Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Thanks for sharing that. I'm a pretty creative writer but I know I would never be able to come up with witty original stuff like you have.

It also looks like you're in a good area to meet lots and lots of different people - for us out in the sticks the pickings seem pretty slim.

For what it's worth, I'm not a huge fan of camera-phone poses, but if it's working for you, that's great.
 

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Thanks for sharing that. I'm a pretty creative writer but I know I would never be able to come up with witty original stuff like you have.

It also looks like you're in a good area to meet lots and lots of different people - for us out in the sticks the pickings seem pretty slim.

For what it's worth, I'm not a huge fan of camera-phone poses, but if it's working for you, that's great.

Thanks. I just went against the grain. The online dating "experts" tell you not to post cell phone pics. I did anyway. They tell you not to post pictures with other women as it would turn off people online. I did it anyway.

There is alot of cuties in the Tri-state area. I've been getting alot of messages and talking to alot. Cell phone numbers, flakebook ad's to see more pictures of them and vice versa. It does get hectic remembering names and crap you talk about though.

You just got to think of humorous sh!t to write and not give a damn what they think. So far so good. Just a side hobby of mine breaking their chops and seeing how things go.

I only get witty or semi-humorous when I feel like it. Sometimes I just get bored and don't bother.

The previous "test" I did worked. It was just to see how they'd respond to a "10" in looks with basically nothing in the profile.

As for ALOT of them. They are online all hours of the day and night. These so-called "outgoing" great catches for "women". It just depends what you write them and they'll respond. If not to a witty line at first then I write a little note to them a few days later and then they usually respond.

As for the people in the sticks...If there aren't many people in your area. Write to women in places you may visit or vacation alot. Get them on Flakebook or get numbers so they can show you around when you visit there. Plates in different states. Don't settle for two or three go for as many as you can get in different areas. Especially ones you visit.
 

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Write to women in places you may visit or vacation alot. Get them on Flakebook or get numbers so they can show you around when you visit there. Plates in different states. Don't settle for two or three go for as many as you can get in different areas. Especially ones you visit.

Good advice for people that don't live in the sticks as well.
 

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i sure wish i could get on plentyoffish! theyve got me banned for life apparently.haha i dont know why either, ive never cussed anyone out on there or anything?? everytime i create a profile its deleted within an hour.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Robert28 said:
i sure wish i could get on plentyoffish! theyve got me banned for life apparently.haha i dont know why either, ive never cussed anyone out on there or anything?? everytime i create a profile its deleted within an hour.
Maybe your IP is on a "black list" you never know, try resetting that it may help

OP--your profile is cool, funny and witty, I don't know though it may go over a lot of girls heads (I'm serious) I think for your personality type and who you are it would work though for myself I had to tone the humor down a bit (don't get it twisted I still have some funny lines)

However lot of girls on POF either don't appreciate a cool personality or their dumb (or even intimidated)
 

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Maybe your IP is on a "black list" you never know, try resetting that it may help

OP--your profile is cool, funny and witty, I don't know though it may go over a lot of girls heads (I'm serious) I think for your personality type and who you are it would work though for myself I had to tone the humor down a bit (don't get it twisted I still have some funny lines)

However lot of girls on POF either don't appreciate a cool personality or their dumb (or even intimidated)

You aren't kidding either. I think half haven't even read it. I guess I look semi-appetizing to the ones I've emailed as they've never commented on the profile itself. You're right. I'm sure alot of it goes waaay over their heads. To be honest I can tell with alot of them they don't have much to say let alone attempt to spell correctly or use a spell check. No surprise that some are very attractive yet are online "dating". Alot are on "breaks" from relationships, or just looking/looking to talk "looking to upgrade to the greenest grass" and these "college" educated women have pretty much nothing to offer anyone.

I just keep on keepin on and email in the tri-state area and states I visit frequently for other vacation possibilities. I've already met some in Florida and still keep in contact with them and hear from them every now and then as I don't use my facebook except to add new chicks to see what they look like in various pics. Alot wonder where I am because I don't post on facebook and I only reply when they email me.

