Following My Father's Legacy- College Journal

[cococrispy]

For my whole life, I have lived with a very Christian mother. I went to an all-guys high school, and so it is finally the time I can see girls at COLLEGE!

My college has a reputation for being a top 25 college, so finding an average looking girl is like finding an oasis in a desert.

I used to be a very shy dude, but ever since taking the Dale Carnegie Public Speaking Course I have developed enough confidence for people to never think of me in the same way.

I call this journal "Following My Father's Legacy" because my dad had the time of his life at this college, and I want to do the same.

What are my attributes? I don’t give a $hit, I work out, I dress well, and I always try to have fun. What are my downfalls? Experience because I went to an all-guys school (huge one), Christian mother so I’m used to not taking risks, going over the line with my fun.

This journal is created for my personal growth, and to see the mistakes I have done and to see if I could improve them. I also need your help because I’m all alone on this.

I have been writing every day since I got here on August 19th. It is a great idea for me to have a journal so that I can keep track of what my life is like at college. I put this in the high school forum but feel free to move it.

 

[cococrispy]

SUNDAY, AUGUST 19TH

Got completely moved into my dorm room. Let me introduce you to HB Athlete (6)- I have never met her and she contacted me on facebook around 6 months ago because we have the same major. We talked like once a month, and she initiated the texts most of the time. I told HB Athlete to meet me outside her dorm house, and I saw her waiting for me, and I met her. She showed me around her dorm. Good vibes, she was smiling like the whole time, and I tried to make the conversation fun any way I can.

I also don’t know like anyone in my dorm room yet, but I talked to my roommate George.

MONDAY, AUGUST 20TH

Went to breakfast in the morning, saw HB Athlete and talked to her. Did a bunch of activities today with my dorm that were for icebreaking. I still barely know a lot of people, but I made some connections. Played the rock paper scissors game in the second biggest event in orientation called the fair. Got about 20 people behind me. I was all hyped up even though it was kind of a cheesy event, haha.

Eventually go to the dance which was afterwards, meet up George, a girl I met once back home (Call her Cloe), and Mark (met him once too). Great vibes with all of them. Meet HB Athlete, pulled her up against me and she grinded with me. I did it for like 20 minutes (WAY too long bad mistake). She told me I was sweating, which I was. I was still having a fun time and eventually I saw her grinding another guy. I kept dancing and having a fun time though. At this time I was being a p***y and had oneitis for her, and she isn’t even hot, and plus she should be able to do whatever she wants. Maybe it’s just because I’ve been talking to her a bit before even meeting up.

When I went back to the floor meeting in my dorm, one of the guys in the dorm named Conor kept talking all the time and is getting annoying, but that’s just my first impression.

TUESDAY, AUGUST 21ST

Orientation speeches were pretty boring today.

Fun starts when I am chilling in lounge, and start playing poker. After playing I sat next to HB Artgirl (7) with her friend Haley. One of the guys on my floor, Nick seems really chill. A few of the girls were talking to Nick and kind of ignoring me at first. And then, when I talk really loud in my voice when I explain things, people keep laughing about how loud and deep my voice is and that they've never heard it before. Then I completely control the conversation. I say a few teases to the HB Lia (8), who then seems to be a little bit more interested in me.

Went to magic trick show, interesting. HB Maria (sophomore orientation counselor) found me at 2nd floor UC, said she was looking all around for me. I meet up with my frat house (I’m a legacy there), and they are chill. I talk to HB Athlete with her friend, and they seem to be busy and just out of it. Conor seems chill too, so I take back what I said about him.

Seems like half the floor is nerdy and the other half is chill. Not as crazy for HB Athlete anymore ever since talking to other girls (going to an all-guys high school for 4 years sucks). I need options, and I learned that girls seem to be intrigued by me once I talk rather than what I look like. A lot of people know my name so it’s GREAT.

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 22ND

Met up with the orientation counselors, and they all love me. Every time I walk past HB Lia she says hi. A girl we'll call HB Volleyball (she's only like a 3 but she plays volleyball) sat next to me and a dude named Ozzy. She started to pay more attention to me later on rather than early, also called me a **** few times. Don't get me wrong, I am a **** but I don't insult, I just joke around for my own fun.

Maria really likes to talk to me and actually initiates conversations all the time. Everyone on my dorm floor loves me, and even guys on the 6th floor know about me. The whole dorm had a meeting, and at one point I read off something on the board and everyone was impressed with my voice.

Went to the dinner with people in my school major, whole different story. Knew no one there except Nick (briefly there) and Joe. And then I met Taylor who I met back home once, but he’s awkward. HB Athlete made eye contact with me several times and seemed to try to ignore me. She was talking to a guy who looked like he was 6’4. Freaking oneitis makes me feel like a p***y. At least I recognize I have oneitis, and I’ll just have to control my emotions. Guess it is her loss if she doesn’t want to even talk to me. I clearly need options and to just forget about her.

THURSDAY, AUGUST 23RD

I woke up at 8:20, and was in the bathroom talking to Nick. He told me that we had to get to breakfast by 8 and that 8:45 was the time I had to be there for the speech. Shoot.

Anyways, I get there and sit down late. The people at my table were freaking boring. No one laughed about like anything. I seem to not like people from my major. Later on, I dress up for the convocation and talk to a girl named Rachel who is going to be in my major.

Once I go on the cruise, about 10 people (guys) surround around me and meet me straight up saying that I am the guy with the great voice. All of them ask for my phone number, haha. I talk to a guy named Dan, and later he, me, and Joe go talk to HB Athlete and Abigail. Dan keeps talking to HB Athlete and won’t shut up. He acts so boring and she can’t hear him so she shields her phone and then I finally give a funny story to her and everyone laughs the whole time.

Later meet a chill dude named Francisco who played rugby, which I plan to just try out. I talk to Graham who went to an all guys high school, and he is so chill. HB Athlete throws ice cubes at me to get my attention (I didn’t see her behind me). Kid named John who kept talking to himself sat next to Abigail and HB Athlete. I made a joke about HB Athlete and John told me that I should start treating her better.

