"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

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Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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For all you ****ers running around pawning **** every other week to buy roach motel rooms and cases of Natty Light; Here are instructions on how not to be a ****ing dumb-ass financially.

http://oafnation.com/2014/11/11/stackin-chips-part-1/

This will be the first of a three part series: How to establish a budget, how to save/savings goals, and finally where to put that money once you have saved it.

We’ve all seen that 18 year-old-kid who used the few dollars he had after boot camp as a down payment on a truck; the truck he can’t afford to put gas in, put new tires on, and he struggles to even make the payments. The dealership told him “you’ll get promoted in no time, this car payment won’t seem like anything in a few short months.” He’s the obvious guy people point to when you think about military guys making poor financial decisions. Oddly enough, nobody points to the guys blowing their payday on clothes, booze, hotels, rental cars, guns, or other vices. The bottom line is this: unless you’re married with a few kids when you enlist, your first enlistment is a golden opportunity to save a good bit of money.

The key to successfully loading up a few stacks of cash for anybody is establishing and understanding your budget. The first thing you need to figure out is “what is my minimum cost to survive with my current bills.” For a kid fresh out of bootcamp the budget should include a cell phone, and any debt you came into the game with. Coming into the military you should have liquidated (sold) anything you had, paid off any car payments, and sold anything else you had laying around that you wouldn’t keep forever. An example of a quick breakdown of your monthly cost might be more complicated if you’ve been in the military for a while. A budget will allow you to see what you need to spend money on, what you need to cut costs on, and what you can spend every month or week on unnecessary items.

The costs of living for individuals will differ greatly. How much you spend can be figured out pretty easily in one month. Here are two options for doing this, Option 1: Put everything you purchase or pay on one credit or debit card. At the end of the month sit down and build your budget based off what you have spent that month. Option 2: Only spend cash, and collect a receipt for every transaction you make, at the end of the month build your budget using those receipts. An example of a monthly budget for a single guy might look like this:

FIXED COSTS Rent: $1000 Utilities: $300 Cable: $100 Internet: $50 Car payment: $250 Insurance: $100 Cell Phone: $100

FIXED TOTAL: $1900

VARIABLE COSTS Groceries: $400 Clothing: $150
Fuel: $200

VARIABLE TOTAL: $750

TOTAL MONTHLY EXPENSE: $2650

If your monthly income is greater than your monthly expenses, you’re already a step ahead of most guys I help. If your monthly expenses are greater than your income, you’re in trouble and need to figure out where to cut cost. Do you need to trade that massive truck in for a fuel-sipping car? Do you need to cancel your cable bill? Have you been shopping too much and need to quit? We’ll talk about this more in-depth in part 2.

Now that you have outlined your budget and cut your monthly cost down to make your expenses less than your income, how do you stick to the budget? Most of your “fixed bills” will come out of a checking account automatically, and they should. Training requirements and deployments will make it challenging to keep up with your bills, and having your power turned off when you’re away for a few weeks would really suck. To track the rest of your monthly incidentals such as gas and groceries use cash. A weekly breakdown in your budget will make it easy to figure out how much cash you get to pull out on MONDAY. Pulling that money out on Friday could mean that you spend too much, and have trouble eating through the week. If you pull the cash out Monday you’re less likely to be spending it on stuff you don’t need. Pull out what you NEED for your budget, and make it work for the week. Grocery shopping and meal preps for your breakfasts and lunches will help cut costs on eating out. Waking up just 15 minutes early to make coffee and take to work can save you up to $100 a month alone.

The goal to all of this isn’t saving for that big truck you always wanted, or a new wardrobe. Those goals will come and go. The overarching goal of all this budgeting, tracking, and saving is financial freedom. Meaning, you *generally* have the freedom to buy what you need and want. Living in America means that we have better living conditions than the majority of the world. The goal is that when you’re a bit older, you aren’t making up for the mistakes you made as a kid. After a life full of training and deployments, it’s easy to fall into the cycle of “just got back from Afghanistan, better buy a new truck.” The reality is most of us AREN’T going to get smoked in country, and we can’t live out our lives expecting them to end abruptly. If you look at life as a mission, it’s critical to set yourself up for the future.

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For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LOL, brings back memories of early 20s running to the pawn store monthly and pawning guns to buy party kegs, then picking them up off pawn a week or two later. Man I wish there was an "internet" back then, I'd be very wealthy... but with many fewer fun memories.
 

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Every military base I was ever on always had a lot of very nice cars parked in the enlisted soldiers' lots. These were typically 18-20 y/o kids. The Air Force recruiter even used that as a selling point, "Look at how enlisting will get you a nice car."

I've never been without a vehicle, often having two or three if you count motorcycles, and I have never made a car payment in my life. I have always thought of financing vehicles as a sucker move. If you can't buy it outright with cash, then you shouldn't be driving it.

I'd state the rule this way: unless it's producing income or a needed tax deduction, never finance a depreciating asset. If everyone did that, our economy would fall apart, because so much of it is structured on separating fools from their money. Don't be one of the fools.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Every military base I was ever on always had a lot of very nice cars parked in the enlisted soldiers' lots. These were typically 18-20 y/o kids. The Air Force recruiter even used that as a selling point, "Look at how enlisting will get you a nice car."

I've never been without a vehicle, often having two or three if you count motorcycles, and I have never made a car payment in my life. I have always thought of financing vehicles as a sucker move. If you can't buy it outright with cash, then you shouldn't be driving it.

I'd state the rule this way: unless it's producing income or a needed tax deduction, never finance a depreciating asset. If everyone did that, our economy would fall apart, because so much of it is structured on separating fools from their money. Don't be one of the fools.
Glad your daddy had a lot of money to give to your trust fund, but unfortunately not all of us have that luxury. I'm financing my vehicle and I don't see any problem with it. Debt finance is actually what made America great - most of America was built on borrowed money.

If no one could finance a car, hardly anyone would have cars, and guess what? That would cause the American economy to collapse.
 

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If you're accusing me of being rich, you must not know me very well. My daddy dropped out of eighth grade. He wouldn't know what a trust fund is. He is doing ok at the moment, but I have helped him financially as much as he ever did me.

I'm sure I have driven a lot of vehicles that you think you are too good to drive, as well as any other typical entitled American. My motorcycle cost me $600. My truck was $950. I bought both of them for less than half of what they are worth, because I had cash and I found motivated sellers. And I can easily sell either of them at any time at a profit. That's the smart way to deal in vehicles. I have done it all of my adult life.

And yes, America is built on debt finance. I call it fleecing suckers. Fools and their money soon parting is a great business. Look at the distribution of wealth in this country. 99% of us are fools who insist upon giving our money to the other 1%. A lot of that is based on people thinking they deserve sh!t that they can't really afford.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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