Following girls on social media

[Lostsoul19]

I struggle with this even though I am a college student. I am pretty good when gaming and flirting with girls in person but it just feels off when done online so I largely avoid it.

But the semester is coming to an end now and I will be out of touch with all the girls on the campus. There are a few girls who I would like to talk to and date but I have only exchanged smiles and greetings with them. So is it okay to follow them on instagram? Does it come across as creepy? Does it put me in a lower position of power?

 

[2Rocky]

I think in college it is certainly more expected to be connected in IG. I think my barometer is if she responds to your message, then follow.

It's kind of an orbiter move...use with caution. Like if she follows you and you follow her back...

 

[logicallefty]

Agree with both replies above. Message but don’t follow. Not right away at least. Following her is feeding her attention addiction. She needs to give you something that starts with S and ends with X before she gets the privilege of your attention.

 

[Lostsoul19]

Agree with both replies above. Message but don’t follow. Not right away at least. Following her is feeding her attention addiction. She needs to give you something that starts with S and ends with X before she gets the privilege of your attention.

Should I text message, as I have her number or a text on IG? And after she replies, then maybe follow her on instagram to see if she follows back.

 

[SW15]

Depending on the platform, you can't message someone without a follow.

You'll probably need to follow for a time but unfollow if the interaction fails. Don't remain a follower unless there's an active interaction. Without an active interaction, you're some beta orbiter to her. Don't be a beta orbiter.

You're better off getting phone numbers and texting rather than playing the whole social media game.

 

[Lostsoul19]

Depending on the platform, you can't message someone without a follow.

You'll probably need to follow for a time but unfollow if the interaction fails. Don't remain a follower unless there's an active interaction. Without an active interaction, you're some beta orbiter to her. Don't be a beta orbiter.

You're better off getting phone numbers and texting rather than playing the whole social media game.

There's actually a girl who I like. I have her number as well and I have found her on instagram. So should i just text her first and then follow her on instagram or something like that? We both are in the same class but I have barely talked to her.

 

[thermodynamic]

There's actually a girl who I like. I have her number as well and I have found her on instagram. So should i just text her first and then follow her on instagram or something like that? We both are in the same class but I have barely talked to her.

Okay I will make this simple. Just get ONE way to contact her - instagram , phone number etc. Don't add her on more sh*t until you are ****ing her. Even then wait until you are sufficiently close with her that this makes sense. Personally, I don't mind doing instagram or snapchat over phone number. They get to see all the cool stuff on my IG and also gives them the chance to validate me with likes, etc. DONT add her on IG yet! Just use her number to get in touch when the time comes.