My name is getting more familiar with people. Successful night, glad I went on the cruise because people talked about me and I met a lot of people and it seems like I'm famous, haha. I learned that doing things is always better than not doing things because there are opportunities to meet more people.

 

[cococrispy]

FRIDAY, AUGUST 24TH

Went with George to a food place, and also played basketball at the gym for a little bit. We went back to the dorm house and people were working on their dorm wars designs. I saw my high school friend Billy with a girl named Sophie and went up to her room and talked. Back on the main floor, Conor was all stacked up and designed a pretty cool costume for himself for the biggest event of orientation. I wore a yellow shirt and a garbage bag cape, which was pretty much what everyone was wearing.

My small group for my dorm's team was perfect, we had 2 girls (Lizzy (7) and HB Lia), Conor, George, me, Ozzy, brian, nick, norman so it was all my main friends. We had our own chants, and even though we were the smallest group, we were the loudest (because of me). We even chanted my nickname “THUNDERTHROAT”.

We got in 3rd in one of the events, and HB Lia just dipped the sponge back in the water and squeezed me as a joke. After the event, I gave a really loud inspirational speech and they all chanted my name after it. And we won the next event which was the water balloon toss, so I guess the speech worked! We were close from losing, and at one point I dove because the water balloon was coming too short of me, and people thought that was dramatic. After that was the spoon egg run, and the team that won cheated so I chanted “CHEATER CHEATER.” We still did our chants and I would yell them.

After dorm wars there was some music playing and we all danced (idk how to dance I just looked at everyone else and did what they did). It turns out we lost and went in 4th place (but our group did decent, the other groups not so well). Although the event was kind of cheesy, I still made everyone have a fun time. Funny thing is, the other Brad (that’s my name) who lives on my floor is referred to as “the other Brad” because I'm talked about so much.

SATURDAY, AUGUST 25TH

Went to lunch picnic with another dorm house. I was chilling with the orientation counselors who seem to all like me and they all know about me. Maria said she told everyone about me. Kevin, Maria, and I all went back to the dorm from the lunch. Maria offered me to go kayaking with her, and I told her that she would have to pay me for fun time (I think I might have went over the line here).

I opened the door for her, and then I was a far enough distance for her not to open the door for me, and I was freaking out as a complete joke when she didn’t hold the door open completely for me. Later went to target with a few guys. Later on in the day and I am chilling in the lounge.

HB Whitegirl (5) and HB Otherartgirl (who I haven’t met yet) walk in, and say there are no seats available. I offered them my seat, and when HB Whitegirl was about to take it I went back to it and said “Just kidding!” People thought it was funny, and it’s ok because everyone likes me anyways. HB Whitegirl said that won’t get me dating any girls. Eventually we go to the talent show, and I sit next to HB Whitegirl and HB Otherartgirl. Any comment I would say HB Whitegirl would laugh. I said that I hoped someone would screw up, and someone did so they both cracked up. We go back to the dorm house, and I met a kid named Daniel who I haven’t seen at all this whole orientation week (and he really missed out with the fun).

SUNDAY, AUGUST 26TH

This is the last day of orientation before classes start. Went down in the basement of my dorm to eat (there is a restaurant there). I sat with some of my floor mates, and next to us were the orientation counselors. Maria asked me if I am still mad at her, and I asked her whether she will apologize for not opening the door for me. She says she’s sorry, and I told her to open up her phone, send a text message to my number and say how sorry she is. She refused but everyone cracked up. Why would she ask me to go kayaking with her but not give me her number, haha. Whatever.

Later, I toured with an orientation counselor to all my classes. I have a really nice campus, but it is really confusing. I chilled out with several people in the main walkway, and met a kid named Marc. He said he hasn’t heard of me, and a few girls said “Everyone knows Brad how can you not know him?”

At one point I was talking to William, and he told me that he was flirting with an Asian girl for like 2 hours at another girl’s dorm, and at one point he tried to put his arm around her, and she said she had a boyfriend LOL. I went over to my frat and talked to all the guys. Later I came back to watch football with them.

MONDAY, AUGUST 27TH

First day of classes today. I meet up with Nick, Joe, and HB Volleyball to go to Statistics class. For lunch, I am trying to find healthy options to eat at because college meal plans are so unhealthy. After, I went to Principles of Economics, where HB Whitegirl, HB Volleyball, Matt, and Brian were there. Later on I went to Freshman Seminar.

It turns out HB Volleyball is in that class along with 2 other classes. She asks for my number. She talks too much, but I decide it would be a good idea to be just friends with her because she’s in a lot of my classes.

I went to a rugby practice just for the hell of it. We ran a TON. It was 3 hours long but it felt like 5 hours. Most of the time I didn’t have a clue what was going on, but I somehow managed to do decently. Not going to do it again though because I feel like it would take too much time, and plus my foot is injured.

I met up with Graham to play pool at his dorm and met his roommate Brad. After, we went over to the frats. Then, we just sat down in another room and just talked about stuff. Just chillin.

 

[cococrispy]

TUESDAY, AUGUST 28TH

Went to a cog psych class, and one of my frat brothers is there. There was a grilling event for my frat, and I brought over 4 friends walking by to get some food. At one point they needed tape, and so I ran to the store and bought it for them. Met a kid named Ian who is in two of my classes. Later played basketball with my roommate. And at night I did a fantasy football draft with my frat.

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 29TH

Worked out with my friend Billy (he is trying to improve himself). Chilled out with the frat brothers (they love me). Talked to Ian more. Very uneventful day.

THURSDAY, AUGUST 30TH

Another uneventful day. Chilled in the lounge for a bit, and people are stereotyping me as the guy who goes out a lot. Talk to a smart kid who is checking out different fraternities. He was on a TV show, so I try to persuade him into joining my frat.