Like numerous people have said you can't or shouldn't rely on one woman. I want as many as I can get my greedy lil fingers on.

It's really pathetic though to see MANY guy's on their Flakebook pages commenting on how "hawt" they look and getting shot down by these women right in their own comment section. I don't give a rat's a$$ how good they look in their pictures..I'm not doing that supplicating crap. Embarrassing.
 

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i sure wish i could get on plentyoffish! theyve got me banned for life apparently.haha i dont know why either, ive never cussed anyone out on there or anything?? everytime i create a profile its deleted within an hour.
Rob,

It may've been pictures you posted or spammed the same message over and over, or certain "buzz" words written in your original one. Do you have a copy of what you wrote in it or were sending?

If I try to setup two profiles at the same time the system will catch it and auto delete both.

you may have to set it up from a friends computer and make a different profile with different pics.
 

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I think you're putting too much effort into POF; I kinda skimmed your profile. I was looking at it and for the most part in my head I was saying "blah blah blah" didnt really look at the words. just seems to wordy...But that's just me, best of luck to you.
 

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I think you're putting too much effort into POF; I kinda skimmed your profile. I was looking at it and for the most part in my head I was saying "blah blah blah" didnt really look at the words. just seems to wordy...But that's just me, best of luck to you.
You consider putting up a profile in five minutes "too much effort"? But over 168 posts talking to dudes on So Suave isn't?

Blah,Blah,Blah...Too "wordy" You sound like the chicks on there! lol. It's cool though dude. I'll keep doing me.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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LOL. Awesome. I always thought you were asian by the username on here?

But, I like the header and although, keeping a profile short for POF is best bets. I liked your wording and humour. It gives off your not desperate and just on their for teh lulz. Have you tried shortening it Ninja?
 

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well, well, well look at you, getting your feathers all ruffled just because of one post from me. Just because I didn't tell you what you want to hear you try to take a stab at me, instead of taking it into consideration.
Then you talk about my 168 posts? when you have 510?
you havent been working on it 5 mins, I've read your prior posts of you working on this a week ago. don't be a liar.
I think I'll "next" you, because you're acting like a *****. good luck.
 

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You aren't kidding either. I think half haven't even read it. I guess I look semi-appetizing to the ones I've emailed as they've never commented on the profile itself. You're right. I'm sure alot of it goes waaay over their heads. To be honest I can tell with alot of them they don't have much to say let alone attempt to spell correctly or use a spell check. No surprise that some are very attractive yet are online "dating". Alot are on "breaks" from relationships, or just looking/looking to talk "looking to upgrade to the greenest grass" and these "college" educated women have pretty much nothing to offer anyone.

I just keep on keepin on and email in the tri-state area and states I visit frequently for other vacation possibilities. I've already met some in Florida and still keep in contact with them and hear from them every now and then as I don't use my facebook except to add new chicks to see what they look like in various pics. Alot wonder where I am because I don't post on facebook and I only reply when they email me.

Like numerous people have said you can't or shouldn't rely on one woman. I want as many as I can get my greedy lil fingers on.

It's really pathetic though to see MANY guy's on their Flakebook pages commenting on how "hawt" they look and getting shot down by these women right in their own comment section. I don't give a rat's a$$ how good they look in their pictures..I'm not doing that supplicating crap. Embarrassing.
Ninja I truly believe that POF is nothing but fatties/Bdp's/single mothers/hot entitled women

I sadly saw my Ex on there, and she is so much better then the site, I honestly think that there is something wrong with chicks on Pof, a lot say they want a relationship but their 1. Just looking to upgrade from their current situation so their just wading in the water or 2. Their looking to just to fucc and pretending to look for more.

It makes me wonder if their any quality relationship materials on the internet, I've been doing online dating since 2001 (way before i knew game) and honestly I have maybe met a handful of girls worthy of being in an LTR and I've met hundreds of chicks over the years

sad
 

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The Mad Ghost said:
LOL. Awesome. I always thought you were asian by the username on here?

But, I like the header and although, keeping a profile short for POF is best bets. I liked your wording and humour. It gives off your not desperate and just on their for teh lulz. Have you tried shortening it Ninja?

