or 34x24.
This is much harder and requires alot of self-control.

I completely disagree with this statment except with the part about having self control. Seduction is only Hard if YOU make it hard, approaching women is only hard if YOU make it hard, it is a process that should be fun, should be easy if you make it easy - by letting it all go and having some fun with it, not taking it so seriously. Its a woman your approaching here guys, not a mafia boss with a shotgun in his hands, we arent going to war, we arent jumping out of a plane - we are approaching soft, harmless women!! It is easy as easy as 1,2,3 but only if you make it so!!!

Sarge On...

Thanks for the tip man and same with you Chickenlegs. I forgot I even said that lol.

 

[AudiTy]

SS changed again :x

 

[flows101]

Nice one Blackdragon5095 very usefull for people just getteing into the apporach journal stuff and people whom have already started.

 

[Blackdragon5095]

Interracial Dating

Interracial Dating

I get tired of hearing people cry about it. So for you non-kj's who are out to improve. I decide to post about this subject. Remember guys. Apporach journal is to find YOURSELF !!!!!!! NOT TO FIND MORE FEARS OR WALLS !!!!

the biggest DJ i've ever met was my friend ricky - he was a 5'5" chubby asian guy with a bad perm and crappy clothes. he was a college drop out also.

but this guy got with *everybody*. i am not kidding. it was just amazing to us how this guy could pull.

so - obviously, if you are a true DJ, then race does not mean sh**.

Hitch said this in the movie." Women don't know what they want until they see it". Come on guys. We hear it all the time.

AFC: What kind of guy you want.
Girl: I want a nice guy
And you already know what she goes for.

After reading over 500pages of stuff about women. After hearing 50 different quotes about women. I realize that women don't know what the hell they want.

To be truthful with you guys. Before I came to this site. I was a below afc. After being on here and doing some apporaching. I notice I know more girls and even flirt with them ( some have b/fs).

Another point.

When a white guy gets rejected by a white girl he might think this.

Guy: do you want to go on a date ?
Girl: sorry I'm just not interested
Girl leaves.
Guy: I'm such a loser

What a white guy who is a dj or pua thinks when he gets rejected by a white girl

DJ: Do you want to go on a date tuesday. I will be busy all next week
Girl:mmmmm
( dj realizes she is not interested )
Girl: call me back and I'll let you know when I think about it
DJ: ok bye
DJ: Thinking ( NEXT !!!!, I'll just find another girl. Her lost )

Now another example

Asian Afc: Do you want to go a date ?
White girl: Sorry just not interested
Girl walks away
Asian afc: She rejected me because I'm a different race

Now Asian guy who is a Dj or PUA

DJ Asian: Do you want to go to the bookstore with me on Wed. I'll be busy for 2 weeks.
DJ Asian: it will be a while until you see me again
White girl: call back and I'll let you know what I think
DJ Asian: ok ( I'm not that stupid )
DJ asian: ( Next, Time to find another girl. )

My point is. Fear makes up stupid reasons why we don't do something right.
Now it's obvesliy that the white guy isn't thinking he got rejected because he white. He more thinking he a loser. Asian guy thinking it's because it's his race.
Both of them apporached the same girl. When the girl could be.

1. Lesbain
2. Have a b/f
3. Not interested
4. etc..

Fear is 1 of the top 5 reasons people don't succeed in life. When I see people ask about it's their skin color that ketps girls from liking them. That lets me know, that you don't believe in yourself. Nothing is Impossible.

Until you start telling yourself. ( I can do anything I put my mind to ). And begin working out. Smiling more. And reading dj stuff and apporaching women.

You are not gonna have any girls coming your away. No matter what color you are!!!!!!!!!!! Even if you are blue. Until you start acting like a man, until you decide to quit letting skin colors get to you and say " Pu$$Y is Pu$$Y" and realize that all girls of colors in the usa.

Play mind games.
Cheat on their b/fs
At least slept with 6 guys before she meet you.

Then you might as well go back to buying porn and jacking off to it. Because women in the subcisious mind want men who believe in theirselfs and repesct theirselfs. Not nice guys who are quick to kiss ass and treat her like is queen of new england.

Attraction isn't a choice, attraction is a chance ~ David Deangelo

The end.

I hope mods start deleting posts like this. Because a real man, likes who he is and knows pu$$y is pu$$y. He knows that a white girl or even a asian girl will drop him if she thinks she is better then him. He knows a black girl will cheat on him and file for divorce if he turns into a little boy.