FRIDAY, AUGUST 31ST

Went to statistics with 4 friends. Ran into Maria after the class, and told her there will be a party tonight and I would text her the details. She told me she isn't giving me her number (OK, so she initiates convos with me 100% of the time but won't give me her number LOL). Who cares. I workout. Then later invite HB Otherartgirl and she brings her friend to a party. They both leave early. I run into a girl (HB Lisa) who was in my dorm wars group, but I didn't even remember her! I keep forgetting names. I talk to a ton of people there and everyone loves me because I give off great vibes though. Cops come, but I was in the basement so I didn't have to go. Great night although I focused on having fun more than girls.

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 1ST

Played basketball. Talked to HB Otherartgirl about why she left early. She said for me to keep inviting her to parties- it's just that her friend had to go because she had auditions the next day. I am trying to be the guy who knows everybody and can link people up to where the parties are.

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 2ND

HB Lisa and HB Britishgirl both say hi to me on my way back from the gym. A girl in my dorm helped me tie-dye a shirt and she clearly likes me- but I am not attracted at all. Later on, I ask HB Artgirl for her number to be on "a party message list" and she gives me it. Girls want to do something on friday nights- they don't want to stay in their dorm rooms and do nothing, so here I am to save them from BOREDOM.

MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 3RD

Did another fantasy draft (everyone wants me in their fantasy draft because they all love me!) with friends Graham and Ben. Went out to eat with friend Nick and roommate George. I pay for a large fries to be generous. I love the college life.

 

[cococrispy]

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 4TH

Went over to my frat's grilling event, but the problem was the cops took the grill from the university and so we didn't even have an event. Talked to Ian and got his number. I was chilling in the lounge, and people were making fun of my farmer's tan. I never really noticed it until now- so now I am trying to not be insecure about it. Brought over Ian to the frat, and he seems really chill.

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 5TH

Go to classes with friends. Realized William is a douche. I say hi to him, he doesn't respond. Whenever girls are around he's always talkative. He acts totally different around the opposite sex. He's the only guy who doesn't seem to like me, while everyone else loves me. Added HB British to my party list. I have like 5 girls on my party list. The purpose is so that when I have events, I blast out a message for them to come. Frat brothers will like that I am bringing girls, and it will make me as well as the frat itself more popular. Not trying to get interest in girls for now- but just trying to have fun. Brought Graham over to the frat house to chill. I did realize that knowing people is all a numbers game- I blast messages out to a ton of people and usually a few will come.

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 6TH

On the way to class, I maintain full eye contact with HB Athlete (who is going in the other direction) and say hi and she says hi back. The oneitis isn't as bad now, but it seems like she has been aloof to me. We'll see, she can definitely bring a lot of girls to parties so she can help me out in the future if we are cool with each other. I just need to assume that everyone likes me like I've been doing, which besides William everyone LOVES me. Anyways, I team up with Nick and a kid named Stephan in statistics. Stephan really likes me and the three of us chill out afterwards. I get Stephan's number. I am trying to build up guy friends too because they can go to the frat with me, or I can invite them to frat parties if they are chill. Later in the day, I play football with a team Graham made up with a bunch of Mudge people. On one of the early plays in the game, we were 4th down and long. Graham blindly bombed it over a kid's head, and I dove and caught the ball, and everyone thought it was a great catch. We lost by mercy rule to a grad team, but I made a lot of friends. I am trying to expand my social circle as much as I can.

 

[AlexLefty]

For my whole life, I have lived with a very Christian mother. I went to an all-guys high school, and so it is finally the time I can see girls at COLLEGE!

My college has a reputation for being a top 25 college, so finding an average looking girl is like finding an oasis in a desert.

I used to be a very shy dude, but ever since taking the Dale Carnegie Public Speaking Course I have developed enough confidence for people to never think of me in the same way.

I call this journal "Following My Father's Legacy" because my dad had the time of his life at this college, and I want to do the same.

What are my attributes? I don’t give a $hit, I work out, I dress well, and I always try to have fun. What are my downfalls? Experience because I went to an all-guys school (huge one), Christian mother so I’m used to not taking risks, going over the line with my fun.

This journal is created for my personal growth, and to see the mistakes I have done and to see if I could improve them. I also need your help because I’m all alone on this.

I have been writing every day since I got here on August 19th. It is a great idea for me to have a journal so that I can keep track of what my life is like at college. I put this in the high school forum but feel free to move it.

I hate mothers...mothers are single handedly responsible for at least half of the in-confident looser fvcks in this world. Protecting their little boys and saving them from the world like they're doing a good thing! All they've done is cover their children in a blanket, closing their eyes from the outside world, and make them scared and naive about the real world. When boys finally do leave the home they're overwhelmed! They've had no experience with the real world and have no idea how to be a man! All because of their mother's "compassionate" love. Mothers have ruined men...

If i were you, i'd go straight to your mom and uppercut her in the damn chin!

 

[cococrispy]

I hate mothers...mothers are single handedly responsible for at least half of the in-confident looser fvcks in this world. Protecting their little boys and saving them from the world like they're doing a good thing! All they've done is cover their children in a blanket, closing their eyes from the outside world, and make them scared and naive about the real world. When boys finally do leave the home they're overwhelmed! They've had no experience with the real world and have no idea how to be a man! All because of their mother's "compassionate" love. Mothers have ruined men...

If i were you, i'd go straight to your mom and uppercut her in the damn chin!

I 100% agree man, it is devastating to be a son of a single mother. I could not imagine how much of a pu$$y I would be without my dad. I was rewarded for doing nothing, because then I won't "sin against God". My dad has worked a lot in my life, so it was like being raised by a single mother. I didn't take any risks, and I am now just getting experience in life. I am lucky I realized this now, because now I go my own direction. I used to be always worried about stupid $hit and was low self-esteem but I transformed myself. I don't get too much pissed at my mom because my parents ARE paying for my education which is really expensive- so for now I just play it as a closet agnostic.

(CONTINUED) THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 6TH

I talk to HB Lisa and get her number on the party list, and she was very enthusiastic about it. Her brother is also a senior in my fraternity, so I bet I will see her a lot. I like the party list idea- it is just a numbers game.

