Follow Up of the Thread, Mixed Signals

[noisy_cricket]

During my first week of college, I realize that I am a real AFC. I was wondering whether this is a common trait of 18-19 year olds.

Do girls that have been completely wierded out by lack of charm associate that with the character of the guy that flirted with her?

Why don't girls just come straight forward and tell you what they are feeling instead of allowing you to humiliate yourself?

consult the thread, Mixed Signals, for details.

Feedback would be greatly appreciated. Some advice would be nice as well.

Thanks.

 

[libre]

Hello young man

Make advances to the girls that you are interested in. Don't worry, you are sure to be rejected sometimes, but you just shrug it off. First of all, practive makes perfect and it sure will work out eventually.

Don't let the rejections bruise your ego. Just accept them has a character building experience. Once you have been rejected a few times, you will realise that you can outlive a rejection. In your mind you will just eventually go :"Ah, well; next."

Also, learn that the girls that you think are out of your league could quite possible be very happy to be your girlfriend. You can't know until you make your move and advances to them.

Women like confident guys. If you go for them, they will deduct that you are confident. If you are not confident, eventually it will build in you if you are consistent.

Sports are great for building self confidence. In sports you learn to lose and accept it and move on, but you also build on your confidence by winning.

I read your mixed signals post. I agree with the other guys. You did quite a few mistakes. That experience doesn't matter; live and learn. As a example, your putting your head in her lap! Sheesh! That's like a dog who puts it's head in his masters lap so that it can be petted!

DO NOT PUT YOURSELF IN A SUBSERVIENT ROLE WITH A WOMAN. YOU WILL TURN HER OFF! Also, you will be giving her all the power in the relationship.

When you frequent a woman, strive for a equal relationship. Here on this site you will get advice to get and keep the upper hand in the power relationship. That is ok I guess, but I personnaly think that you must mostly assure yourself an equal partnership. You must attain equal power in the relationship for it to be successfull for a good amount of time.

Have a good life young man.

 

[joekerr31]

most guys are raised to be AFCs.

our fathers never taught us to be dominent, because, most of our fathers are AFCs.

being insecure and unconfident are normal things. unless you look like brad pitt and women have been falling over you since the ninth grade, odds are you are starting from an AFC position.

in fact, its arguable that its normal to be an AFC given that most men don't have tons of women asking them but rather must do the pursuing. leading to the internal dialogue of 'how come women dont ask me out. maybe they dont like me' leading to self doubt and the AFC syndrome.

so don't beat yourself up. learn to respect yourself and know that your a good guy regardless of what women think. once you develop respect for yourself, then youll be the one saying 'naw, that woman aint for me, id rather pursue this other one'

confidence is nothing more than respecting yourself regardless of what others thing.

and the reason women FLOCK to that is because women, generally speaking, don't respect themselves. and when they see a guy who doesnt respect himself, they figure he's a shallow superficial person like themselves.

its wierd, but becasue they loath their own lack of character, they then loath it in a man as well.

trust me man, learn to respect yourself and the world can be yours.

J