Nah. Just leaving it. I've got about 22 replies in my inbox so far and getting more. I reply to a few at a time. Can't remember half the crap I talk about with these chicks and once I get their numbers stop talking on the site. Still have like 22 to answer. Mostly when I get a response right away I'll start B.S.ing and then take it from there. Some I haven't replied to in a week. Are you on POF still?
 

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Nah. Just leaving it. I've got about 22 replies in my inbox so far and getting more. I reply to a few at a time. Can't remember half the crap I talk about with these chicks and once I get their numbers stop talking on the site. Still have like 22 to answer. Mostly when I get a response right away I'll start B.S.ing and then take it from there. Some I haven't replied to in a week. Are you on POF still?
Yes, still on there.

I get about an 80% reply rate,what usually happens is. I get the phone numbers, but there is hardly ever any leads. Usually either the girl messing around with answering and times of calling or me, just not bothering to persist or continue. I've only ever got instant dates and day 2s, when I was really persistent on smashing a chick, who I REALLY thought was hot or my type.

I think I'm just on there, for fullfilment than to actually meet someone. It gets boring after a while, writing the samething and seeing the same replies over and over again, from different chicks.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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well, well, well look at you, getting your feathers all ruffled just because of one post from me. Just because I didn't tell you what you want to hear you try to take a stab at me, instead of taking it into consideration.
Then you talk about my 168 posts? when you have 510?
you havent been working on it 5 mins, I've read your prior posts of you working on this a week ago. don't be a liar.
I think I'll "next" you, because you're acting like a *****. good luck.

I reply to any chick that writes or replies to me!

The profile itself took 5 minutes. The previous even less. And you are correct. I do have more posts on here than you. Though I don't consider this any more of an effort than B.Sing with chicks on Plenty of Fishbreath.
 

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Yes, still on there.

I get about an 80% reply rate,what usually happens is. I get the phone numbers, but there is hardly ever any leads. Usually either the girl messing around with answering and times of calling or me, just not bothering to persist or continue. I've only ever got instant dates and day 2s, when I was really persistent on smashing a chick, who I REALLY thought was hot or my type.

I think I'm just on there, for fullfilment than to actually meet someone. It gets boring after a while, writing the samething and seeing the same replies over and over again, from different chicks.
That's true. I get the numbers and add's etc. And keep them for future possibilities. It is a so called "dating" site. Though I know it's more of an extended Flakebook site. I don't have time to chase these women. Meeting alot in real life. The second part time job in women's shoes get's me to meet more than enough besides going out. I'm just greedy and said WTF and want more, more, more. lmao.
 

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Ninja I truly believe that POF is nothing but fatties/Bdp's/single mothers/hot entitled women

I sadly saw my Ex on there, and she is so much better then the site, I honestly think that there is something wrong with chicks on Pof, a lot say they want a relationship but their 1. Just looking to upgrade from their current situation so their just wading in the water or 2. Their looking to just to fucc and pretending to look for more.

It makes me wonder if their any quality relationship materials on the internet, I've been doing online dating since 2001 (way before i knew game) and honestly I have maybe met a handful of girls worthy of being in an LTR and I've met hundreds of chicks over the years

sad
You are correct again sir. The reasons you mentioned are EXACTLY correct. Plus AWing, ego stroking. I put that to the side. You have to have a thick skin and IGNORE all that crap and just do you.

They don't read my profile? I don't read their's. Only till after a few responses to find things to say and make a small connection and comfort for a number or whatever. If something comes of it. Fine. If not, I'm not fooled into pretending the site is what it was originally "designed" for. the site itself is a marketing tool set up as a "dating" site. So the whole thing is a circus. I just like being the clown. You can't rely on the site, or the users. Only yourself and not take it as the end all be all.
 

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Ninja, I have one other question for you (I'm not using PoF at this time but might consider re-trying it soon).

What do you like to put for the Message Title when you're messaging a chick? I could never think of anything witty when I tried it last year. Also, some decent generic initial message suggestions would be golden...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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