 

[cococrispy]

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 7TH

Sat next to Stephan during stats class. On the way to stats class getting high fives from people, makes me start the day great. Get Lizzy's number for the party list, and Siri (who doesn't smoke or drink because of her religion). The party list has grown to 7 girls which is great. I had a realization that I HATE when people have their headphones in, because they can't hear me and I can't talk to them. At one of my classes, HB Otherartgirl sits next to me. A really nerdy guy in the row of seats in front of her made me realize something- no wonder why girls are so aloof- at a top school these decent looking girls have to deal with being hit on CONSTANTLY. I'd probably have an attitude if fat girls constantly came up to talk to me about random ****. Went to a baseball game with a bunch of frat bros. Then, we go to a party by a former brother of the house. Win 3 consecutive games of pong and we were pumped. Getting respect. Met a few freshman at the party. Later on, when I walked back to my dorm at 3 AM, I saw the head of my dorm (I was not sober). I was worried for a second there, but he didn't really care. He likes me anyways.

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 8TH

Woke up at like 1 PM. Went to the bathroom, heard a guy jacking off. I had an epiphany- I could be like that dude and stay in the dorm and do nothing like most of the people in my dorm, or socialize and go to events and get out of the dorm. Later on, there was an event at my fraternity and I blasted out a text to 15 people. HB Otherartgirl told me she couldn't go (she had some college major thing- it was a valid excuse) and HBartgirl (she had the same thing) said the same. I went to the restaurant and saw Ian, HB Athlete, and a couple other people playing pool. I told Ian to come to the event and he said he might (but he didn't). I was sitting next to Stephan and met his friend Dimitri. They both like me a lot. I have no idea why HB Athlete doesn't even say hi to me, she initiated talking to me on facebook for like 6 months and then in real life she just doesn't conversate. Whatever, everyone likes me and it's not hard to tell that a lot of people know me and my social circle is just going to get bigger so I shouldn't give a **** anyways. I went to the event at the fraternity, and surprisingly 7 guys that I knew came. Had a good time.

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Am I doing anything wrong? Considering I have like no experience, I think I am doing pretty well so far. Tons of guys love me, everytime I head to class I high five like two people on the way there. I have been going to events and meeting more and more people. Everyone in my dorm knows who I am (which is surprising because it's such a big dorm). I think I have emerged as a leader by mass texting a bunch of people (guys AND girls) for every event along with leading them to go to the frat. I try to have the most fun that I can in almost any situation. The thing is- I shouldn't be expecting girls showing interest in me NOW, right? Will it come in time? Lack of experience hurts, but it would be nice for people to let me know what's up. I just read the college game guide, and I am pretty sure I have done ALL the things that he said on there.

 

[cococrispy]

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 9TH

Woke up at 1. Went to the frat at around 2 with Graham and Ben. We were watching the football games. After we went to the university cafe and talk about random ****. Ben talks about how he went to a concert nearby and made out with 7 girls in a row, haha. HB Otherartgirl walks next to me and says hi, good vibes. I then go to the frat for the sunday night football game. Still worried about lack of options with girls... It's still early.

MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 10TH

Went to stats class and sat with HB Volleyball, HB Russian (HB Volleyball's friend), Joe, Nick, and Siri. HB Russian gave me her number for the party list. Made a few funny jokes during class (it's a big lecture). Let HB Volleyball borrow my pen for class, and at the end I told her to give it back. She threw a horrible throw and I jumped and caught the pen, and everyone nearby was saying how good of a catch it was. Haha. Went to econ, high fived a few guys on the way there. On the way back, I get HB Lia on the party list and talk to a frat brother. Later on in the night, go to a hookah bar for the first time. Spilled one one of the hookahs and no one really cared, but I felt like a complete dumbass.

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 11TH

Go to cog psych class. Talk to Maria on the way, and her fat friend (let's call her Nikki and she knows me from orientation). Maria was going to some job interview and she was just out of it. When I went into class with the Nikki, Nikki was telling her friends that I am just too cool for her. Later on, go to a government class and sat next to a cute chick that I sat next to in stats the other day. I just made small talk, but it's still early. Pretty uneventful day.

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 12TH

Go to stats class and sit next to Stephan. Play dots and boxes with Stephan during class because it was pretty boring. Me, nick, stephan, HB Otherartgirl, HB Russian, and another kid all go to lunch. On the way out of lunch, HB Artgirl tells nick to **** off as a joke when we were passing by and I yell that wasn't nice and everyone laughs. Though everyone laughs at everything I say, because I am loud and spontaneous and don't really give a ****. I go to econ class and as I find a seat to sit down, a girl continuously stares at me for like 5 seconds. I was a bit confused, and then she asked me why I didn't sit with her. I told her I wanted her to be a loner as a joke. But, missed opportunity (even if she wasn't my type). Later on in the day, I buy candy from the snack machine by accident (I'm trying to eat healthy food only), and I gave them to HB Otherartgirl who was coming back from class. Her reaction was "THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!! I DIDN'T EXPECT YOU TO DO THAT!!!" It was just hilarious and random. Maybe I should be nice to girls once in awhile for contrast? I worked out, and when I came back I creeped behind Maria and yelled "BOO!!!" She told me that wasn't funny and I laugh. I go to a formal dinner with the frat. When I introduce myself before I even talk everyone laughs.

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 13TH

Wake up 10 minutes before class starts, and rush to class. Then I come back to shower. On the way back, Maria says hi to me enthusiastically (even though I pulled that douche move the day before). Then, I go to statistics lab and sit next to Stephan and Nick. On the way there, HB Athlete says hi to me. I think I should blame social incompetence instead of her not liking me. Walked around the city to the store after classes were done. When I came back, everyone was leaving to go out for dinner, and I joined them. We were talking about drama. Supposedly no one from the other guy's floor has gotten laid yet, and on my floor only one has with a girl who isn't of quality. JUST TO LET YOU KNOW: The school I'm in is one of the toughest in the country so it's tough to get an attractive girl. We talk about how William lost his respect and I've seen him completely drop off in popularity.

