For college guys: if you don't know when you'll see the girl next

[Leporello]

So far this year in college has been pretty dry so far as girls are concerned. i just got out of a six-month relationship following a two-year relationship and my skills are very rusty.

I HAVE been meeting some very cute girls, but we meet, have a nice chat, and then I don't know when I'll ever see them again.

SO, I was wondering if this was a decent idea: meet them, friend them on Facebook, then just send a message saying "Oh hey this event is happening soon wanna go?"

Good? bad? needs work? I've always been pretty shy about inviting people to stuff before I'm 'comfortable' with them, but as time goes on i realize that may not be the best approach.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Ask for number> Find them on facebook

Simple my good sir.

 

[Effington]

The websites and "experts" will say that instant messenger is a bad idea because if you're online a lot you're perceived as always available and not in demand. A negative for attraction level. If you want to talk to her, calling her is better, because you have her full attention. If you're bored trolling AIM, again, it means your time is not in demand, a bad thing.

That being said, in college, 99% of my friends were online all the time (everyone had broadband cable) and it was never really a factor.

Edit: Oops, you were asking about facebook, not AIM! I don't think many of my friends use facebook as a legit way of communicating with each other unless it's to leave obnoxious messages on their page. If you want to invite her somewhere, get her number...a lot of times people rarely check their page.

 

[Leporello]

Of course if you've already met them, and you don't have their number, short of stalking them Facebook is probably the best way to get in touch.

Edit: Oh, and I know plenty of people for whom Facebook is basically as good as an e-mail or voicemail.

 

[tsmith2334]

facebook can usually work out pretty well.. a subtle wall post can do wonders

 

[Credos]

perhaps when you see them again you ask their number?

 

[Leporello]

perhaps when you see them again you ask their number?

the whole isssue is that I don't know when I'll see them again and I don't want to be a stalker and wait outside their door.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

actually i just transferred to university. Ive done many many approaches, alot of them said to facebook um, when i said i had to go, and they gave me a name. If i number closed they'd ask me for my facebook the 1st time i called um, id say go for the # then get her facebook. Problem is i need to make one, girls probably think im some sort of wierdo when i tell um i dont have one.