for a guy - what constitutes flirtatious behavior?

[Delta]

actually, i want a well articulated description of what the precise behavior is.

it's one of those things that's very clear when you see it but i'm having a difficult time putting it precisely into words... and you know what they say, if you can't say it, you don't know it.

it's difficult even to quantize female flirtation... very for male.

a little help.

delta

 

[MAVER1CK]

so the question is, you dont know when a girl is flirting?

the easiest way to tell is if shes asking you questions. That means shes interested.

But, is that your question?

 

[vorbis]

I'll take a stab

For a guy, teasing is flirty. Teasing a particular attribute of a girl (a non hurtful attribute) is good. E.g. choice of shoes, she has a loud laugh. Sharing in jokes is another thing with girls you know. Double entendres work well, anything thats subtly sexual. Thats what comes to mind for me anyways regards male flirting.

 

[Mogizide]

I asked my cousin this same question about 5 years ago. He was mostly a supporter.. giving me simple answers and telling me to try to apply them to my interactions. His answer for me was to think of flirting as the opposite of sarcasm.

Sarcasm is when you say with your words something good; while at the same time your intention is to emphasize something bad or mean.

Flirting is when you say with your words something bad with the intention of meaning something good or playful.

 

[Kings_royalty]

articulated description of what the precise behavior is.


Flirting techniques vary from girl to girl so you may come up empty handed if you are looking for 'precise behavior'. A couple of things that have always worked for me are...#1 the 'eyes'. Girls love to flirt and show intent with their eyes. #2 How close she stands to you. Girls want to be 'close' if they find you attractive.

 

[Delta]

thanks fellows. i think vorbis and mogizide got the gist of my question the best... vorb nailed what's basically in my head. mog, interesting about the anti-scarcasm thing.... that's interesting.

i think the behavior that really stands out to me when a guy is flirting is smiling obscenely over-much... perhaps with a SMIRK, intimating in one way or another that the girl really wants him. also being somewhat loud and jokey.

basically, if looked at analytically, the guy's behavior always strikes me as somewhat jackass-ish... but it works. but it just strikes me that way all the time i think.
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i guess another way to think about it is the BODY LANGUAGE thing-

- eye contact
- for a guy, visibly checking her out
- straight posture with chest out
- kino

so the stuff of an approach? but there's a more general kind of behavior too that is associated with being somewhat jackassish....

ugh...

and i hate it when guys say, "hey girl..." eeeeeyuuuh... that always just strikes me as repulsive for some reason... but that is part of it i think....
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for girls, i think it's a bit more obvious but again, requires thought for me to articulate although it is plain when you see it....

body language is big here i think. king's thing about eyes is big i think. a held, deep gaze, open body language, flipping hair, vigorously massaging their nipples, that kind of thing.


delta

 

[Serialized3]

Another thing about flirting

vigorously massaging their nipples, that kind of thing.

Yeah man, "that kind of thing"

Anyways, on a side note here, just wanna tell the aspiring DJs out there that when a woman flirts with you, a lot of the time it doesn't mean anything. It certainly doesn't mean she's even attracted to you.

For well-adjusted women, flirting is just another form of communication and display their social graces. Don't take it the wrong way, fellas.

 

[Scott Hall]

Hey yo, it's all about the gold...and the machismo man.

You got to ooze that stuff chico just like me - Scott Hall. The swaggering Cuban.

 

[Rebound Material]

For a guy, teasing is flirty. Teasing a particular attribute of a girl (a non hurtful attribute) is good. E.g. choice of shoes, she has a loud laugh. Sharing in jokes is another thing with girls you know. Double entendres work well, anything thats subtly sexual. Thats what comes to mind for me anyways regards male flirting.

My friends would always tell me that when they see me with almost any chick, I would flirt with them 95% of the time. I really didn't notice this so I figured it came to me naturally. I then looked back at what I did that would classify as flirting and it was really hard to put into words. But yes...TEASING is definitely one of them.