 

[eastcoast15]

Hey dude, just read everything.

I think you're doing everything right making friends with the right people and growing your social circle quickly. You've established yourself as a cool guy who people like. But the girls aren't coming yet.

What you have to do is start to focus on the girls you're actually interested in and the ones that are showing interest in you. Its great that you're spreading all these seeds but its kind of like a shotgun where its spread too thin. You need to start being a sniper and go for a specific girl because thats the way you're actually going to get laid. Having the reputation of a cool guy is going to make things much easier for you because you've generated value right off the start. But you still need actual GAME.

So keep doing what you're doing. But if a girl is giving you more signs than normal take note of it and start to make more moves.

Good luck dude, keep us posted

 

[cococrispy]

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 14TH

Sit next to Stephan during a class and his friends that he introduces me to. I can't really talk during lectures so it's tough to meet people. I go to one of my classes and HB Otherartgirl sits in the seat next to me. We have a good solid conversation. I picked up she has low self-esteem and hates her mom and tells me about her life. Later on in the day, I go to a party the frat house threw just for ourselves (because it was initiation). I was less than drunk. When I came back to the dorm lounge to talk to people, the guy in charge of the dorm kicked me out even though I was just chilling there.

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 15TH

The guy in charge of the dorm had a word with me. He told me that I'm getting the reputation of the guy who gets ****ed up all the time. Whatever, I like to have fun but I won't step over the line in doing anything really stupid. Besides, I don't want too much alcohol when I am talking to girls or else I would just look like an idiot if I'm too sloppy. I see a relative. About it.

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 16TH

I see my relative again, and go out to eat with him. Watch football games with my frat. When I come back to the dorm, I ask for help on one of my homeworks. HB Whitegirl helped me for like 20 minutes. After she helped me I told her I would give her a surprise (the people in lobby were joking that it would be rape). I brought her to my room, and gave her candy that my relative left for me. I overheard her saying to other people "That was so nice!" I thought I should reward good behavior. Ironically, she's the same one who told me I could never date any girls haha.

MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 17TH

Woke up 10 minutes before class and rushed to class. I sat next to nick and another girl. I told them both to play dots and boxes with me and they said no. Later went to eat lunch, and talked to Nick and HB Kitty (I haven't introduced you to her yet- she is really nice). It's so great how people love me so much her compared to high school. HB Kitty was telling me that I have the reputation of a fun guy. Did a ton of homework.

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 18TH

Go to one of my classes, and the funniest thing happens. We were put in groups of 7 people, and people nominated me to speak for the group. We had to say our thesis and 3 supporting points for an essay question on the board. We ran out of time, and the kid next to me completely BSed a thesis question right before it was our turn, but I still needed 3 supporting points. When it was our turn, I spoke the thesis and everyone laughed at my voice, and the professor said our thesis was so good we didn't need to say the 3 supporting points. Thank God. I played intramural football, and on one of the plays I collided against a defensive player and got a cut on my forehead. I play hard. I made a nice catch, and I heard the other team was having a hard time covering me.

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 19TH

Skipped a few classes today and had barely any sleep the night before because I was trying to figure one of my classes out. Went to one of my classes and teasing HB British. Later on in the day, I go to the frat and they were partying because it was as brother's birthday. When I go back at 2 in the morning, I see my pledge class friend with his friend and a girl named HB Eyeshadowgirl. They were all laughing at me for some reason, because they thought I was drunk or something (I was just really freaking tired to begin with). HB Eyeshadowgirl told me she remembered seeing me from the frat party on friday. She lives in my dorm, I never even seen her.

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 20TH

Did my homework 20 minutes before it was due. Lost my ID card, felt like a dumbass. Took a hard test I was studying for all night. Took a 2 hour nap. Went to one of my classes and the professor provided dinner for us all (which was really nice). As I head back I notice a bunch of girls sitting next to the lounge. They all ask me if I am "thunderthroat" and I say that I am. Later on I go into the lounge and chill out. A girl asked the RA on his opinion on sororities, and I said "I'll remember that one!" and one of the girls said, "You can remember the slutty sorority but not my name!?" Haha.

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 21ST

Go to one of my classes later on and HB British sits next to me. After, I go to another class and see another guy sits next to HB Otherartgirl (though she told me she wanted to sit next to me yesterday- I'm sure she was waiting for me and the guy sat down there). I talk to the guy. He complimented her a few times and said sorry to her a few times. When she asked for a pen I kept pulling back and teasing her as a joke, and the guy just gave her the pen. She told him he was a gentleman and I wasn't (haha). She asked me if there were any parties tonight, and there were no parties due to sorority recruitment. I get back to the dorm and go into the lounge. HB Flirtygirl (she's not my type) tried to huge me for some random reason while I was doing homework, and I'm like I don't do hugs (she seems to be flirty with a lot of guys). I went to the frat house to play pong, kinda sucked. A frat brother and HB Eyeshadowgirl were hitting it off well (he's a junior and she's a freshman). There were almost no girls there because it wasn't really a party. But I came to the realization that girls have a wider selection of guys at college, because a freshman girl can date a sophomore, junior, or senior. However, the opposite can't be true. Freshman guys pretty much can only date freshman girls.

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 22ND

Tired from last night. I see 2 girls outside of my friend Nick's room. He constantly has girls outside of his door. I love Nick and he's a charismatic guy so I can see it. He has a girlfriend back at home though. I was talking to those girls and Conor outside of his room, and they were telling me that I need to make better decisions with my time and to not have fun so much. Went out to buy supplies for my dorm room with my roommate. I heard there are like 3 parties, but I can't go because of homework that I fell behind on. I think that once parties start going on it will be easier for me to approach and talk to girls.

 

[cococrispy]

Hey dude, just read everything.

I think you're doing everything right making friends with the right people and growing your social circle quickly. You've established yourself as a cool guy who people like. But the girls aren't coming yet.

