"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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Nof

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Hey guys I need some help with a little situation.

So I'm a substitute on a school and last week I meet a new coworker. She is 20 and I'll be it next month, just so you guys know what the age "difference" is.

She looks great so and as one would expect we started to have a little chat. The thing is though that it is she who always seem to start the conversations which of course is great because it just shows that I've displayed some nice value. We met at work 4 times last week. Friday morning she comes up to me and says that she tried a search for me on facebook, but that she couldn't find me. I explain to her that I don't have facebook and why I don't have. I also tell her that I only use MSN, I cut the thread and we start talking about something else. Just as she is about to leave that same day she asks me if she could have my MSN to which I say reply "sure no problem". My thought at the time was "awesome, she is actually asking me for my MSN not the other way round".

Had a busy weekend so never talked to her till Monday (yesterday) where we had a nice chat on MSN (at least I thought that we had), and she talked about how she hoped to see me at work soon (it's a part-time job where they call us in the morning if any of the teachers have a sick day).

Unfortunately there wasn't any work for us today. I log onto my PC and write to her about what a dumper it is that they haven't called any of us. We chat for awhile and she asks what I've planned for the rest of the day. I said that I had to work at 16:00 and I ask if she had something in mind since she asked, to which she replied "just wanted some inspiration". I then ask what she's got planned; "I think I'll go to the gym at 15.30" - we then start talking about fitness and stuff like that and I say that I actually would like to try out the towns' new gym (at which she works out) and it would be cool if we could go there together. She liked the idea but she said that she might not to able to make if I had to leave at 16 for work. I say ok, just let me know. So no answer till 15 where I write to her that I would be off, to which she replied "I'll be there in 30 min.". At 15.45 I leave the gym and never saw her there :(

Now I'm back here at my PC, been sitting here for 2 hours now and she has been online all the time. She haven't apologized for her bad timing. I want to start a conversation but I keep talking myself that this isn't really a bad deal.

What should I do? Let she start a conversation or should I (if yes, how? A little neg like "So did your clock stop working?"?). I really want to know her better, she seems like a pretty cool girl and she seems really smart.

Sorry for any bad language, I'm not English as you might be able to read ;)
 

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Hey

I don't date coworker, I guess I should say that first.

In your case though, it looks like she's looking for a friend. You said she's new right? She might not know anyone there yet. Still, just by respect of yourself, you should tell her that you were expecting her to be there. Don't let anyone flake on you without saying something about it.

Later,
 

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Splendidostring said:
I don't date coworker, I guess I should say that first.

In your case though, it looks like she's looking for a friend. You said she's new right? She might not know anyone there yet. Still, just by respect of yourself, you should tell her that you were expecting her to be there. Don't let anyone flake on you without saying something about it.

Later,
Well, she isn't really a coworker, we just got lucky that so many had sick days.

She just wrote as I post this.:rockon:
 
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