I’ve written a few posts about this particular girl, trying to figure out where I stand with her. I mentioned before how she had flaked out on me a week ago and how I had stopped calling her. She eventually called me and we hung out again last night. (She didn’t flake–-if she would have flaked again, that would have been the last straw). Any way, the last time we had hung out, before last night, she had really wanted to f*** , giving me every sign imaginable, but I wasn’t feeling it and didn’t follow through. After this, for about two weeks, I didn’t see this girl at all and thought I had really blown my chances because I hadn’t screwed this girl when I had the chance and when she wanted it. Well, last night, I was prepared to screw her brains out, but it didn’t go as planned. I need to hear your guys honest opinion on the situation (field report) I am about to describe. I DON’T THINK I’m in the friends zone here and I want to make sure I stay out of it. After reading the following field report, let me know where you think I stand. I’m not sure if I did anything wrong, but if you think I did, I would be glad to hear your advice. I think I’ve been improving with the ladies lately, but I’m also definitely at a certain learning stage right now as well Also, just a little back ground: this girl is 18 and I’m 24 and this was our fourth “date” (get together). I’m not sure this will factor in to the scenario, but might be helpful...
FIELD REPORT:
I left with this girl for the night after meeting her on campus and meeting a few of her friends. She seemed happy to see me and we started walking back to her dorm. She hinted at the fact we should go to my house by mentioning how we had hung out a bunch of times and she had never seen my house. We go back to my house and I show her around. I try and teach her some guitar chords and we kiss for the first time of the night. She gets a call from a friend and I’m annoyed, but she gets off, saying she is with someone at the moment. We end up watching a movie and laying on my bed. We cuddle and kiss for over an hour. She puts her hand down the back of my pants and is rubbing my a**. She remarks on how soft my skin is and says my hands are soft as well. As we are kissing, I am rubbing my hands all over her legs and near her crotch–- she keeps kissing me, and has her hand kind of laying on my crotch, but nothing more. She pulls up my shirt and rubs my stomach and says she likes it. While rubbing, she kind of starts moving her hand farther down my stomach just below the waist line of my pants, but goes no further. I slap her a** a few times and we keep kissing but still nothing more physical happens. She says she’s hungry and we order food.
I can’t tell why she’s not going further with me. Over the course of the night, she has mentioned how she is pretty faded from earlier in the night, hasn’t slept for more than two hours over the past two days because of school, and is hungry, (and I know she had just got off work).
She gets a call on her cell phone, AGAIN, and she answers it, AGAIN, and it’s some guy who had avoided meeting me earlier in the evening when I had met her other friends. This guys seems like he likes this girl I’m seeing and had obviously not been happy when I showed up and left with her. She talks for a while and it sounds like he is trying to get her to go and hang out with him, but she says she is with me and were far away. It even sounds like he trying to come over and hang out at my house– (yeah right)! From what I recall, the girl I’m with was supposed to possibly meet up with her crew of friends (including this guy) later on in the night, or at least call them. She says she will see him tomorrow when her whole group of friends get together to go to the football game at the university. As she is talking to him on the phone, we are hugging each other. I know this guy REALLY wants this girl but she has mentioned before that this guy is her just her friend. I don’t know why she had to answer her phone, but maybe she felt obligated because she had told her friends earlier in the evening that she would maybe meet up with them again later.
We kiss more and I get/keep her laughing and we are waiting for the food we ordered to arrive. We smoke outside and she tells me she tell me she is having a good time.
Upstairs, still waiting for food, I give her a massage. She is moaning and loving it. I also give her an a** massage and she loves that too.
We eat and then decide to sleep at my house and I’ll drive her home in the morning. We kiss more and fall asleep. A few times during the night we either spoon or she rolls over and grabs my hand. Also, a couple of times during the night she spontaneously turns over and grabs my face and smiles and we kiss. This is very nice and I love this stuff, BUT I really wanted to get more physical with her.
I drive her home in the morning. She thanks me for hanging out and we kiss twice before she gets out of the car. Just as she is finally getting out, she quickly turns back and kisses me again. END FIELD REPORT
I can’t tell if this girl just wasn’t in the mood to f*** last night, was tired, or if I wasn’t being aggressive enough, or what. I don’t think she would treat a “friend” the way she was treating me last night, but this was our forth date and I really measure true success by sexual contact. I know you guys aren’t psychic, but based on what I’ve written, what do you think is going on?
FIELD REPORT:
I left with this girl for the night after meeting her on campus and meeting a few of her friends. She seemed happy to see me and we started walking back to her dorm. She hinted at the fact we should go to my house by mentioning how we had hung out a bunch of times and she had never seen my house. We go back to my house and I show her around. I try and teach her some guitar chords and we kiss for the first time of the night. She gets a call from a friend and I’m annoyed, but she gets off, saying she is with someone at the moment. We end up watching a movie and laying on my bed. We cuddle and kiss for over an hour. She puts her hand down the back of my pants and is rubbing my a**. She remarks on how soft my skin is and says my hands are soft as well. As we are kissing, I am rubbing my hands all over her legs and near her crotch–- she keeps kissing me, and has her hand kind of laying on my crotch, but nothing more. She pulls up my shirt and rubs my stomach and says she likes it. While rubbing, she kind of starts moving her hand farther down my stomach just below the waist line of my pants, but goes no further. I slap her a** a few times and we keep kissing but still nothing more physical happens. She says she’s hungry and we order food.
I can’t tell why she’s not going further with me. Over the course of the night, she has mentioned how she is pretty faded from earlier in the night, hasn’t slept for more than two hours over the past two days because of school, and is hungry, (and I know she had just got off work).
She gets a call on her cell phone, AGAIN, and she answers it, AGAIN, and it’s some guy who had avoided meeting me earlier in the evening when I had met her other friends. This guys seems like he likes this girl I’m seeing and had obviously not been happy when I showed up and left with her. She talks for a while and it sounds like he is trying to get her to go and hang out with him, but she says she is with me and were far away. It even sounds like he trying to come over and hang out at my house– (yeah right)! From what I recall, the girl I’m with was supposed to possibly meet up with her crew of friends (including this guy) later on in the night, or at least call them. She says she will see him tomorrow when her whole group of friends get together to go to the football game at the university. As she is talking to him on the phone, we are hugging each other. I know this guy REALLY wants this girl but she has mentioned before that this guy is her just her friend. I don’t know why she had to answer her phone, but maybe she felt obligated because she had told her friends earlier in the evening that she would maybe meet up with them again later.
We kiss more and I get/keep her laughing and we are waiting for the food we ordered to arrive. We smoke outside and she tells me she tell me she is having a good time.
Upstairs, still waiting for food, I give her a massage. She is moaning and loving it. I also give her an a** massage and she loves that too.
We eat and then decide to sleep at my house and I’ll drive her home in the morning. We kiss more and fall asleep. A few times during the night we either spoon or she rolls over and grabs my hand. Also, a couple of times during the night she spontaneously turns over and grabs my face and smiles and we kiss. This is very nice and I love this stuff, BUT I really wanted to get more physical with her.
I drive her home in the morning. She thanks me for hanging out and we kiss twice before she gets out of the car. Just as she is finally getting out, she quickly turns back and kisses me again. END FIELD REPORT
I can’t tell if this girl just wasn’t in the mood to f*** last night, was tired, or if I wasn’t being aggressive enough, or what. I don’t think she would treat a “friend” the way she was treating me last night, but this was our forth date and I really measure true success by sexual contact. I know you guys aren’t psychic, but based on what I’ve written, what do you think is going on?