What you have to do is start to focus on the girls you're actually interested in and the ones that are showing interest in you. Its great that you're spreading all these seeds but its kind of like a shotgun where its spread too thin. You need to start being a sniper and go for a specific girl because thats the way you're actually going to get laid. Having the reputation of a cool guy is going to make things much easier for you because you've generated value right off the start. But you still need actual GAME.

So keep doing what you're doing. But if a girl is giving you more signs than normal take note of it and start to make more moves.

Good luck dude, keep us posted

I appreciate you reading everything. It seems like the only way I see the girls I kind of know is by passing them on the way to class (I knew them originally by talking to them on orientation). I go to a tough school where everyone has a ton of work constantly. However, I think the best way I can know girls is through parties. I can't do it through classes, because people don't talk during lectures (and they want to pay attention). I hang out in the lounge once in awhile, but girls rarely ever go there. Plus girls show their interest much more when they have alcohol.

Before the end of the month there should be a party at the frat house, can't wait till then. I like doing a journal because now I can track what I have done at college and the experiences I have had (and see my mistakes). It seems like I have experienced a lot and I am only one month into college. Back at home I had a pretty boring life (as my first post explains) and so it feels great.

 

[cococrispy]

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 23RD

Went to a formal meeting for frat. On the way there, I had 3 people tell me that I look good. Now I know how a hot chick feels every day, LOL. Some pretty hot girls all around the place doing the sorority recruitment. Passed HB British on the way back to my dorm room, and told her I am mad she didn’t invite me to her dinner (as a joke). She told me she totally forgot and she likes me (I am sure she just forgot). Went to the underground, sat with a few guys and HB British. I love to tease HB British because it’s just hilarious- I’m not interested in her but it’s just funny and she doesn’t get offended. Anytime I’m being too much of a tool, I act vulnerable by being dumb. She asked me to do her work in one of my classes and I’m like NOOO.

MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 24TH

Go to stats and sit next to Stephan and Nick. I get asked to go to Resnik for lunch, but I decline. Went to Econ, HB Whitegirl was excited I was sitting next to her. She laughs at everything I say. Went to another class, HB British sits next to me. Figured out by facebook stalking what girls are in which sororities. Maria is in the slutty sorority, haha. HB Athlete is in the same one a "little sister" of my frat is in. Talked to Conor about joining my frat, and I think he will.

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 25TH

What a ****ty day. Nothing happened. My biggest highlight was going back from class to my dorm and getting like 6 people to say hi to me in a row, haha. Later on at night I chill with Nick for stats homework. We go to Siri’s room and HB Kitty joins us along with the girl RA of one of the girl's floor. The RA talks about a guy who keeps constantly texting her. Girls amongst themselves talking about guy problems LOL. She said he looks cute but he just turns her off. Siri was talking about this one guy that is cool but really defensive about everything.

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 26TH

When I was going down to eat, HB Otherartgirl told me that I looked angry. Probably because I studied until 5 AM for econ. Tough test. Later on in the day I was chilling in the lounge and talking to people. HB Otherartgirl went in and asked if she could join us to eat, but she eventually didn't. Played intramural football. Interception return for a TD, got 2 other touchdowns, and 3 sacks. Dominated, and people were impressed. Love sports.

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 27TH

Got one of my tests back and sucked. I need to study more and study smart. I went to some weekly event at my dorm floor. Let me introduce you to HB Palegirl and HB Anna. They are both close friends who go to this event every week. HB Palegirl is really weird but very hot, haha. HB Anna keeps telling me that I am an *******, and everyone else is like "No he's awesome!" We were all talking about six packs for some reason, and HB Anna told me that I have no personality so I'm going to need one. Me, a friend, and HB Anna played poker till 3:30 in the morning. She told us that she doesn't come down to our floor because she is intimidated and would feel awkward.

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 28TH

Went to economics recitation. HB British sat next to me again. Talked to a dude that was friends with HB Kitty. Went to one of my classes with HB Otherartgirl and we talked. I’m sensing chemistry between me and her. She told me she has no friends and that she’s going back home for the weekend. I go to the frat house and we play pong. See a bunch of guys, including Ian at the end (who was all pumped up). When I went back to the dorm, me and a friend were going to get a snack from the snack machine at the dorm and there was a 7 foot tall dude. I asked him if he played basketball, and he played for the big D1 school next to us. I met him, and it turns out he starts for there, LOL. NOTES: I have like no shared interests with anyone yet everyone friends me. I talk to nick all the time and we are different from each other.

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 29TH

Nothing happened in the morning. Played pong at frat. Went to a house party (most of my frat friends went). HB Lia was leaning against to me, and I was holding her by her side feeling her up a little bit at a time (she clearly had alcohol). Got ****blocked by a girl who looks like a lesbian, she physically pulled her away from me, told me to stop touching so much, and that lesbian chick dragged her out of the party. DAMN IT! This was my first experience of being ****blocked! People are asking why I’m so good at pong even though I’m just a freshman. I went back to one of the dorms with my boys, and my friend dave came with us. He knows a ton of people which is awesome. When I went over to chill, people in that dorm were intrigued by me. They either told me to shut the **** up or keep talking (I’m quite entertaining haha). People who don’t like me speaking are not worth the effort anyways, because I always try to have as much fun as I can. Talk to a frat brother (George) about the whole ****block situation (I think he has game). He told me HB Lia must be into me, and I just need to act like myself, since everyone loves me already. It's going to happen I guess.

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I've definitely had a really fun time so far. But if you guys have any suggestions or feedback please give me some!

 

[cococrispy]

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 30TH

Nothing happened all day. Said hi to HB Lia briefly and she's like hey... and went upstairs (kind of awkward). Also had a frat meeting

MONDAY, OCTOBER 1ST

On the way back to class, HB Lia and I crossed paths. I'm acting like my normal self, giving off vibes that I usually do. She looked like she was in a hurry to class. I said that my frat is going to throw a party soon, and that we are looking for ideas, and if she has any to tell me. She told me she didn't have any ideas. I'm going to act like my normal self anyways, and act like that incident never happened in the first place. Went to the frat house.

