For all of you chasing a girl with a BF (Interesting Update)

[NaturallySelected]

Well guys, I went totally AFC on her. But it worked. When I spoke to her on the phone before my first post, I acted like I didn't care. But then after my post I texted her and confessed that I was hurt and I wanted something more. We spoke on the phone and she said she has strong feelings for me and she was wasn't sure what I wanted from her. Basically it turns out that the reason she told me she didn't want to go out with me because she thought that I just wanted a fling and wanted sex. I told her that wasn't the case at all. I even said how I have never felt anything for anyone like I do for her. AFC, I know, but she said she felt the same way.

We ended up talking about having sex on the phone, and I got her all turned on. Then last night I went to her house, I kissed her and got her REALLY hot. I was rubbing her p**sy through her pants,eventually she let me go underneath her underwear. Anyway, we fooled around more than ever before. But we didn't have sex. I am a virgin, she knows it and told me that she can't believe I am. She says she felt like putty in my hands and that I turn her on more than her BF ever could. I kept in mind that she was worried I only wanted her for sex, so I made sure we just held each other for a while (on her bed). She said she's falling for me.

Anyway, seems to me that she really wants to fvck me, but is worried that it is all I want. It's also VERY clear to me that the BF is STILL a barrier. She is seeing him today, but said she would be staying at her friend the rest of the week. She says she'll call me when she gets back (as if she didn't want me to call her). To me it seems she is spending the week with her BF. Last time I got pissed off, but this time I am just going to deal with it. I mean I AM THE ONE CHASING A GIRL WITH A BF! I must deal with the problems along the way.

She said she's "scared" she'll go back to him, which makes me think she still wants him. I think she is worried about hurting him, and he's not as big d!ckhead as she makes him out to be. In fact I feel bad, because he is probablly very much like me. But I have NEVER said she should leave him and never said anything bad about him. She's been doing all the BF-bashing. Anyway, a big obstacle, and as many of you pointed out. Patience is the key.

Any more suggestions for removing the final "barrier"?

Thanks for reading
NaturallySelected

 

[Don_Marko]

You gotta make sure that you don't suffocate her with AFC-ness, you can't act like that all the time.
I recommend 'hot-cold' angle. You gotta act distant and aloof sometimes.

 

[JohnJones]

I don't like that line she said, that she's afraid she'll go back to her b/f? Some people, not just women, like to cast things as if they are not in control of them so they are not responsible for what happens.

In this situation, you must not make things appear as if you are presenting her with a choice of you or him -- women love a love-triangle.

I would blow her off for a while and go do your own thing, ask other girls out, etc., and remember that she'll do what she does, you cannot really affect that other than to present a better deal than he does.

 

[NaturallySelected]

Originally posted by JohnJones
I don't like that line she said, that she's afraid she'll go back to her b/f?

Yeah, I didn't like it either. Which is why I know she will probablly be with him the rest of this week. I know when she says that she will go back to him, it's happend countless times in the past. This time we went further together (physically). And she is definitely developing feelings, but she is still too attached to her BF. Even though she's not that happy.

I think you are right about being aloof, it makes sense. Especially since she says I musn't "wait" for her. Also she DEFINITELY gets jealous when other women persuse me. Right now I think she wants both of us, but we will see what happens.

Thanks for the advice.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

A *****'s a *****!! Trust me bro, no matter how pimp, how DJ or how much you feel like your the man, girls who cheat on their boyfriends and stay with them will do the same fukin' thing to your @ss once you become dumb enough to fall for them in a relationship sense. Honestly, I would meet and fuvk as many girls as I can if you don't want to go on the ride of your life with this shiat. Drama is in your future.


PIMP

 

[JT47319]

Throw in some subtle boyfriend destroyers.

 

[Jay Fiedler]

I agree with totally with pimp. Have some fun wiht her but dont get too attached. Once a person cheats, its all over.

My ex fiance had cheated on almost everyone of her bf's and promised she would NEVER do it to me. We all know what happened. Stay clear and just have fun.

 

[wayword]

Once a person cheats, its all over.

My ex fiance had cheated on almost everyone of her bf's and promised she would NEVER do it to me. We all know what happened. Stay clear and just have fun.

Thing is, cheating is only a symptom of a deeper problem - and until that deeper inner problem (usually daddy issues) gets fixed, yes, she will keep repeating her pattern of cheating. Simple willpower or "love" alone won't stop it.

 

[ScrewIt]

Dont get involved I was in your exact situation in the past. Until she breaks up with her bf, dont get attached. girls jumping from relationship to relationship are often signs of a deeper problem as someone else said.

But hey if you're in it for the sex, go right ahead.