"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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For anyone new to HS

Exo

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My GCE's are up in less than 2 weeks and (hopefully) I'll be out of HS after that so I thought I'd write up on a few observations I've made.

Physical strenght
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No matter what people say this matters. Regardles of your current height and/or body compopsition and general size you need to be tough enough to take on two average guys and make THEM not want to pick on you. Other than the obvious not getting picked on side people will almost invariably treat you better. Even if you talk your gifted with the abiltity to talk out of everything sooner or later push will come to shive and youll be hapy you spent a few hours a week at a gym and or dojo.

Being "nice"
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This is in the bible and almost every thread and for a reason: it's extremly important to strike the sweet spot between nice guy and *******. Just try to be polite and dont take **** from anyone. Try to look at people when your talking but dont stare, etc.

Hesitating
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IMHo this is the real education you get from HS or should get anyway. Like Alexandre's mother said to him about grabing the snake "Hesitate and she will kill you". This is true for many things, either you do it or yuo dont. If you hesitate you will loose time either way and probably just go over things and that serve only to make you feel bad.

Social skills
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This is another important thing HS teachers you. There's not much to say as the whole board covers it several times. Again just try to be poliet and go wing it. Practise conversation and dont take things too seriosly.

Pace yourself
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Dont ever let things get to you. Easier said than done but it's a worthy goal. That doesnt mean being irresponsible and flaky but keeping calm and collected. If something bothers you try to solve it out first ,getting mad and pissed of doesnt help, again easier said than done and not 100% possible technically. Look up basic NLP this can help you tremendously. If you have a pile of homework, relax and go through it like light reading, you'd be surprised how fast you can finish 6 exam papers if your not burning up.

I hope this has been helpfull. Please feel free to comment.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'd like to add:

Please allow yourselves to grow and mature. Just because "this is the way I do things" doesn't mean it ever stays that way. Allow yourself to grow beyond yourself. High school is a maturing process as well.
 

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...youll be hapy you spent a few hours a week at a gym and or dojo.

dude, the dojo?? you have been watching way too many "karate kid" reruns. you know that was only a movie, right? when you get jumped by a half dozen bad boys, they don't come at you one at a time. i don't care if you are a wwe superstar, you ain't going to come out on the better end of a 6 on 1.
 

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do mixed martial arts aka ultimate fighting... the dojo stuff only works in movies... boxing and wrestling is how you win a fight
 

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Originally posted by steroidsrule
do mixed martial arts aka ultimate fighting... the dojo stuff only works in movies... boxing and wrestling is how you win a fight
Just getting a reputation as a fighter will get you SO much respect. I'm new at my school and I'm known by all as "the Cage Fighter guy" There are Samoan Linemen who won't look in my eye for long and I'm only 5'10" 165.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It was a metaphor...

Besides I said gym ANd dojo :p. Not a 6:1 but even then you can still hurt em bad(your get the worse eityher way) and make them think twice.
 
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