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 2ND

Sit next to one of my orientation counselors, and she starts a twitter trend of #****bradsays (not exact name). They all miss orientation and love my sayings. I went to one of my classes and sit next to a girl that my friend told me about. The problem is, I can't talk to girls being during lecture because they pay too much attention to the professor. Parties is the best solution in my opinion.

WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 3RD

Went to statistics class, made a few funny comments and everyone around me was laughing. When I was exiting the building, I told him "I LOVE TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS!!!" and he's like "This isn't orientation" "MY NAME IS BRAD WHAT'S YOUR NAME!!!!" and we had a conversation of me yelling and it was just hilarious. Later on, I see that same dude in my dorm in my friend's room, so that was REALLY random. After dinner, I decided to chill at another dorm. At the dorm, a guy was trying to AMOG me (wtf?) by getting real close to my face and telling me how awesome he is. I just ignore it and look off to the side and seem disinterested. Went to play flag football, and I completely dominated.

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 4TH

I get a letter in the mail from a girl from one of the camps I went to who has a crush on me. I went to go get lunch, and I heard of a story of a dude ****ing a girl in the woods, pretending to be wolves. Back at the dorm later on, HB Eyeshadowgirl comes and sits across from us and we all talk. People ask me why I have a black eye, and it's because of intramural football. Anyways, HB Eyeshadowgirl is an international student from Slovenia. George (my roommate) comes in and talks about school stuff with her. I do NOT talk about school with girls, because it's what every guy does and it is boring.

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 5TH

HB British sat next to me in economics. HB Otherartgirl did not sit next to me in the next class, and I asked her if any parties were going on, and she said she has no friends so she has no idea. When I went out to eat with a few friends, I saw HB Otherartgirl, pointed at the chair next to me (to make her sit down) but she just seemed confused. My friends said it was a **** move but everyone laughs when I do anything anyways. At night, I go to the frat house to play pong. When I go outside to chill, I see a chubby girl I know from my dorm with a couple guys. One guy said that he remembered talking to me in one of my classes, cool. There are two really nerdy guys who haven't gone to a party yet that follow me because they haven't gone to a party yet. I feel negative energy around them. I try to leave for a party that HB British told me about that her and her sorority friends are going to. Me and several friends all go leave. On the way, HB Lia was crossing paths and she yelled "There's brad!!" Perfect, because I didn't know if she was cool with me ever since that incident. We go to the house, party is over. When we get there, one of the frat brother's ex gf (who knows me) pops out of the house and yells "Brad!! Do you even remember my name???" and she starts crying for no reason. For the purpose of my frat brother, I stood right in front of her, blocking any view of him for awkwardness. I told her to go home, and we all left.

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 6TH

Nothing... Saw HB Palegirl sitting in the hallway. A black dude had his arm over her shoulder. I had to get water, and then when I came back and said her name, she said hi and smiled. She asked me what was in my water pitcher, I replied vodka. I feel like I have the power to ****block if I so want to (because I can capture people's attention), but it just seems like a douche move to ****block in general.

 

[cococrispy]

SUNDAY, October 7TH

Told HB Otherartgirl my plan of mixing 3 energy drinks in one as a joke when I was passing by her in the hallway. She always tries to get my attention when I am walking somewhere. I went to a statistics review. I did homework, essay, and stayed up till 6 AM making a study guide for the test the next day.

MONDAY, October 8TH

Sat next to an attractive girl for a test. Made a joke and she was really serious about it. People who take things seriously don't mesh well with me. Anyways, while I was doing the test I felt ****ty. When she left, I began to finally do better. HYPOTHESIS: When I sit next to an attractive girl I become dumber! On my way back from passing homework in, I run into the guy who gave me the black eye in intramural football. We had a really cool conversation- he is from the biggest party frat (only football players are allowed to join). He told me I was really good at football. Chill. HB Anna knocks on my door and asks me if I had a wish, what I would wish for (some assignment she had). I told her to "get a brain", and she laughed and I slammed the door. However, an hour later I ran into her again, and she agreed to be put in the party list. Later on in the night, I came back from the frat house under the influence, and a girl asked me if I think she's pretty, and I told her I like her just the way she is, and I left to go back to my dorm.

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 9TH

I was going to get a snack from the hallway, and HB Otherartgirl said hi to me and I supposedly ignored her. She told me I was a complete **** because I ignored her but I simply didn't remember. She told me to apologize, and I told her I don't like to apologize. Of course, it is all a playful attitude. The gay guy sitting next to her was giving me sass. I definitely think HB Otherartgirl has a thing for me. She told me I could touch her boobs if I said some kind of movie quote, and I refused.

WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 10TH

Saw HB British with a friend, and they said they can't go to the party on Saturday because they are going to a birthday party. I told her to tell her friends still. I went to shop with my frat bros for party decorations. After, I cam back to my dorm, and talked to people. William doesn't seem like an ******* anymore (from my dorm). We were all talking about how no one is getting laid. And that the ugliest girl in our dorm (and trust me, we have an ugly school) asked William to have sex with her for an air conditioner. Also, everyone was talking about how no one had friends in middle school, haha.

THURSDAY, OCTOBER 11TH

When I came back to my dorm, I saw the friend who held the door open for me that one day. I led him over to the frat house. He seems like a chill guy. Supposedly a lot of guys are down to going to the party on Saturday- and I told them to bring girls. At night, I chill in the lounge with people. Every joke I say HB Whitegirl laughs to- but I would never want to get with her because she is prude and not my type. Also, HB Anna seems to like me more- it seems like girls become more comfortable with me one they know me more over time.

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 12TH

Fire drill occured during class. We all went outside, and talked to Stephen and a few friends. Everyone seems thrilled about the party on Saturday. My roommate keeps complaining about his schoolwork. Anyways, a few girls tell me to go on the 5th floor to ask for econ notes that I missed. I haven't done that much because I feel like it would be creepy for me to go on the 5th floor because it's all girls. When I went up there, HB Lia was with a few of her friends, and she was all happy to see me. She told me that she knows that I came up there to ask about party themes (which wasn't why I came up there- it was to get a girl's econ notes). I told her it's a space themed party and to bring her friends.

