hey Gents,
well this is my last post. I've enjoyed my time on so suave, but my repose has come to an end and its time to get back to life.
I've enjoyed the dialogue on women and men, and think that this is a great resource for guys to hash out their issues and grow. Regardless of whether folks agree or disagree with many of the ideas here, i dont think you can spend a lot of time here and not grow in some way or another as a result.
My Top 10
i think some of hte big things that guys should take away from this forum are:
1) Confidence is key (don't live your life based on fear). If there is one thing you can count on its that making a decision based on fear always leads to bad things. Better to be embarassed or wrong than to make your decisions based on fear.
2) Treat yourself well - life is a growing process, just because you aren't succeeding with the ladies now doesn't mean you won't in the future. Work on developing yourself and caring about yourself, because if you don't, most women will only bring you pain and suffering.
3)there are two major outlooks on being a DJ
a) you can focus on growing and developing as a human being, developing principles by which you live by and which will ensure that you never let a woman push you around, become the end-all to your life or become the means by which you judge your self worth
b) you can learn what tricks and behavior patterns exist to manipulate women into behaving as you would like
some use both. Personally im about (a) over (b).
4) There are no absolutes. Life is a growth process and different men and women at different stages will provide you with different types of relationships. So try not to carry over the bad stuff from past relationships into future relationship.
5) You will only grow if you take responsibility for your life. No matter how much others are to blame for various thigns that happen to you, no one is going to grow for you - growth is something you decide and it comes when you take responsibility - whether that be for how you react to situations, for getting yourself into situations to begin with or for not understanding why something is happening or happened. No matter how "out of your control" things may seem to be, you are always in control of your life (often times all you have to do is walk away).
6) You know, neither gender is right or wrong ultimately. We are in strange times and both men and women are very confused and lost. realize that you are living in an era of mass confusion, and that in such era many folks will take the narcissistic path. The high road is harder than ever before - but its always where the rewards lie.
7) A woman cannot fix or define your life. And a man cannot fix or define a woman's life. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness and growth. A good relationship is one where you both support each other's growth over the long term. Anything else is merely mutual narcissism or two people stuck at a single life phase until they die.
8) Life is short, but because its short the most important thing is to work smart! Life is too short to think that effort alone will get you anywhere. effort is needed, but is completely wasted if you aren't applying it in the most sensible fashion possible.
9) Do NOT get married unless you are absolutely sure you have found a woman who is completely committed to your relationship. "love" in the lustful sense, is NOT enough to keep two people together for 60 years. It's great to love your woman, but if you dont hold her in the highest regard and respect as a person, odds are that love will lose its luster as the years move on.
10) Above all, at all times, be thankful for everything you have. We live in the richest period in mankinds history. We may be going bankrupt on certain moral fronts, but none the less, you still have so much to be thankful for. 100 years ago most people couldn't read! Much less have a global conversation on a message board like this. You've got access to health care, books, opportunities to one day retire and not have to work, we've got deoderant so women's pits don't smell, and on and on and on. We are living in great times, don't let the fact that the majority of folks are squandering that reality allow you to not enjoy it.
Bonus 11) (for the guys in their late 20s / early 30s) had one more to throw in. FOCUS ON YOUR CAREER! I see so many guys acting like women in the 1950s now a days - women are their first priority, everything else is second. Man, thats how 1950s women thought - get a husband worry about everythign else AFTER that. The one thing that will carry you through life is your education and career - DO NOT lose focus on that for any reason what so ever.
So there you go guys, hope someone gets some benefit out of the conclusions I've reached during my time on so suave.
Live well guys and best of luck with the women out there.
:woo:
:rockon: :wave:
Joekerr31!
well this is my last post. I've enjoyed my time on so suave, but my repose has come to an end and its time to get back to life.
I've enjoyed the dialogue on women and men, and think that this is a great resource for guys to hash out their issues and grow. Regardless of whether folks agree or disagree with many of the ideas here, i dont think you can spend a lot of time here and not grow in some way or another as a result.
My Top 10
i think some of hte big things that guys should take away from this forum are:
1) Confidence is key (don't live your life based on fear). If there is one thing you can count on its that making a decision based on fear always leads to bad things. Better to be embarassed or wrong than to make your decisions based on fear.
2) Treat yourself well - life is a growing process, just because you aren't succeeding with the ladies now doesn't mean you won't in the future. Work on developing yourself and caring about yourself, because if you don't, most women will only bring you pain and suffering.
3)there are two major outlooks on being a DJ
a) you can focus on growing and developing as a human being, developing principles by which you live by and which will ensure that you never let a woman push you around, become the end-all to your life or become the means by which you judge your self worth
b) you can learn what tricks and behavior patterns exist to manipulate women into behaving as you would like
some use both. Personally im about (a) over (b).
4) There are no absolutes. Life is a growth process and different men and women at different stages will provide you with different types of relationships. So try not to carry over the bad stuff from past relationships into future relationship.
5) You will only grow if you take responsibility for your life. No matter how much others are to blame for various thigns that happen to you, no one is going to grow for you - growth is something you decide and it comes when you take responsibility - whether that be for how you react to situations, for getting yourself into situations to begin with or for not understanding why something is happening or happened. No matter how "out of your control" things may seem to be, you are always in control of your life (often times all you have to do is walk away).
6) You know, neither gender is right or wrong ultimately. We are in strange times and both men and women are very confused and lost. realize that you are living in an era of mass confusion, and that in such era many folks will take the narcissistic path. The high road is harder than ever before - but its always where the rewards lie.
7) A woman cannot fix or define your life. And a man cannot fix or define a woman's life. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness and growth. A good relationship is one where you both support each other's growth over the long term. Anything else is merely mutual narcissism or two people stuck at a single life phase until they die.
8) Life is short, but because its short the most important thing is to work smart! Life is too short to think that effort alone will get you anywhere. effort is needed, but is completely wasted if you aren't applying it in the most sensible fashion possible.
9) Do NOT get married unless you are absolutely sure you have found a woman who is completely committed to your relationship. "love" in the lustful sense, is NOT enough to keep two people together for 60 years. It's great to love your woman, but if you dont hold her in the highest regard and respect as a person, odds are that love will lose its luster as the years move on.
10) Above all, at all times, be thankful for everything you have. We live in the richest period in mankinds history. We may be going bankrupt on certain moral fronts, but none the less, you still have so much to be thankful for. 100 years ago most people couldn't read! Much less have a global conversation on a message board like this. You've got access to health care, books, opportunities to one day retire and not have to work, we've got deoderant so women's pits don't smell, and on and on and on. We are living in great times, don't let the fact that the majority of folks are squandering that reality allow you to not enjoy it.
Bonus 11) (for the guys in their late 20s / early 30s) had one more to throw in. FOCUS ON YOUR CAREER! I see so many guys acting like women in the 1950s now a days - women are their first priority, everything else is second. Man, thats how 1950s women thought - get a husband worry about everythign else AFTER that. The one thing that will carry you through life is your education and career - DO NOT lose focus on that for any reason what so ever.
So there you go guys, hope someone gets some benefit out of the conclusions I've reached during my time on so suave.
Live well guys and best of luck with the women out there.
:woo:
:rockon: :wave: Joekerr31!