When I see posts like this, it shows fear. Fear of appecting who you are.
Even self-hate.
Interracial relationships are being more accepted by the new generation. ( due to people growing up in schools with other races and getting along )
Often women say they don't date asian guys or w/e to TEST YOU IDOITS !!!!!!!! AND SEE HOW YOU REACT TO IT.
THEIRFORE SHE CAN TELL WHO IS THE REAL MAN AND WHO IS THE AFC. :yes:

Race is an issue guys bring up when they are truly desperate.
It is an excuse when you've ran out of other excuses.

Everyday I work in a mall I see Asian men with white women EVERYDAY.

I see black women with white men and white women with black men. EVERYDAY.

I was recently talking to some girls who were also talking to a black guy. One of the girls has a mentally handicapped sister. The guy was doing ok until he made a comment about retards. She told him about her sister. He then started appologizing and he was instantely shut out of the group by them cutting him out to talk to me exclusively. It wasn't because he was black but it was because he was a wussy. He was still in the set after the comment, but the apologizing like a wussy is what got him cut out.

If you act like an idiot who is clueless what women want, then it is only a matter of time before any woman of any race sees this and heads for greener pastures.

Stop these terrible excuses. WOmen of all races like men of all other races. Every race also has racists. Some women we appraoch are unavailable anyway, it is all a matter of chance that is possible plus the skill required to do so.

 

[Blackdragon5095]

The rewards after hard work

So are the rewards of hard work. What do you win after success. Well you win more then just new confidence and self-believe.

Afc: If I do a journal or a progress report
afc: what will be my reward for the hard work
me: go here and you will see


http://www.dumpalink.com/media/1121160672

 

[Blackdragon5095]

Confidence and Composure: The Foundation of Game

A great post on Confidence and Composure by Wolf

DHV = Demonstration of higher value
DLV = Demonstration of lower value

To elaborate on my previous post, a demonstration of higher value is any sign of male leadership, social status, or self confidence. You can think of myriad examples of these principles: captain of the football team, a wealthy captain of industry, etc. as the most obvious examples.

However, women pick up on more mundane signs of confidence. When you approach in a friendly way, without appearing needy or nervous, that's a DHV. If you can continue speaking to them in an entertaining and articulate manner, that's a DHV. If your body posture is excellent, if you are well dressed, if you have a good physique and a nice looking face, these are DHV's also. In summary, your appearance, your body language and the way you speak can DHV or DLV you.

Women will test and qualify you frequently. They will ask you to buy them a drink. They will ask your age. They will ask you what you do for work. The way you negotiate these various hoops will either allow you to escalate or force you to eject.

There's a thread directly below this one on Mystery's ebook. I highly recommend it. It has lots of useful strategies. However, I say begin with Weapons of Mass Seduction. It is massively useful for addressing self confidence and assertiveness issues.

Also, initially you will have to "fake" being confident around women, if you have not done lots of approaches in the past. This is fine. Realize however that true confidence comes from your accomplishments: from your education, your job, your family ties. True confidence DOES NOT and SHOULD NOT come from how many women you bed or their HB rating. Women will seek you out when you have your act together. DO NOT become obsessed with game. Obsession with game in and of itself is a DLV.


Wolf

 

[Blackdragon5095]

#1. Be More Open. Be Open to Everyone and Everything. Be Ready to Change All Your Beliefs at Any Time. Do Not Cling to One Perspective.

Great point Chickenlegs. :rockon:

 

[Blackdragon5095]

Yo NC
Did your Chipottle Sarge stung?
Awesome dude, think of it this way:
You know when you start lifting weights to get stronger and the day after your muscles hurt because you teared tissue and it is recovering and getting building more muscle fibers/
That is what bodybuilders shoot for, that pain that lets them know they stretched to the max and the muscle was worked out enough to the point of requiring more growth

That is what you are essencially doing to your character, and as you keep getting rejected you kep on growing stronger and stronger. Closing successes are sweet but they don't give you the character groth of a rejection, only rejections help your character stronger.
Closing successes are only the by-product of a strong character (the pook that makes u an alpha- not fearing failure)

I am envious, though I don't enjoy them that much I need rejections too else I'll start lagging.

Sarge on brother!!

Great stuff Phoneix. I need to ask for more phone numbers so I can get rejected more.

 

[So pimp its scary]

A good idea in that case would be to delete all posts that are 'approach journal' without including a first approach.