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 13TH

Me and my roommate George went to the nearby all-girls college that is about 20 minutes walking distance away and pretended like we needed pictures of each dorm for a brother's blackbook. There was no one there- but one girl who plays hockey. We had a conversation and got her number, and she texted all her friends about the party. The whole idea of us to go here was to get all-girls school girls, because they are desperate for guys. Anyways, the party was during the night. When we all went to pre-game, I went to HB Eyeshadowgirl and told her I would hug her, and I didn't. I sat on the couch instead, and she sat next to me and kept asking me why I wouldn't hug her and got in my face. Later in the party, HB Eyeshadowgirl and dave (who are both friends) went to the backdoor exit and argued with each other. I believe it is because a brother hooked up with HB Eyeshadowgirl in his room, and when she came back down, dave's friend kept trying to make out with her and she kept rejecting him. The brother was going to dance with her, but the friend kept on ****blocking him. He didn't give a **** because he already ****ed her anyways. SO, I was chilling on the couch, and HB Eyeshadowgirl comes over and sits right next to me and leans completely into me. I'm just acting chill, and she's desperately trying to get my attention. We were talking about how we both give 0 ****s about everything, LOL. She told me that I was really good looking. I think I could have banged her if I wanted to, but that would have been really awkward (because she is friends with dave and his friend, and she already ****ed a brother that night). When dave came over next to me and HB Eyeshadowgirl (idk if he was trying to ****block) when she was leaning against me, I left the couch and she got mad that I was leaving them both together, haha (because they argued like an hour ago).

One of the brother's sisters from another college is cute but she was talking to EVERY SINGLE GUY (even if they were ugly). Eventually, she iniates to one of my close friends, and she spills beer on me. I pretend to get really mad and she keeps trying to apologize, and asks for me to dance, but I decline because that would have been awkward (because it's a brother's sister and she's been talking to EVERY SINGLE GUY!).

Then, my friends Graham and Ben come over with two girls (one hot, one cute). They were all intrigued by me, as they have heard of me and my nickname of "THUNDERTHROAT". But, again, I don't want to pursue any of these chicks because Graham and Ben are two of my closest friends. Also, I saw a kind of awkward guy hitting on the hot one, and she rejected him (I think he was kissing up to her). Ben brought them both back to the dorm early though, and I don't want to ****block my own friend (since now I know how it feels to be ****blocked because of Saturday, September 29th)! I didn't get any action again, but I make parties fun because of my voice. Still... biggest problem with the party was that there wasn't enough people, and every girl I invited on my phone (11) did not show up. I don't know why they didn't show up? A lot of mid-terms next week?

Also, I talked to a grad student former alum who gave me life advice for my major. Even though that was like 20 minutes or half an hour, academics is still most important. He told me that I am a confident guy and that I should go into marketing and sales. Conversation was good.

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 14TH

My roommate and I agree that the party could have definitely been better. The brothers said it was a great party, but I think it was only mediocre. People show up for 5 minutes and then leave. Talked to two girls that didn’t show up. HB Anna told me that she was following guys to a different frat party. And HB Otherartgirl told me she had to see her family or something. Big week academically coming up…

I don't know why I feel repulsed by girls who are sluts. Maybe it's because I had a Christian mother growing up so I have been "programmed" to repel girls like that? I feel like girls should like me for my personality rather than just because I have a **** or what I look like, because that separates me from other dudes. I’m curious still whether HB Lia has a thing for me, because I don’t talk to her much anymore unless we cross paths but that one night she was drunk she was all over me. But, unlike HB Eyeshadowgirl, I know her better because of orientation when we talked a lot and I haven’t heard or seen her being crazy with dudes.

 

[cococrispy]

I'm probably going to stop this journal on sosuave, because I am not getting input from people.
I am going to continue my journal on my computer instead. If any crazy **** happens I might update this again.

 

[DanZy]

You're not getting input because this journal is so damn boring. Also you haven't asked any questions etc.

 

[cococrispy]

You're not getting input because this journal is so damn boring. Also you haven't asked any questions etc.

I go to one of the toughest colleges in america. People literally stay in their dorms all day, and there has been absolutely no drama. There really isn't anything exciting going on that I can write about.

I thought this journal would be a good idea at first, but now I know college life isn't as exciting as it is made out to be at my college specifically. I have tried the best I can to make as much fun as I can, but I can only do so much.

I am frustrated that I have few options, but so does every other guy here. Girls here generally are unable to make conversations going (I hate doing 100% of the work). It's hard to meet girls too unless at parties on the weekends.

That doesn't mean I'm going to stop trying though- every day I try to meet new people.

 

[eastcoast15]

I go to one of the toughest colleges in america. People literally stay in their dorms all day, and there has been absolutely no drama. There really isn't anything exciting going on that I can write about.

I thought this journal would be a good idea at first, but now I know college life isn't as exciting as it is made out to be at my college specifically. I have tried the best I can to make as much fun as I can, but I can only do so much.

I am frustrated that I have few options, but so does every other guy here. Girls here generally are unable to make conversations going (I hate doing 100% of the work). It's hard to meet girls too unless at parties on the weekends.

That doesn't mean I'm going to stop trying though- every day I try to meet new people.

Dude these excuses are all bull****.

My school is the worst........ Probably not true

The girls dont hook up............ Bull****. Get better game. These are college girls.

Everyone stays in their dorms..... Then get them out. Do exciting **** that people would want to do.

The girls dont know how to talk.... This is just a blantant excuse for you to put off any responsibility of the fact that it might BE YOU.

College life isnt exciting.... Then you aren't making the most of it. Its not going to be spoon fed to you. Find people who are doing exciting ****.


People make up all these excuses all the time. But the reality is its not true. ****ing make things happen. If you allow yourself to think this way then thats the way things are going to be.

These things are all on you. No one else.

You are acting like a boy. Be a man. Take some responsibility and make it happen.

Sorry for the tough love but its what you need.