For everyone on SS.

[fuko2007]

Sitting bored out of my mind at work and was just thinking about somethings. I just started the NC challenge and am on day 7 since the woman dumped me. I have not been on SS for very long but am a fas learner. Before i met this woman i was a true DJ. Never gave a rats behind if a woman nexted me or whatever. It was like i was incapeable of being hurt emotionally ,and i got laid all the time. Any way im starting to get my inner DJ back an regaining my DJ mentality.

Wich leads me to my thought. Why are most of us here? Hurt by a woman in someway and needed support is what i gather. But why do we give so much control to someone in our lives that did so little for us? Even after the relationship is done why cant we just sever that emotional connection even after being kicked in the face. If your best friend started beating you in the face you wouldnt stand there, i hope you would go to his ass. So why dont our defence mechanisms work when it comes to women? Even the one that is the most important we ignore that would be our gut.

But what i have noticed is this happens more to guys who are in LTR's more so than short term relationships. It happend to me, but why does it when we know and have all this knowledge on how women work and operate. I had an old Command Sergent Major tell me one time...live your life by S.O.P's standard operating proceduers. I think that everything on this site is an S.O.P and im going to start living by it. The Dj bible the book of pook and all the good threads ive read.

If everyone would do that i think their lives would be better and there would be no need for things like the NC challenge or threads about guys crying over a woman that walks all over them. But thats just a thought. feel free to put your opinion out there. maybe some new ss guy will read this and figuer something out like i did.

 

[j0504s]

Pretty simalar to you...I was unstoppble....went ltr with a bpd....broke heart....now im back to where i once was...you will get there...but what my brought me here was the break up....now i stay to pass along advice and get some as well.

good luck, stay strong
Keep Spinning,
J0504S

 

[Smok1nAce]

when i first came to this sight i had gone through a 2 year relationship we broke up and lost all my confidence due to my best freind at the time going behind my back and sleeping with her. I was young a dumb and didnt know how to handle it, during these 2 years i cheated on her multiple times telling my best freind everything. i was really a DJ having many plates in rotation and even having a 3 some 2 times with different women each time. i felt amazing.
once we broke up i was lost for a couple of months unsure of myself, and no women paid me any attention.
now im 22 and have a future in mind and working toward it ever day. but some days it jus feel like ill be alone for ever Ik im still young but society puts some much pressure on men to have women and be a ladies man. I relized after all those women i had that they where all *****s including my gf, so what did i really loose. nothing. but in the end was i a real DJ or just i guy with a fancy car? IDK.

 

[plate's_empty]

My whole story's a long but good one. If I make to my 1000th post I'm going to tell it.

But, most recently, it should compare to most people on here. I had a BPD ex who I ended it with. BUT, of course, she was doing all the things to reel me back in, just so she could flip it around on me.....and it was working. I had broken up with her based on logic, but still had feelings for her. She started pullling all kinds of $hit on me that had my head spinning.

I didn't know what to do, friends gave advice, but you know how that goes. Plus I really wanted to understand what she was doing and why, and the best way to deal with it.

So, I googled something she was doing at the time, something simple, and low and behold a thread topic pops up on the situation......from some site called sosuave.com.

The rest is history, this last two months has brought me back from the dead. I'm a new man.

Sosuave is a think tank with the latest ideas and solutions to the world's biggest problem I've been with countless women but have been shut down by countless more. Reading a thread with someone else's issues or advice reminds me of past situations I've been in, letting me know why it worked or why it didn't work. Some days light bulbs are going off all over the place.

I'm hooked.

 

[fuko2007]

souds like everyone is on the same page. Great stuff guys. I to found ss when i googled something because of my bpd ex.A think tank is spot on. I encourage everyone who reads to post on how you found this site and what you knowledge you have gained since you joined and how things are now. it might help some others out. keep posting guys.

 

[fuko2007]

Got flaked on lastnight. Reflected on the DJ bible. Nexted her. I have gotten 5 texts since then begging me to forgive her. Guess what? no reply.

 

[VladPatton]

I came here out of sheer confusion as to what the hell are these girls doing. What does this mean, what does that mean? Does she like me? How do I know? It was all a smoke screen at best. I ended up on one PUA site after another, and in the end, they all wanted my money, and remarkably, it was always the guy's fault. Give us 100 bux and we'll tell you how not to screw up. Oh you screwed up? Give us another 50.

By Googling "is PUA a scam?" I ended up at SoSUave. In the 10 months I've been here things have been clarifying...by real world accounts of everyday guys. Everything from age 15 on started making sense. The smoke screen has dissipated.

And for that, I thank you.

 

[fuko2007]

I came here out of sheer confusion as to what the hell are these girls doing. What does this mean, what does that mean? Does she like me? How do I know? It was all a smoke screen at best. I ended up on one PUA site after another, and in the end, they all wanted my money, and remarkably, it was always the guy's fault. Give us 100 bux and we'll tell you how not to screw up. Oh you screwed up? Give us another 50.

By Googling "is PUA a scam?" I ended up at SoSUave. In the 10 months I've been here things have been clarifying...by real world accounts of everyday guys. Everything from age 15 on started making sense. The smoke screen has dissipated.

And for that, I thank you.

Good stuff patton. you have given me tons of good advice on some of my threads. Thanks for that. But this site does help clear some of the smoke and mirrors women put up. And as diffrent each one is they are all the same is what im starting to figuer out thanks to SS.

 

[fuko2007]

Bump

 

[Kbish828]

I originally found this site about a year ago because I was struggling with oneitis. I continue to come back to give advice and to re-enforce the things that I have learned. I'm still not prefect but am way better than I was, and this board helps me

 

[SgtSplacker]

It's not really NC if you got dumped...

 

[adam225]

I owe a lot to this site as well. I stumbled across the "Just got dumped guide" after searching on Google for a guide on "being dumped"... From there I started on the NC challenge which I stuck at rigorously (without one screw up). From there I started checking out other threads and reading through the bible. All I can say is - everything, and I mean everything makes sense now.

This forum has transformed me into a strong minded independent person. I owe the place....

 

[Dgwizdal]

I owe a lot to this site as well. I stumbled across the "Just got dumped guide" after searching on good for a guide on "being dumped"... From there I started on the NC challenge which I stuck at rigorously (without one screw up). From there I started checking out other threads and reading through the bible. All I can say is - everything, and I mean everything makes sense now.

This forum has transformed me into a strong minded independent person. I owe the place....

This - all of it.

 

[fuko2007]

It's not really NC if you got dumped...

When she still thinks she can try and talk to you it is.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

i have found this page back in 2003 when searching on how to [pick up girls
i have read the site, the forum, and been lurking around till last year, when i registered to share some things i have learned.

i am here to better myself mostly. i frequent business forums also, and general self improvement forums. no hard feelings toward girls, neither have i been traumatized by one.

 

[Turuwal]

I come here whenever I have a sticking point then look for some guy who has the same problem. Answering his question takes the focus off myself and allows me to be more logical and detached.